Category Archives: Dating

I Love It When A Chick Makes The First Move

I’m an anxious insecure personality. The outside world is a scary place and at social events, I’m often dying to get away. And then a tall black chick walks up to me with kinky hair and gleaming teeth and she … Continue reading

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I Met This Girl

In 2001, I met this Latina Jewish girl at a succah party. After some talking, I walked her to her car and made out with her. We made plans to meet the next day, a chag (holy day), for lunch … Continue reading

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‘What Are You Doing Here?’

Wednesday night. Gotta change things up in my life. I’ve paid the $5, now I’m going to take the 30s-40s ride. Match.com is throwing an event at 8029 Sunset Blvd and I’m going. Yes, I know BINA LA has an … Continue reading

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Keeping Intimacy At Bay

From Amir Levine’s book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love: The emotionally avoidant use these de-activating strategies (any behavior to squelch intimacy) to keep their partners at arm’s length … Continue reading

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The Secure Are The Salt Of The Earth

From Amir Levine’s book ATTACHED: The secure pick up emotional cues without getting emotionally reactive like the anxiously attached. Nor are they closed off like avoidants. They’re consistently the happiest people around, have the best relationships, and make those around … Continue reading

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Secure, Anxious & Avoidant Styles Of Attachment

I overheard one unmarried woman give another unmarried woman dating advice: “Don’t text him back. Just ignore him for a few days. That always works.” I butted in: “That always works if you want to be with someone who’s emotionally … Continue reading

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My Adventures On Match.com

I had no intention of shelling out any money. I just signed up for free so I could go to an event, but then after I put my profile and photo online, various women clicked that they liked my photo … Continue reading

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What Happened To Her Relationship Status On FB?

I’ve wasted a lot of time in therapy talking about my hopes for various women simply based on the fact that they removed their relationship status from Facebook and I hoped that meant they were ready for me to swoop … Continue reading

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‘We Can’t Take This’

The other day, I ran into a woman I went out with once. We were friends for years. It’s been about a decade since I saw her last. And as I walked away, I was thinking, I hope I had … Continue reading

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‘This Is How You Write About Someone You Love?’

In 1998, I met a woman at synagogue. We started talking. I found her attractive, smart and accomplished. She had a PhD. She’d dated this rabbi I admired. I started going out with this woman. After a few dates, I … Continue reading

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