Category Archives: Addiction

Stepping Back Into Church

I’m a preacher’s kid. I grew up in Seventh-Day Adventist churches. Then I left all that at age 18 and became an atheist for a few years and then converted to Orthodox Judaism. For the past four years, I’ve been … Continue reading

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Our Life Scripts

Therapist Rinda Hall says: “We recreate our deepest childhood wounds in our relationships. Our life scripts have set the scene. Unconsciously, we employ other people to recreate the pain we suffered growing up. If you were abandoned, you set the … Continue reading

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The Fear Inventory

Here are my notes and musings from Tuesday night’s Fourth Step workshop with HerbK: Resentment is the biological survival instinct of anger. Fear is the biological survival instinct of survival. Dishonesty is the biological survival instinct of freezing and hiding. … Continue reading

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A 12-Step Review From An Orthodox Jew

I took a normie to a 12-step workshop last night. He later messaged me: “So here’s my review of the meeting. I likened it to going to shul. We had the silent prayer (Amidah), followed by announcements (too lengthy), about … Continue reading

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The First Step Is The Hardest

The following are the original twelve steps as published by Alcoholics Anonymous: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Made a … Continue reading

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You Can Often Sense Somebody’s Recovery Level By Their Body Language

For more than four years, I have been going to 12-step rooms for my various emotional addictions. I’ve noticed that you can usually tell where someone is in his recovery by his body language. Those in the throes of addiction … Continue reading

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The Set Aside Prayer As A Fast Track To Resetting Yourself

The fastest way I know to reset my physiology is to let go of all of my beliefs for a few seconds. When I do that (often by picturing myself as a cheetah on the savannah looking for prey), I … Continue reading

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Reworking The Twelve Steps

My previous efforts. Step One. Admit that I am powerless over my addictions. I am powerless over my desires for attention, nurturing, beauty, and power. I am powerless over my debting and under-earning and under-achieving and under-being. I am powerless … Continue reading

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A Jew In Inglewood

Amy Dresner writes: My first night in Inglewood, I hugged a crackhead. Let me explain. I headed to 7-11 for a late-night snack snoop because I have no curfew now and can do whatever the fuck I want whenever I … Continue reading

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Men Who Fear Women

Camille Paglia says: We are formed by all kinds of strange or vague memories from childhood. That kind of understanding is needed to see that Cosby was involved in a symbiotic, push-pull thing with his wife, where he went out … Continue reading

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