Category Archives: Addiction

How Dependent Should I Be On Other People?

ChatGPT says: Our happiness is heavily dependent on other people, places, and things—more than most self-help rhetoric admits. Human beings evolved as social primates whose nervous systems are tuned for connection, belonging, and status within a tribe. That means other … Continue reading

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Going Up

When I’m losing at life, I feel weak and my body radiates my reality. I slump, I retreat, and I lack energy. When I’m thriving in life, I feel strong and I flow up and I get more social and … Continue reading

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Critiquing Emotional Sobriety

Author Allen Berger is right in the core of his teachings on emotional sobriety, but loose at the rhetorical edges, where the language of self-authorship flatters a buffered ego. Berger says at the 33:20 mark: “It’s a powerful moment when … Continue reading

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How do Nathaniel Branden’s teachings about self-esteem map on to the buffered identity?

ChatGPT says: Nathaniel Branden’s work on self-esteem and Charles Taylor’s notion of the buffered identity can be mapped together in interesting ways—they both deal with how modern selves structure their experience of the world, but from different angles. 1. Branden’s … Continue reading

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Chief of Staff Susie Wiles, as the daughter of alcoholic Pat Summerall, understands what you can and cannot control. (57)

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The Principles

“We apply these principles in all of our affairs.” That’s from the Big Book of AA. What are the principles of 12-step living that can be applied throughout your life? Grok says: The quote “We apply these principles in all … Continue reading

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I’m Too Angry

I tend to be highly impatient. About 90% of the time I lose my temper, it does not serve me. How do I become appropriately patient without using more willpower. I don’t want willpower as the answer because that resource … Continue reading

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The Value Of Tracking

A key part of recovery in 12-step programs such as Underearners Anonymous, Debtors Anonymous and various 12-step food programs is tracking. You track how you spend your time, how you earn and spend, and what you eat and when. Any … Continue reading

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The relationship between shame & rage (3-6-25)

Google AI: Shame and rage are often interconnected, with many people experiencing intense anger as a defense mechanism against feelings of shame, essentially using rage to mask or deflect the painful experience of feeling inadequate or worthless; this can create … Continue reading

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How Should The United States Promote Democracy?

I think there’s an insight from AA that would be useful in American democracy advocacy — rely on attraction not promotion. I’ve been watching a bunch of journalists and Middle East experts proclaim that America has vital interests in Syria, … Continue reading

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