316: A Hero System Reading of Tim Tebow

The public relations man finds him in the tunnel. Denver has just beaten Pittsburgh in overtime, January 8, 2012, the fastest sudden-death finish the league has on record, an eighty-yard throw to Demaryius Thomas (1987–2021) on the first snap. Tim Tebow (b. 1987) walks toward the cameras still carrying the high of the win. Patrick stops him. Do you know what happened, he asks. Tebow thinks he does. They beat the Steelers. They play New England next. No, Patrick says. Three years ago tonight you wore John 3:16 under your eyes. Tonight you threw for 316 yards. Your yards per completion came to 31.6. The television rating peaked at 31.6. Time of possession ran 31:06. Ninety million people have searched the verse since kickoff.

Here the story turns, and the turn is the whole man. By his own telling Tebow does not rise into vindication. He drops into conviction. He has loved the game too much. He has set his eyes on the wrong thing. He hears a rebuke in the numbers rather than a trophy. He did not die for a game, he hears.

Keep that reaction close, because it accounts for most of what the football world could never account for in him.

Ernest Becker (1924–1974) argues in The Denial of Death that a man builds his life as an answer to two terrors. The first is the body’s extinction, the plain fact that he rots. The second is the dread that he never counted, that he passed through without weight, a smear soon wiped from the glass. The culture hands him a hero system, a scheme of action by which he earns the feeling that he matters and that some part of him outlasts the grave. The athlete’s hero system runs on symbolic immortality. He cannot stop the body’s decline, so he chases the record, the bust in Canton, the highlight that plays after the knees are gone. The name in bronze stands in for the man who will not.

Tebow’s strangeness, the thing scouts and analysts and teammates kept circling without naming, is that he already holds, by his own account, the literal article. Eternal life, promised, banked, John 3:16 painted where the glare goes. A man who believes he will live forever has no need of the immortality the National Football League sells. The record book offers him a counterfeit of something he thinks he owns outright. So the football cannot be his hero system. It can only be a witness, a platform, a stage with good sight lines. Hold the asymmetry and the rest of the puzzle dissolves. His calm in defeat, which read as either saintliness or simplicity. His shrug at the metrics the priesthood worshiped. His reading of his finest game as a summons to repent. None of it is humility in the ordinary sense. It is a man playing a different game on the same field, scoring it by a ledger the other players cannot see.

The word that organizes him is witness. For the evangelical raised by missionary parents, a son his mother carried against medical advice and named her miracle, witness is the first obligation. Faith kept private is faith half betrayed. The believer owes the world the news. So the eye black, that cosmetic stripe meant to cut sun off the cheekbones, becomes a billboard. At the 2009 championship he writes the verse beneath his eyes and the country looks it up ninety-four million times. The next year the college association bans messages on eye black, an institution legislating against a stripe of grease, and people start calling it the Tebow Rule. The witness is loud by design. Tebow’s father raised him not only to preach but to win the listener over, to persuade with a bright face. Proclamation is the point.

Move the same word into other hero systems and it carries other freight. The Trappist witnesses by silence, by hidden labor, by the old line that you preach always and use words only when you must. Display, to the contemplative, sits a short step from vanity. The Orthodox Jew witnesses through kiddush Hashem, the sanctifying of the Name by conduct, by paying the debt early and tipping the waiter and keeping the word, so that the watcher thinks well of the God behind the man. Loud confession of a rival creed reads to him not as witness but as its inversion, a category error, the wrong man sanctifying the wrong Name in the wrong key. The locker room keeps a code of its own. You let your play talk. The stat line is your testimony and the sideline is no pulpit. A teammate who kneels and points upward after a touchdown breaks a manners rule older than any of them, and several New York Jets said as much, off the record, the year Tebow sat behind Mark Sanchez and threw eight passes. The Stoic, last, holds that the only witness worth the name is the reason seated inside him, the watcher who never leaves. The crowd’s gaze counts for nothing. Tebow’s whole career runs on the crowd’s gaze counting for something, on the searched verse and the trending number, on the world looking up. To the Stoic that is the disease, not the cure.

One word. Five hero systems. Five things a man might mean when he says he bears witness, and each meaning makes sense only inside the scheme that holds it.

Purity tells the same story. Tebow speaks of his chastity before marriage and means a gift kept whole for his wife, the body offered as one more witness, an argument made in the flesh. Inside the evangelical scheme the restraint reads as strength and as proof of the larger claim. Slide it sideways. A certain feminist reading hears a man’s purity pledge as performance, the body turned to public relations, the vow itself a bid for status dressed as surrender. The athlete culture around him hears repression, or a brand, or a joke for the group text. The old honor cultures, Roman and otherwise, bound chastity to family and lineage and the standing of the house, never to the soul’s account with God. Same restraint. Different ledgers, and the restraint means nothing apart from the ledger that records it.

Then the central word of the trade, the one Tebow turns inside out. In sport, MVP names the Most Valuable Player, and value runs in completion percentage and arm talent and the read clock in the head. Tebow’s college completion numbers gleamed; his professional ones did not, 46.5 percent across the 2011 run. The priesthood of the position, the scouts with stopwatches and the analysts with the slow-motion clips, measured his throwing motion and pronounced it broken, the elbow low, the ball late. They had a hero system with its own sacraments, and by those sacraments he failed. Denver signed Peyton Manning (b. 1976) and shipped him to the Jets inside three months. The system replaced the witness with the technician, and the technician threw a tighter spiral.

Tebow took the same three letters and renamed them. MVP, on his foundation’s masthead, stands for the Most Vulnerable People. The trafficked child. The orphan. The man with profound disability whom many cultures still count a curse. He runs an event called Night to Shine, a prom for people with special needs, and crowns every guest a king or a queen. Read that against Becker and it lands as an assault on the status economy of sport. The whole apparatus of the scoreboard exists to sort the valuable from the rest, to find the player worth the franchise tag. Tebow takes the word that does the sorting and hands it to the ones the sorting throws away. The last are first. He testifies before Congress in 2026 on the children no one can identify, the ones who live in the dark because the subject makes the room flinch, and he says the willingness to be uncomfortable is the price of helping them. The voice that ran a huddle now runs a hearing. Same voice, different room, and the value it chases has moved from the player to the people the player’s world forgets.

This is where the football world told a particular kind of story about him, and the story has a name. Charles Taylor (b. 1931) calls it the subtraction story, the habit of treating the real thing as whatever remains after you strip the illusions away. Strip the faith from Tebow, strip the noise and the kneeling and the searched verse, and the real Tebow stands revealed, the analysts said, a mediocre passer carried by intangibles and a soft schedule and a few lucky bounces. Subtract the religion and you find the truth. Tebow’s account runs the other way. The faith is not a coat of paint over the athlete. The faith is the substance, and the football is the accident, the thing that might fall away with no loss to the man underneath. So when the league performed its own literal subtraction, cut him, traded him, waived him, sent him to the Patriots and the Eagles in August and home by September, then to minor-league baseball in the Mets system and finally out, it ran the experiment Tebow had already run in his head. Take the uniform off. See what is left. The league thought the subtraction would expose a fraud. Tebow thought it would expose the only thing he had ever counted as real. Each man watched the same career end and saw the opposite result, because each measured with the instrument his hero system gave him, and the instruments do not read the same scale.

Watch the number do this work in a single night. To the believer the 316 game is providence, the Author signing His page, big God as Tebow’s people say. To the quant it is coincidence, small sample and selective counting, a man finding a face in the clouds. He threw for 316 yards, one writer snapped that week, and that means he threw for 316 yards, come on. To Steve Austin (b. 1964), the wrestler who built a persona on Austin 3:16 as a taunt aimed at a Bible-thumping rival, the same three digits carry profanity and defiance, a fist raised against the very piety Tebow paints under his eyes. Three hero systems, three readings, the numerals inert until a scheme picks them up. And then the fourth reading, the strangest, the man’s own, which is neither vindication nor coincidence but conviction, the sense that the night had tempted him to crown the game and that crowning the game was the sin. The believer reads triumph. The skeptic reads noise. The wrestler reads insult. Tebow reads a warning to himself. Four men, one stat line, and no agreement possible, because the number means only what the hero system needs it to mean.

So three coordinates to fix him by. The first is that his equanimity is not temperament but theology. He survives the cut with his soul intact because his soul was never staked on the snap, and the football world mistook a man with another bank account for a man with no fear. The second is that the same conduct reads as devotion, imposition, or sanctimony depending on the room, and Tebow keeps walking into rooms governed by hero systems that cannot grant his the benefit of the doubt, the secular newsroom and the skeptic’s timeline and the locker room with its code of silence, each translating his witness into its own native sin. The third is the inversion he performs on the word value, taking the sport’s tool for ranking human worth and turning it on the people the ranking discards, which is either the deepest thing about him or, to the system he left, the clearest sign he never understood the game. Becker would say a man’s hero system is the lens he cannot remove and the air he cannot see. Tebow’s lens shows him a world where he has already won the only contest that ends in death, and every Sunday after that is a chance to point at the verse. The rest of us, watching through other lenses, saw a quarterback who could not throw, or a saint, or a salesman, or a number that meant nothing at all. We were all looking at the same man. We were not looking through the same eyes.

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The Audience of One

A January Sunday at AT&T Stadium. The roof holds back the Texas sky. Ninety thousand people fill the bowl, and on the sideline a row of women in white vests and blue shorts and white boots wait for the opening notes of an AC/DC song the squad has danced to for years. Reece Weaver stands among them. The bell tolls, the guitar drops, and she hits the first count. The broadcast cameras find her face. Millions of households find it later. For the length of the routine she is the most watched body in American sport, a young woman whose job is to be looked at.

She has decided that this is not what happens. In her account she dances for an audience of one, and the one is God. Her Instagram bio carries Matthew 5:16 and the line about the audience. She told the show’s producers that she prays viewers see God and not her. The cheerleader, the figure built to gather the gaze, has arranged her whole inner life around handing it off.

That handoff is a hero system. Ernest Becker (1924-1974) gave the phrase its weight in The Denial of Death. A hero system is the bundle of beliefs and roles a culture hands its members so they can feel their lives count against the plain knowledge of death. The system tells you what significance is and how to earn it. It lets a man carry the fact that he is a creature who will rot, and act anyway, because the culture has given him a part to play in a story larger than his body. Becker held that every society runs on such scripts, and that the scripts work best when no one inside them sees them as scripts.

Becker set two terrors under the script. The first is the terror of death, and under it the terror of the body, the animal that sweats and ages and ends. The second is the terror of insignificance, the suspicion that a whole life amounts to nothing the universe will notice. Reece Weaver lives at the meeting point of both, and her platform makes the meeting visible in a way most lives hide.

Take the body first. The Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader is the most refined object of the gaze that American sport produces. The uniform sells; the calendar sells; the seventy-year brand rests on women looked at. To stand in that line is to be reduced, for the cameras and the crowd, to a surface. Becker would say the cheerleader role stages the creatureliness terror in its purest form. You are a body, watched, scored, replaced. Reece answers this not by refusing the role but by recasting what the role is for. The body stops being a surface and becomes an offering. She does not own the gaze and she does not fight it. She forwards it. The watched body turns into a window, and the window’s whole value lies in what shows through it.

Now the second terror. She got the dream. She made the team as a rookie, on camera, and the country watched her make it. Becker’s hard insight is that the achieved dream often arrives empty, because no finite prize can carry an infinite need. By the third season the question surfaces in her own words. She asks her husband what her purpose is, who Reece is apart from the uniform, who they are as a pair. The crowd of ninety thousand has not answered that. It cannot. Her hero system answers it instead. She is, in her phrase, a character written by an Author whose plan exceeds her sight. Significance arrives from outside the stadium and does not depend on the stadium. Both terrors fall to the same move. The body becomes a vessel and the meaning becomes a gift, and neither one waits on the crowd.

Set against this stands the secular account of her, and it deserves a fair statement because she lives in its teeth. Charles Taylor (b. 1931) named the shape of that account in A Secular Age. He called it a subtraction story. A subtraction story explains the modern self as what remains once you take the old illusions away, God first among them. Strip the enchantment and you reach the real, which was there all along under the myth. Run the subtraction on Reece and you get this. A young dancer signs on with a football franchise for low pay and high exposure. She markets wholesomeness, which the market rewards. She meets a man, marries young, and the marriage strains under the exposure until her husband calls it a business partnership rather than a marriage. The God-talk, on this reading, is the sugar that makes the arrangement go down, a coping device dressed as a calling. Subtract Him and you have a labor contract, a body, a brand, and a couple who compare themselves to other newlyweds and come up short.

Reece runs the subtraction the other way. For her the body and the fame are the appearance, and God is the reality under them. The disenchanter says the calling is a story laid over the contract. She says the contract is a stage built for the calling. Becker is useful here because he refuses to settle the bet from outside. He grants that every hero system, the believer’s and the disenchanter’s both, hangs over the same void and does the same work, which is to make a death-bound creature able to rise in the morning and dance. The disenchanter has a hero system too. His heroism is seeing through, naming the illusion, standing unconsoled. That posture confers its own significance, and it fears its own insignificance, and it leans on its own crowd for applause.

This is where her sacred words start to move, because a sacred word means one thing inside her system and other things inside the systems that surround it. Take glory, the word at the center of everything she says. She wants her dance to bring God glory. Glory, for her, is a quantity that belongs to Him and passes through her without sticking. She is a conduit, and the worst outcome would be glory caught on the conduit, the viewer seeing Reece and stopping there. The crowd in the stadium runs on a rival meaning. For the crowd, glory is fame, a thing that lands on a person and raises her above the others, the named star pulled out of the line. The two meanings sit inside the same routine and pull opposite ways, and she spends her public life trying to keep the first from collapsing into the second.

Walk glory through other hero systems and watch it change again. A Benedictine monk also lives for an audience of one and also gives his days to God, yet his glory hides. His rule sends him into a choir no camera films, and the proof of his sincerity lies in his absence from the world’s eye. Put him beside Reece and the contrast cuts clean. Both surrender. One surrenders by vanishing, the other by going on national television, and each can read the other as a danger, the monk seeing vanity in the stadium, the cheerleader seeing a lamp hidden under a bowl in the cloister. Matthew 5:16, her verse, tells the believer to let the light shine before men. The monk reads the same Gospel and hears the call to the closet, the prayer in secret. One scripture, two hero systems, two readings that cannot both be lived by one body.

A Korean idol trainee surrenders as hard as either of them, and for her the gaze is the whole point and the master is the company. She perfects the body for the agency and the fans, and her glory is the group’s chart position, a number she shares and does not own. Surrender, for the trainee, runs toward the management and the collective product. Reece uses the same verb and aims it past every visible master at an invisible one. A woman who sells her image on a subscription site inverts both of them. She owns the gaze and prices it. Her heroism is autonomy, the self as sole author and sole proprietor, and the body is an asset she refuses to forward to anyone for free. Where Reece says the gaze belongs to God and she is only the glass, the creator says the gaze belongs to her and she will license it by the month. The bharatanatyam dancer who dedicates her performance to a deity comes closest to Reece and still differs, because her offering runs through a fixed sacred form passed down a lineage, the gesture vocabulary itself an inheritance, while Reece’s offering rides on a secular pop routine and a franchise built for selling tickets, and improvises its holiness on top.

Now move the same word into systems that do not point at God at all. For a Silicon Valley founder, calling means the company’s mission, glory means the dent in the universe, and significance comes from building a thing that outlasts the builder. He surrenders to the work and burns the years, and he will tell you, without irony, that he serves something larger than himself, though the something is a product. A Marine on the drill field hears glory as the unit’s honor, earns significance by submitting the body to the Corps until the private self thins out, and treats the watched body as raw material for a tradition older than any man in formation. Each of these men could stand next to Reece and use her vocabulary, surrender, calling, purpose, glory, and mean something she does not mean, and the words make sense only back inside the system that issued them. This is Becker’s quiet point. The words are not floating descriptions. They are load-bearing parts of competing machines for outrunning death, and pulled from the machine they go slack.

The strength of her system shows in what it did to her career, and the result carries a twist worth sitting with. A defense usually guards the thing it surrounds. Hers dissolved it. If significance comes from God and not the crowd, then the crowd becomes optional, and so does the uniform that gathers the crowd. The hero system that let her stand calm in front of ninety thousand also taught her that the ninety thousand were never the source. So in the third season, on camera, with her husband beside her and a prayer said first, she tells the director and the choreographer that she will not come back. She says it is a hard day and that her cup is filled to the brim and that she leaves grateful. The phrasing is exact to her frame. A full cup does not need the next pour. The platform that made her visible turned out to be a thing her faith could spend, because her faith had told her from the start that the platform was never the point. Most accounts of a hero system show it as armor. Hers worked as a solvent, loosening her grip on the very role that made the armor famous.

The marriage strain reads through the same lens, and here truth asks for care, because the strain is hers and her husband’s to disclose, and they disclosed it. When both partners route their significance through one platform, the marriage starts to serve the platform, and a man who quit his job to manage his wife’s rise can wake up inside what he calls a business partnership. A faith built on “see God, not me” has a clear seat for God and a clear seat for the watching world and no obvious seat for “us.” She asks who they are as a pair, and the question lands hard precisely because her system answers every other question so well and leaves that one open. The same frame that quiets the terror of the gaze and the terror of insignificance has less to say about the small shared terror of two people losing each other inside a success neither one planned.

Three coordinates for anyone who wants to keep watching her.

Watch where the glory lands. She has spent three televised seasons trying to keep glory from sticking to Reece, and she leaves the stadium for Alabama and a quieter life with a teaching certificate and a family in view. The test of her sincerity is whether the redirect holds when the cameras stop, when there is no crowd to forward the gaze past, when the audience of one is the only audience left and no franchise pays her to say so. That is the season worth watching, and it starts now.

Watch the marriage as the real measure. The faith answered the terror of the watched body and the terror of an empty dream. The open question is whether it can build a seat for “us” that the platform did not provide, whether two people whose union became infrastructure can make it a home again once the infrastructure is gone. Her own words put that question on the table. The answer comes off camera, where most answers come.

Watch the word and not the woman. The argument here is not that Reece Weaver is right or that the disenchanter is right. It is that glory, surrender, calling, and purpose are not neutral descriptions a person picks up and sets down. They are working parts of rival systems for living against death, and the cheerleader, the monk, the trainee, the founder, the Marine, and the subscription-site creator all use them and mean different things, and each meaning is true inside its own machine and goes quiet outside it. Reece’s machine is built to make a watched body weightless and a finite dream eternal. It did both jobs so well that it talked her off the field. Whether it can now teach her who she is with the lights off is the one thing the show cannot script.

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The Hero System of Rabbi Mendel Kalmenson

A girl of fourteen sits in Crown Heights with a problem. The year is sometime in the 1950s. A new school has opened, advanced, untested, and the administration wants her in the first class. She does not want to go. She writes to the Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson (1902-1994), and she names her fear. She does not want to be a guinea pig. The word does the work that fear always does. It tells her where she stands in the order of things: expendable, a test subject, a body the experiment can afford to lose.

The Rebbe reads the letter. He takes a pen. He crosses out two words and writes one in their place. Guinea pig becomes pioneer.

She enrolls. Years pass. She becomes the principal.

Rabbi Mendel Kalmenson tells this story in Positivity Bias, his 2019 book drawn from the Rebbe’s letters and talks, and the story carries the whole argument of his life. One edit. The facts of the case do not change. The school is still new, still untested, the girl still first through the door. What changes is the name of her place in the cosmos, and with the name, everything that follows from it. A guinea pig endures the experiment. A pioneer leads the migration. The same girl, the same risk, two different worlds.

Kalmenson runs Chabad of Belgravia and serves as rabbi of Beit Baruch, in a London postcode of stuccoed terraces, embassies, and the quiet money that does not need to announce itself. He came from Chabad.org, where he edited for years, and he has carried the Rebbe’s teaching into more than fifty countries. He has written Seeds of Wisdom, A Time to Heal, Positivity Bias, People of the Word, and On Purpose, and he sits as associate editor of the Chumash Project. Across a camera and a low table he has hosted more than a hundred and fifty conversations under the title People of Interest, among them the Harvard psychologist Steven Pinker (b. 1954), the Auschwitz survivor and clinician Edith Eger (b. 1927), and the former chief rabbi of Israel Yisrael Meir Lau (b. 1937). He is a fluent man in a tailored black coat who can hold a room of skeptics and a room of the bereaved, sometimes the same room.

Ernest Becker (1924-1974) gave us the tools to read a man like this. In The Denial of Death Becker argued that the human animal lives under two terrors and builds a hero system to survive them. The first terror is death itself, and beneath it the smaller daily terror of creatureliness, of being a body that leaks and ages and forgets, a thing the universe does not need. The second terror is meaninglessness, the suspicion that the whole show signifies nothing, that the cosmos is cold and the suffering random. A hero system answers both. It tells a man that his life counts, that his acts register on some permanent ledger, that he is, in the local idiom, a pioneer and not a guinea pig.

Kalmenson’s hero system has a name he gave it himself. He calls it a positivity bias, and the word bias is honest, because he does not claim the cheerful man sees more. He claims the cheerful man sees deeper. The negativity bias, the pull toward doom and grievance, sits in the wiring and feels like realism. Kalmenson, following the Rebbe, calls it a shallow reading of a deep text. Look further, he says, and the good is there, hidden under the misguided act and the bad event, a point of divine purpose folded into the worst of it. Life is good at the root. The good is open to anyone. It comes from clear sight, not from wishful feeling, and a man chooses it, the way the girl chose the word pioneer.

Set this against the wound it was built to close. The Rebbe assembled his movement out of survivors, men and women who had counted their dead in the millions and arrived in Brooklyn with the negativity bias fully earned. To stand before such a congregation and say the world is good is not a greeting card. It is a claim staked against the strongest counterargument in human history. Kalmenson knows this, and he never softens it. The Rebbe’s optimism, he writes, drew its force from the brokenness it answered and from the Rebbe’s own losses. Here is the first terror and the second terror at once, death in its industrial form and meaning in its hardest test, and a hero system raised on the exact ground where most systems collapse.

Now the harder work, and the part that earns a reader who has seen the shape of these essays before. Kalmenson’s sacred words look plain. Good. Healing. Joy. The core of a person. A skeptic hears them and thinks he knows what they mean. He does not. A sacred word means almost nothing on its own. It draws its sense from the hero system that holds it, and carry the same word into another system and it turns into a stranger wearing familiar clothes. Watch the word travel.

Take the word good, the keystone of the whole structure. In Kalmenson’s mouth good is a claim about the architecture of reality. A personal God made the world on purpose, the purpose is benevolent, and providence threads every event, so that a thing called bad is a surface and the good runs under it like a water table. Good is not a mood and not a verdict on the day. It is the grain of the wood.

Carry that word to a hospice ward in a different city, into the mouth of a palliative physician who has signed more death certificates than she can name. For her, good has nothing to do with the grain of the universe. Good is a clean line into a vein, a dose that holds, a family that arrives before the breathing stops. She does not look under the cancer for a hidden point of purpose. She thinks the search insults the dying. Good, in her hero system, means comfort delivered against a thing that has no meaning and never will. Her heroism lies in fighting a pointless enemy with skill and tenderness and refusing the consolation that it adds up to anything.

Carry the word again, to a Reformed seminarian in the American South who reads John Calvin (1509-1564) at a kitchen table. He uses good a hundred times a week and means the opposite of Kalmenson at the level of the human core. The seminarian holds that the heart of man is fallen, bent, incapable of good on its own steam, and that any good in a person arrives from outside, as grace, unearned. Tell him every human is good at the root and he hears a soft lie that flatters the creature and robs the Creator. His hero system makes him a vessel for a goodness that is never his own. Kalmenson’s makes the divine spark the man’s own deepest possession. Same word, good, and the two men face away from each other across it.

Carry it to a laboratory and the word stops working at all. Steven Pinker, whom Kalmenson has interviewed, uses good with care and means something measurable: fewer wars per capita, longer lives, less cruelty per year, the slope of the line in The Better Angels of Our Nature bending down. For Pinker good is an output of reason and institutions, a number that improves, and the universe behind it stays blind, a process with no opinion about us. Two men sit at the low table and both praise reason and progress and the good, and the words match while the worlds do not. Kalmenson’s good descends from a purposing God and waits to be uncovered. Pinker’s good gets built by people against a cosmos that offers no help and intends nothing. The conversation can run for an hour in apparent agreement because the shared vocabulary hides the gap underneath. That gap is the whole subject of this essay.

Carry it once more, to a Zen teacher leading a Tuesday sitting in a rented studio. He flinches at good the way you flinch at a bright light. Good and bad, in his system, form the pair of opposites the mind must put down. To call the world good is to keep grasping, to keep the self busy sorting reality into columns, and the sorting is the sickness. His heroism is to stop, to let the categories fall, to meet the moment before it gets a label. Kalmenson wants you to see the good under the event. The Zen teacher wants you to see the event with nothing added, not even good.

Five mouths, one word, five worlds. Add a sixth and let it stand for the live nerve of the matter. A woman raised in the late Soviet Union, schooled by her grandmother to expect the knock at the door and the empty shelf, hears good as a setup. In her hero system the man who calls the world good has not been paying attention, or worse, he is selling something. Vigilance kept her people alive. Hope got them sent east. To her the positivity bias looks like a failure of nerve dressed as faith, and she trusts the pessimist the way you trust a man who checks the locks.

So the same syllable, good, names the grain of the universe, a dose of morphine, the fallen human heart, a downward war statistic, an illusion to release, and a con. Kalmenson’s hero system does not float above this disagreement. It takes one side of it, and a strong side, and the strength is paid for.

Here is the cost, told straight. A system that finds the good under every event must do something with the man who looks and finds nothing. Push the positivity bias hard enough and the person who stays broken starts to feel like a failure of sight. He hears, under the kind words, an instruction he cannot follow. Look deeper, see the purpose, choose the better word. He looks. He sees a dead child and no purpose at all. The hero system, at its weakest, can hand him a second wound on top of the first, the shame of the man who could not manage to be a pioneer.

Kalmenson knows this danger better than his critics do, and his answer to it sits in his other book. A Time to Heal, from 2015, gathers the Rebbe’s letters to the bereaved, and the book holds a tension that the cheap version of positivity never reaches. The Rebbe insists that all of it belongs to a divine plan and that the good is real, and in the same breath he makes room for grief, for the cry against heaven, for the widow who cannot explain the death to her children. Faith and human frailty do not cancel each other. A man may thank God for the life that was and still rage at the loss of it, and both prayers count. The Rebbe lets the mourner speak first. Before the burial he counsels silence, presence, shared tears, no rush to the lesson.

And then the turn that defines the system. The Rebbe redirects the question. Not why me, which has no floor and no bottom, but what now. Pain left to sit will fester and curdle and leak out sideways. Pain harnessed becomes fuel for a cause, a school, a kindness, a name carved into the future. This is the hero system doing its deepest work. It cannot promise the survivor that the death made sense. It can promise him a task, and the task confers the one thing the second terror threatens to strip away, the sense that his act registers and endures. Healing, in Kalmenson’s mouth, means the channeling of grief into building.

Set that word, healing, beside the others and watch it split the same way good did. For a grief therapist trained in the lineage of Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (1926-2004), healing means a process honored at its own pace, stages allowed to unfold, no foreman calling for action before the mourner is ready, and the push toward what now might land as a shove. For a trauma clinician, premature meaning is a known hazard, a frame imposed too early that can reopen the wound rather than close it. For a Stoic reading his Marcus Aurelius on the train, healing means amor fati, the embrace of fate exactly as it fell, with no plan to redeem it and no God to thank. For Viktor Frankl (1905-1997), who walked out of the same camps as Edith Eger, healing comes through meaning chosen in the worst place, and here Kalmenson’s word and Frankl’s word nearly touch, two men insisting that a person keeps the freedom to assign significance even when the world has taken everything else. Eger, across the table from Kalmenson, carries that Frankl inheritance in her own key, the survivor who decided that the only prison left was the one in her mind. Nearly touch, and still not the same, because Frankl’s meaning is a human act against an indifferent void and Kalmenson’s good is a divine fact waiting under the void to be found.

This is where a reader can stand and look in both directions at once, which is what these essays are for. Kalmenson’s hero system is strongest at the bedside of the survivor who is sick of why and hungry for a task, the man who needs his suffering to build something so that it stops eating him alive. To that man the positivity bias is not kitsch and not denial. It is a rope. The same system strains at the bedside of the depressive, for whom seeing good is the exact faculty that has failed, and who can hear the whole teaching as a verdict on his eyesight. And the system meets its real test in the space between the two, in whether seeing good stays an insight offered or hardens into a demand imposed. The Rebbe edited a willing girl’s letter and gave her a word she could choose. The danger of every positivity bias is the day it stops offering the word pioneer and starts requiring it, the day the man who cannot see the good is told, gently, that the fault lies in his looking.

Kalmenson sits in Belgravia and keeps the offer open. He brings the skeptic to the table and lets the skeptic talk. He gathers the letters of the bereaved and lets the widow rage before he hands her the task. He took a teaching forged on the worst ground in human memory and made it portable, a thing a man in a hospice or a boardroom or a Tuesday sitting might pick up and turn over. The word good will mean something different in each of those rooms. He knows that, and he says it anyway, and he says it to the one congregation that had every reason to call him a liar and a fair number who called him a rope instead.

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The Hero System of Rabbi Baruch Shlomo Eliyahu Cunin

In 1958 a yeshiva boy of eighteen stood in line at 770 Eastern Parkway to receive a piece of matzah from the Rebbe before going home to his parents near Yankee Stadium for the Seder. The Rebbe handed him a second errand. Deliver matzah to a family across the Bronx, past the zoo, in a part of the borough that turned dangerous after dark. The boy called his mother. Start the Seder without me. He took the subway, the subway broke down, and when he climbed out he emptied his pockets of every coin, including the fare home, because a Jew carries no money on the holy day. He walked the rest of the way and found a housing project for the blind. He knocked. He smelled bacon and saw bread on the table. He put a smile on his face anyway and told the man he had come with matzah from the Rebbe and would like to tell the story of Passover. The man brought in his pregnant wife and two small girls, both of them blind. The boy stayed until one in the morning. Only at the end did the man explain how he knew the Rebbe. A doctor had urged the couple to abort the pregnancy, since their disease blinded their children. They had written to the Rebbe. He answered them to have faith in God and have the child.

That boy was Baruch Shlomo Eliyahu Cunin (b. 1940). The whole of his life sits inside that night. A man hands him a task. He throws away his own way home to keep the law. He walks toward the forgotten Jew in the dangerous dark, and he sits at the unkosher table without flinching, because the point is never the table. The point is the soul at it.

Ernest Becker (1924-1974) gives us the grammar for reading such a life. In The Denial of Death he argues that man is the animal who knows he will die, and that every culture answers this knowledge by building a hero system, a structure of roles and rules through which a person earns the feeling that he counts, that his days leave a mark the grave cannot erase. The hero system tells you what a life is for, what a victory looks like, where to spend yourself. Becker’s claim cuts deeper than most readers expect. He is not saying religion comforts the frightened. He is saying that culture as such is a project against annihilation, that the broker and the soldier and the artist all reach for the same thing the saint reaches for, and that the only difference among men lies in which hero system they pour themselves into and how honestly they admit what they are doing.

Cunin pours himself into one system with a clarity that startles. We do not even know his birthday with confidence. The public record fixes the date of his wedding to Miriam Loksen, November 19, 1964, and gives the year the Rebbe sent him west, 1965, and the number of his children, thirteen, and almost nothing of the private man, because in this hero system the self is not the unit of account. Menachem Mendel Schneerson (1902-1994), the seventh Lubavitcher Rebbe, is. When the Rebbe sent him to California he used a word of war. “Shlomo, zolst aynnemen gantz California.” Shlomo, you should conquer all of California. Cunin asked how. Start with the big cities or the outlying towns? The Rebbe told him to start with the outlying areas, because he had heard there were many Jewish students in Berkeley.

Hold the word conquer to the light and watch it change shape in different hands. A Marine drill instructor hears conquest and pictures terrain taken from an enemy and held by force. A founder pitching venture capital hears it and pictures market share, a category captured before a rival captures it. For Cunin the word carries no enemy of flesh at all. The enemy is forgetting. The territory is a count of Jews reached, a Chabad House in a town that had none, a pair of tefillin laid by a man who had not laid them in forty years. He built one of the first such houses in the world and grew the network past two hundred across California and Nevada. He measures the conquest the way the Rebbe taught him to measure it, soul by soul, and so a word that means killing to one man and selling to another means rescue to him.

The same drift runs through every value he holds. Take money. To a venture capitalist money is a scorecard and a lever. To a Trappist monk money is a snare to be fled. Cunin treats money as a consecrated thing, a medium through which a soul changes hands. He tells the story without embarrassment. He went to a wealthy man, took a check, and reported to the Rebbe’s secretary the donor’s Hebrew name and the blessing promised in return, a grandchild brought back to Judaism. The grandchildren returned, he says. Money in this system is not wealth. It is a transaction in eternity, the visible sign of an invisible exchange.

That belief carries a cost the wider world records in a different ledger. In 2014 a federal judge, Morrison England, ruled that Chabad of California had knowingly failed to comply with the terms of a homeland security grant from the state and had falsely assured the government that written financial controls existed when they did not. The judge called Cunin’s deposition testimony damning. He quoted Cunin’s view that grant advances, once paid, were no longer the government’s business, treated as gifts to Chabad, and wrote that a compelling argument could be made that the conduct was intentional. Read that ruling beside the fundraising story and you see one act seen from two hero systems. From inside Cunin’s, money given to the Rebbe’s work passes out of the secular order and into the sacred, where an auditor has no standing. From inside the system of federal compliance, the same belief is a finding of fault. The dollars do not move. The cosmology does.

The books make the clearest case of all. The Schneerson Collection, twelve thousand volumes and manuscripts gathered by the Lubavitcher Rebbes, was seized by the Bolsheviks and held by the Russian state. To a museum registrar a book is an object to catalog, to keep at stable humidity, to leave where the law of property places it. To the Russian government the collection is national patrimony, a treasure of the people, spoils a country that lost twenty million dead in war will not surrender. To Cunin the seforim are none of these. They are held as hostages, and their redemption belongs to the redemption of the world, since the Chasidim hold that when the books come home the Messiah comes with them. The Rebbe appointed him to a delegation in 1991, and he carried the charge into American courts. In a story the movement tells with pride, he sent his teenage sons, yeshiva students, to ride the underground train between the House and the Senate and knock on doors until they had letters from seventy senators. A Senate staffer saw boys lobbying. Cunin saw his children carrying the Rebbe’s war. Judge Royce Lamberth later placed a fine of fifty thousand dollars a day on Russia for refusing to return the collection, and Chabad moved to seize Russian assets to collect it, and the Chasidim spoke the old phrase from an earlier court victory, Didan Notzach, victory is ours.

Notice the tense Cunin keeps. The Rebbe died in 1994. Cunin still speaks of the assignment in the present. “The Rebbe tasked us with returning the books.” Not tasked once, long ago. Tasks, now. Here Becker turns from theory to something colder and more moving. A hero system built to defeat death will not let its hero die. The Rebbe gives orders in the present tense because in this world he has not stopped giving them, and Cunin lives inside a porous reality the modern buffered self has mostly sealed off, a world where the dead still speak, where a book can suffer exile, where a check can ransom a grandchild’s soul. Charles Taylor (b. 1931) calls the secular settlement a subtraction story, the tale we tell of what remains once God and spirits and final purposes are stripped away. Cunin’s life runs that story backward. He refuses the subtraction. Everything the modern account removes, he keeps.

The fire shows what the keeping looks like under fire. In 1980 the West Coast headquarters in Westwood burned and three young men died. A lesser man grieves in private and rebuilds in silence. Cunin built a telethon. The idea came from Carroll O’Connor (1924-2001), the gentile actor America knew as Archie Bunker, who told him to put the rebuilding on television. So Cunin took the ashes and made a yearly broadcast of dancing rabbis and a tote board and Jon Voight (b. 1938) and Larry King (1933-2021) and the producer Jerry Weintraub (1937-2015), and for more than four decades the show has raised millions and turned a fatal fire into a public festival of life. A hotshot who fights wildfire understands fire as the thing to beat back. Cunin took the fire and fed it into the hero system, where even the death of three young men becomes fuel for the work. That is not callousness. It is the deepest logic of the project. Grief that does not build is grief wasted, and the dead are honored by the count of the living brought home.

Now the part that asks the most of a reader, and the most of the writer. The same reaching that walked toward the blind family in the Bronx reaches toward the grieving and the old, and from outside the hero system the reaching can look like predation. In 2011 an eighty-two-year-old widow, Maxine Coe, sued Chabad of California and Cunin and his son, alleging that the rabbis came to her the day after her husband died, while she grieved, offered to bury him in the Chabad plot and to support her for the rest of her life, and led her to sign over a Malibu home worth millions and to buy a Torah for a hundred thousand dollars. The suit alleged financial abuse of an elder, fraud, and negligent misrepresentation. These are the claims of a complaint, the woman’s account, not a court’s finding. Set them beside the matzah in the Bronx and you cannot pull the two acts apart, because they are the same act. To fold a grieving widow into the Rebbe’s work, to secure her husband a resting place among Chasidim, to bind her to the cause with a Torah scroll, is, from inside the hero system, the highest form of love, the same love that walked the dark Bronx street at midnight. From inside the hero system of elder law and fiduciary duty, the same approach reads as a complaint filed in Superior Court. I will not collapse the two readings into one. The honest thing is to hold them both and let the reader sit in the discomfort, because the discomfort is the truth.

Love is the word that travels furthest between systems. A hospice nurse loves by sitting with the dying and changing nothing, offering presence without an agenda. Cunin cannot love that way. His love always carries a mission. He cannot simply sit at the table. He must deliver the matzah, tell the story, bring the man back. The reaching is the love, and the reaching never rests, and that restlessness is at once the engine of two hundred Chabad Houses and the thing that draws a widow’s lawyer to the courthouse. The same trait builds the empire and files the complaint. Becker would say this is no contradiction. It is what a hero system does. It takes a single human drive and aims it at immortality, and the drive does not pause to ask whether every person it touches wished to be touched.

Even humility shifts. The modern buffered self prizes humility as self-effacement, the lowering of one’s own claim. Cunin tells of borrowing two hundred thousand dollars to build and never feeling right about asking the Rebbe for money, and the Rebbe corrected him. “Don’t be so humble.” In this system a humility that hides the work’s true need is a quiet form of pride, a man protecting his own comfort over the mission. The virtue inverts. To ask boldly for millions becomes the humble act, and to hold back becomes the proud one.

So what does a reader carry away who has read ten of these essays already and wants the eleventh to give him something new. Three coordinates, held in prose rather than nailed to a wall.

The first is that Cunin is a man whose self has fused so far into his hero system that his own death has almost no purchase on him, while the disappearance of the Jew terrifies him without rest. Study him and you study the theory in its pure state, the immortality project run to its limit, where a leader keeps giving orders from the grave and a man takes those orders as the plain facts of his day.

The second is that the traits we want to sort into the good column and the bad column refuse the sort. The walk to the blind family and the deathbed Torah and the seventy senators and the federal grant finding all flow from a single source, the reach toward the forgotten soul, which the hero system blesses and which the courthouse names. A reader who wants Cunin all hero or all villain has not understood Becker and has not looked at Cunin. The reach is one thing. It saves and it grasps with the same hand.

The third is the lesson for the rest of us, who imagine we live in the subtraction story, who think the dead stay dead and a book is property and a dollar is a dollar. Cunin shows what conviction costs and what it buys. It builds two hundred houses out of nothing and turns a fatal fire into a festival and stares down the Russian state over twelve thousand books. It also walks into a widow’s grief with a scroll and a deed. The man pays the full price of believing his hero system all the way down, and he collects the full return, and most of us, holding our beliefs at arm’s length, will never know either figure. Watch him and ask the only question Becker leaves us. Not whether he believes too much. What we, who believe so carefully and so little, have given up to stay safe.

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Yet to Come: The Hero System of Rabbi Yisroel Ciner

On a Thursday night the email goes out. It lands in thousands of inboxes across time zones, a man in Melbourne reading it Friday morning, a woman in New Jersey reading it over coffee, a soldier somewhere reading it on a phone. The column carries a name at the bottom, Rabbi Yisroel Ciner, and a series title that ran for decades on Project Genesis, Parsha Insights. The copyright lines on the early ones say 2000, 2003. The voice in them does a steady thing each week. It opens the portion, brings down a comment from the Ramban or the Sforno or the Nesivos Shalom, then turns, without warning, to a hospital corridor or a high school trip or a letter from a stranger in Poland, and lets the old text read the present life. The man writing has a method. He takes a verse most people walk past and stands underneath it until it holds weight.

This is a hero system at work, and it pays to say what that means before saying what his is.

Ernest Becker (1924-1974) argued that a man knows he will die and cannot live inside that knowledge. He builds, with his culture, a scheme that lets him feel he counts beyond his own short span. Becker called these schemes hero systems. Each one tells a man how to earn worth that death cannot cancel. The soldier earns it through courage, the scientist through discovery, the mother through her children, the artist through the made thing that outlasts the hand. The terror runs deeper than the fear of the grave. Underneath sits a second dread, the suspicion that a man amounts to nothing, that his life leaves no mark on the order of things, that the universe does not register him at all. Becker called the body a problem the symbolic self keeps trying to outrun. The hero system is the answer a culture hands its members so they can rise each morning and act as though their days add up.

Rabbi Ciner’s answer arrives early and stays fixed. A Jew earns cosmic worth by binding himself to Torah and by binding other Jews to it after him. The worth does not come from achievement the world can see. It comes from transmission, from study that passes hand to hand across generations, from one more soul brought inside the covenant. He studied at Ner Israel, then moved to Israel with his wife, Natalie, to help start the kollel at Neveh Zion. Neveh Zion takes young men who arrived at Judaism late or barely at all and walks them in. That work tells you the shape of the scheme. The hero is not the man who already knows. The hero is the man who turns toward the text and the man who turns him.

I want to show his sacred values, and then show a thing Becker saw and most readers miss. A sacred value is a word, and the same word names different goods inside different hero systems. A man hears “growth” and thinks of one thing. Another man hears it and thinks of its opposite. The word stays. The world behind it changes. Walk the words across enough lives and the architecture of each life stands out against the others.

Take growth.

In Rabbi Ciner’s world a man grows by adding. He learns a page he could not learn last year. He fixes a trait. He moves up, aliyah, closer to God, and the motion has no ceiling, which is why a man past seventy can say the best is yet to come and mean it as plain description rather than cheer. Growth here points upward and forward forever, because the thing a man grows toward has no top.

Now hand the word to a venture capitalist on Sand Hill Road. Growth means the curve. It means a company that doubles, a market that opens, a number on a Tuesday larger than the number on the Monday before. The VC reveres growth the way the rabbi reveres it, with the whole weight of his life behind the word, and the two men can sit at the same dinner and never know they pray to different gods. For the VC, flat is death. A thing that holds steady has already begun to die, because in his hero system worth lives in the rate, in the slope, in compounding. He cannot rest in a good number. The rabbi can rest in a finished tractate and then start the next one, but the rest is real. The VC gets no rest, because the curve that flattens kills the story he tells about why he counts.

Hand the word to a Trappist monk in a Kentucky abbey. Growth means subtraction. He grows by wanting less, by emptying the self until what remains can hold God without crowding Him out. Add nothing. Strip. The monk and the rabbi both rise before dawn and both call the rising growth, and they move in opposite directions inside the same word, the rabbi filling, the monk hollowing.

Hand it to a hospice nurse. She watches growth run backward all day and has made her peace with a definition the other three cannot use. For her a man grows by learning to lose well, by arriving at the end without rage, by saying the thing he never said. Decline and growth are the same motion seen from her chair. The rabbi’s forward arrow and her downward one cross at a point neither man on Sand Hill Road nor the monk could name.

Four men and a woman, one word, five worlds.

Take home, and the welcome that goes with it. Beth Jacob in Irvine calls itself a place where a Jew of any background sits down and feels he belongs, Americans and Brits and Persians and South Africans and Mexicans in one room, and the rabbi’s wife runs a table the congregation calls legendary. Hospitality, hachnasat orchim, sits near the center of the scheme. The home opens. The stranger eats. To bring a man in is the work, not a courtesy attached to the work.

A Bedouin host in the Negev guards the same value with a ferocity the Irvine table does not need. A stranger under his tent eats and sleeps safe for three days, and the host will fight to defend a man he met an hour ago, because the honor of the tent stands or falls on it. Home there means a boundary a guest crosses into total protection. Open the flap and the desert outside no longer touches him.

A Mormon missionary in a foreign city carries home in his chest and has no building for it. Home is the work, the next door, the companion at his side, and he learns to feel at home anywhere because the hero system asks him to plant the home rather than return to it. He and the rabbi both prize welcome, and the rabbi welcomes men into a house that stands, while the missionary welcomes himself into houses that do not yet know him.

A merchant marine engineer feels home as the steel under his boots, a ship that moves, a berth he can sleep in while the world rolls past. He would not understand the Bedouin’s fixed tent or the rabbi’s fixed shul. For him a home that cannot move is a trap. The word names the floor he stands on, wherever the sea has carried it.

Take purity, the value behind the mikvah that Natalie Ciner runs and behind the laws of family life it serves. Purity here means a return to a state, a woman immersing and rising changed in standing though not in body, a married life ordered by separation and reunion across the month. The water does nothing chemical. It does everything covenantal. Purity is a relation to God’s command, restored by an act the body performs and the soul registers.

A heart surgeon means something near and far at once when he scrubs in. His sterile field admits no contamination, and a single breach ends the case, and he guards the boundary with a vigilance the rabbi might recognize. Yet his purity is microbial and the rabbi’s is sacral, and the surgeon’s water cleans in fact while the mikvah’s water cleans in covenant, and the two men would argue all night about whether the other one’s purity is purity at all.

A competitive freediver means purity as a single clean breath held against a hundred feet of pressure, a body emptied of panic, a mind with one thought and no other. His purity lives in a moment and dies when he surfaces. The rabbi’s purity recurs on a calendar and renews a bond. The freediver chases a state he cannot keep. The rabbi keeps a practice that returns.

Now the line the man signs his life with. The best is yet to come.

Set it beside a startup founder who says the same words on a Monday all-hands. The founder means the next round, the bigger office, the exit that vindicates the years. His future is a destination, and if he reaches it the words go quiet, because a founder who has sold the company and bought the house has nowhere left to point. The rabbi’s future has no exit. Redemption stays ahead of him by design, and he can say the words at any age because the thing he waits for cannot arrive inside history and end the waiting. The founder’s hope can be cashed. The rabbi’s cannot, and that uncashable quality is the source of its strength, not a flaw in it.

Set the words beside a climate scientist reading her own models. For her the honest sentence about the future runs the other way, and she has trained herself to say the harder thing and live in it. The rabbi and the scientist both face forward, and one sees a dawn that has not broken and the other sees a tide that has not crested, and the same posture, the eyes ahead, carries opposite freight.

Set them beside a man told he has six months. Here the rabbi’s line stops being a slogan and becomes a test. To a dying man “the best is yet to come” either insults him or saves him, depending on what the future means. If the future means more years, the words are a cruelty, because he has none. If the future means a relation to God that death opens rather than closes, the words might be the only true thing anyone says to him all week. The rabbi who buried his own father, Dr. Oscar Ciner, and wrote about the weeks after, did not learn the line from a book. A man does not say the best is yet to come from the easy side of a grave unless he has stood on the hard side of one and chosen the sentence anyway.

That choice brings the subtraction story to the door.

Charles Taylor (b. 1931) named the account modern people tell about how the world lost God. The story says we did not invent unbelief, we subtracted illusion, peeling away the old comforts until the bare facts stood exposed, and what remained, matter and mortality and the indifferent sky, had been the truth all along under the decoration. Becker fits this story in part and breaks it in part, and the break is where Rabbi Ciner lives.

Becker would read the whole apparatus, the email and the mikvah and the Shabbos table and the line about the future, as a defense against the terror of death. He called such defenses vital lies, the necessary fictions a man tells so he can stand up and work. A hard reader of Becker takes the next step and says the rabbi sells comfort, that the cosmic worth is a story, that the man in Melbourne reading the column on Friday morning soothes a wound that has no cure. The subtraction story finishes the thought. Strip the Torah away and you find a frightened animal who built a beautiful house over his fear.

The account captures something true. A man does fear death, and the hero system does answer the fear, and Rabbi Ciner has spent his life handing the answer to others. He might not flinch at that description. The yeshiva world has its own word for the human condition, and it does not pretend men are calm about dying.

The account leaves out the question it pretends to settle. The subtraction story assumes the thing subtracted was a coat over the real body. Rabbi Ciner’s whole life rests on the claim that the covenant is the real body and the indifferent sky is the coat. He does not argue that Torah comforts. He argues that Torah is true, and that the comfort follows from the truth the way warmth follows from a fire rather than the fire from the warmth. Becker showed that every man needs a hero system and cannot live without one. Becker did not show that every hero system is false, and could not, because the need for meaning and the truth of a particular meaning are different questions, and the second one no psychology settles. The rabbi grants the first and stakes everything on the second. That is the live argument, and it does not resolve in a column or an essay. It resolves, if it resolves, somewhere neither the writer nor the reader can see from here.

Three things to keep in view.

The first concerns the size of the audience and the smallness of the unit. The column reaches thousands and the work counts in ones. A kollel at Neveh Zion turns one young man, then another. A mikvah serves one woman on one night. The hero system scales by addition of single souls, never by the curve the founder watches, and the man who built his life on it can say the best is yet to come without a number to back the claim, because the worth he chases never lived in the count.

The second concerns the father and the son. Dr. Oscar Ciner healed bodies. His son tends souls and buried him and kept writing. A doctor’s worth ends with the patient’s life, however long he extends it, and the son chose work whose product, he holds, the grave cannot reach. Watch the value travel one generation and shift its ground, the father’s medicine and the son’s Torah both fighting death, the father on death’s own terms and the son on terms he believes lie past it.

The third concerns the words themselves. Growth, home, purity, the future. Rabbi Ciner uses them the way the venture capitalist and the surgeon and the freediver use them, with his whole life behind each one, and he means by each one something none of the others mean. The lesson holds past him. When two men share a sacred word and nothing else, they mistake the agreement for kinship and the kinship for safety, and the mistake runs quiet until a Shabbos table seats the rabbi next to the founder and both of them say they live for growth and neither hears the gap. The work of reading a man starts there, at the word he loves, with the patience to ask what world stands behind it before assuming it is yours.

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The Gallery and the Wing: Rabbi Berish Goldenberg and the Hero System of the Beit Din

Start with the courtroom.

The Airport Courthouse sits near the runways at LAX, a low building where the planes climb over the parking lot. Inside, early in 2004, Superior Court Judge Katherine Mader sets the terms of David Schwartz’s freedom. He pleaded no contest the year before to a lewd act with a boy under fourteen, one count, eight others dropped, and he served his year in a treatment home. Now he comes home to Pico-Robertson, and the judge draws a line on a map. Stay east of La Cienega. Keep a hundred yards from the schools and the shuls where the boys might pray.

In the gallery sit men in black hats. One of them is Rabbi Berish Goldenberg, principal at Yeshiva Rav Isacsohn Toras Emes and chair of the Family Commission of the Rabbinical Council of California. He came to be seen. “The families see us there and the community knows we’re there,” he tells the reporter Julie Gruenbaum Fax, “and I think that it’s an important factor for them to know we are not just going to sweep this under the rug.”

Across the aisle sits the defense. Vicki Podberesky speaks for Schwartz. She has her own line, and it cuts the other way. “The court has commented that the victims need to step back and let the man lead his life.”

Two sentences, one room. Each speaker says something true. Each says something the other cannot use. To read the gap between them, start with Ernest Becker (1924–1974).

In The Denial of Death (1973) Becker argues that a man holds off the knowledge of his own death by joining a scheme of meaning larger than his body, a hero system that promises his life will count after the body fails. The scheme assigns the roles. It says what a hero looks like, what a coward looks like, what counts as a clean life and what counts as filth. A man inside the system does not see it as one option among many. He sees it as the world.

Goldenberg has built his life inside a particular scheme, and it runs through children. He raises money for a school of more than a thousand boys and girls, the largest Orthodox elementary day school outside the New York area. Its campaign carries his face and a slogan about inspiring children who will inspire children after them. The promise of the yeshiva is a chain. Torah passes from a man to a boy to the boy’s sons, and the line does not break, and that unbroken line is how a finite man touches something that does not end.

So the molester is not one crime among many in this scheme. He is the terror. He poisons the transmission at the youngest link. He takes the vehicle that carries the community past death and he fouls it. A man who has spent decades building children feels that harm in the place where his own meaning lives.

A second terror sits beside the first. The tradition calls it chillul Hashem, the desecration of the Name. The community holds its holiness as a public fact, a light to be seen. Abuse inside the camp, inside the shul, inside the school turns that holiness into a scandal, and worse, hands the scandal to outsiders, to the gentile court, to the reporter, to the front page. For generations the defense against that second terror was silence. Guard the Name by keeping the shame inside the family. Handle it at home.

You read a man by what he gives up. Goldenberg, in the Schwartz case, gives up the silence. He sits where the families can count the hats. He signs his name, with Rabbi Avrohom Union, to a letter filed with a secular judge on March 2, 2004, asking the court to bar a convicted man from any shul where children pray, to seat him only among the old men, to keep him from the mikvah. Mader reads the letter and says no. The rabbis ask anyway. They put the request in writing, in a public file, under their own names. A generation earlier the same men might have kept the whole thing in the back room. Goldenberg moves it to the gallery and the docket.

The renunciation is real. It is also partial, and the limit of it tells the rest of the story.

Take the word protection. Goldenberg uses it. The detective uses it. The defense attorney uses it. They are not telling the same truth.

For the homicide detective who worked the camp case, protection is distance you can measure. A radius. A registration that lasts for life. A boundary at La Cienega and a hundred yards of air around a school. He thinks in restraining orders because he has seen what happens when the order runs loose. Protection is a wall, and the wall has coordinates.

For Podberesky, protection runs the other way. She guards the accused from the state and the mob. She tells the reporter that the system runs imperfect, that innocent men sit in cells, that a man facing a life sentence will plead to a lesser thing to be sure he sees his children again. In her scheme the hero stands between one frightened man and the full weight of the government, and protection means the presumption that survives even a plea.

For the public-health officer who studies how predators find the young, protection is base rates and exposure. Remove the source from the susceptible. No arc of the soul, no second act, only the arithmetic of who gets hurt next and how to lower the number. She treats the seat among the old men as quarantine.

Goldenberg’s protection holds a piece of each and answers to none of them. He wants the wall, so he signs the letter. He wants the man watched, so he speaks of monitoring. He wants the watching done by the beit din, the rabbinic court, inside the house. “In one sense we want to be harsh and tough and make him understand that he is going to be monitored,” he says. “On the other hand we are here to help.” The detective hears half a sentence he can use and half he cannot.

Now take the deeper word, the one that carries the whole scheme. Teshuvah. Return. The penitent who turns back.

Here the hero systems split hardest, because the same act looks like grace from one seat and theft from another.

For the Trappist in his choir stall, every soul stays open to redemption to the last breath, penance runs long and public, and the door is never barred to the man who turns back. For the parole officer, return is a curve on a chart, a recidivism rate, a thing you predict and never trust. For the founder of the recovery house down in Culver City, a former convict himself, the word for a healed man is not cured. It is recovered, present tense, never finished, one day at a time. Each scheme has worked out what it owes the man who did wrong and wants back in.

Goldenberg’s scheme owes him. Teshuvah ranks among the highest goods the tradition knows. The beit din that monitors Schwartz also offers to sit with him, to help him find a job, to find him a shul, to bring him home. Rabbi Shalom Tendler, on the same board, frames the duty in the negative and means it as honor: it would be wrong, he says, to solve the problem by pushing the man onto some other town. The scheme refuses to make the penitent another community’s burden. It takes responsibility for his return.

Hold that value still and look at it from the seat of the child he harmed. From there, the arm that shelters the penitent is the same arm that covers the crime. The second chance handed across the table to the man is the first chance taken from the boy. Grace offered to the one who turned looks, from the other seat, like the community choosing him over the children he hurt.

The Schwartz case is the clean one, because a court ruled first. The rabbis arrived after a conviction, and the scheme’s pull toward the penitent ran inside the lines a judge had already drawn. Watch what the same pull does when no court has spoken.

A young woman named Sima Yarmush, raised in a Chabad home, granddaughter of an Auschwitz survivor, says a man at a Santa Monica center molested her when she was fourteen. At eighteen she came forward. An Aleinu social worker promised her four rabbis and a beit din. By her account, given to Jewish Community Watch and the Los Angeles Jewish press, the four men heard her recount the acts in detail and then sent her off with blessings and little else. She names Rabbi Berish Goldenberg among them. She says he is the one who took her accused abuser under his wing. When an investigator from Jewish Community Watch later called the accused man about the allegations, the man, by her account, called Goldenberg, and Goldenberg called the investigator, troubled that the group might expose him. The Jewish Journal, reporting the event, withheld the accused man’s name because no court had charged him.

Set the cases side by side and the scheme reads plain. The value that arrived for the families in the gallery, the refusal to push the problem away, the long patience toward the man who might still turn, is one value, not two. It protected children in the case a judge had already settled. By the victim’s account, it sheltered the accused in the case the judge never saw. Becker might not call this hypocrisy. He might call it the cost of the hero system. The scheme that lets a community carry a man home past his worst day is the same scheme that can carry him past his victim.

Three places locate the man.

The first is the gallery at the Airport Courthouse, where he sits in his black hat so the mother of a hurt boy can see the rabbis chose her side. Read him there and he is the reformer who buried the hush.

The second is the wing, the arm a rabbi puts around a man the community has decided to bring back. Read him there and he is the keeper of teshuvah, the one who writes off no Jew, including the worst.

The third is the room after the beit din, the one Sima Yarmush walked out of with her blessings and her silence. Read him there and the same arm that gathers the penitent has closed around the wrong man, and a girl stands outside the chain the whole scheme exists to guard.

He is one man in all three rooms, and he carries one set of values through each. The values hold steady between the rooms. The inputs change, and the same love of the chain that seats him beside the victim in the first room seats him beside the accused in the third. That is the hero system. It gives a finite man a way to outlast death, and it decides for him, before he knows he has chosen, which terror he answers first.

A community that wants both, the watch in the gallery and no silence after the beit din, has to see that a single value drives both rooms. Goldenberg shows it. He kept the watch older rabbis avoided. He also kept the wing. The work left undone is the work of saying, in advance and out loud, which one comes first when a child and a penitent reach for the same arm.

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The Hero System of Rabbi Samuel Ohana

A scroll sits in a garage in the San Fernando Valley and gathers dust. The year is 1994. Rabbi Norman Pauker has fallen sick and closed his synagogue, Mishkan Israel. He gives the prayer books to one rabbi and leaves four Torah scrolls in his garage, wrapped in velvet, behind the car. Rabbi Samuel Ohana (b. c. 1935) keeps visiting him, because Pauker is a friend and no longer ventures out. A year passes. One afternoon Pauker tells him he has a guilty feeling about the scrolls in the garage. Take them to your synagogue, he says. Ohana answers that he will not buy them. Pauker says he does not want to be paid. He says it is forbidden to leave them gathering dust. So Ohana carries them out one at a time to his car. Rita Pauker stands at the curb and holds the door open for him while he loads them.

That image holds the whole story. A man carries the holy out of a garage and a widow holds the door. Both of them touch the same four objects. Neither sees the same thing.

Pauker dies. For four years before that he comes to daven in Ohana’s storefront shul on the yahrzeit of his parents. Then one day his widow asks whether the scrolls are insured. A few weeks later she says she wants them back. Ohana asks why. To sell, she tells him. They can bring eighteen thousand dollars a piece. For my retirement. Ohana tells her a sefer Torah was never hers and never her husband’s, that men donated these scrolls to be read in a minyan, and that a thing given to the holy cannot be inherited and sold. She says no. These are for my retirement. He offers her twelve thousand dollars from his congregation, money raised to help a widow. She refuses it. She goes to the police and calls him a thief. The investigator tells her there is no theft, only a dispute over ownership, and that she should take it to a court.

Ernest Becker (1924-1974) built his last book, The Denial of Death (1973), on the claim that a man cannot live with the knowledge that he will die and rot and be forgotten, so he joins a hero system, a scheme of meaning that promises his small life counts inside something that outlasts his body. The promise rides on objects and titles and acts that the system marks as sacred. A flag. A diploma. A name carved over a door. The object carries no worth on its own. The system pours the worth into it. Change the system and the same object turns into something else in your hands.

No object carries this load better than a Torah scroll, and the four scrolls in the dispute prove the point by meaning a different thing to every man and woman who reaches for them.

To Rita Pauker the scroll is an asset. Eighteen thousand dollars, times four, set against an old age with no income behind it. She lives inside a hero system most Americans share without naming it, the one that reads a paid mortgage and a funded retirement as the proof that a life added up and a person provided. In that system a scroll left in a garage is dead capital, and a scroll sold is a daughter’s tuition or a roof that holds. She is not a villain in her own story. She is a widow doing the arithmetic her world taught her to respect.

To an auction house the same scroll is provenance. Age, the hand of the scribe, the town it came from. One of these four came out of the Westminster collection in London, rescued from scrolls the Nazis left behind. In the market that history lifts the price. The hero system of the collector turns a sacred text into a rare survivor and prices the survival.

To Rabbi Avrohom Union and the council the scroll is a flag of jurisdiction. The question for them runs underneath the scroll and has little to do with velvet or silver. Who rules. Whose ruling other men obey. Ohana keeps his own beit din, holds ordination as a judge from the Chief Rabbi of Israel, and answers to no council. To a man whose hero system is built on the authority of a central court, an independent judge across town is a standing rebuke, and a contested scroll is the chance to make him bend. Ohana reads it this way and says so. He thinks Union takes the case to start crushing rival courts.

To the men named on the silver rings the scroll is a grave that speaks. One ring records parents who lost a son in their own lifetime. Another carries the name of Mrs. Walter’s husband, dead in California. The Westminster scroll stands in for a murdered people. In that hero system the scroll is the only afterlife a name reliably gets, the dead made to live each time the reader’s hand moves under the letters. Sell it and you bury the dead a second time, and this burial leaves no stone.

To Ohana the scroll is none of these. It is a loan from the holy, on deposit in this world, written to be carried and read and never owned. A scroll in a garage is a sorrow he will fix by carrying it into the light. A scroll on an auction block is a desecration, the sacred turned into the merchandise it exists to refuse. The first he can repair. The second he cannot allow his hand to touch.

Seven hands, one set of scrolls, seven worlds. That is Becker’s lesson set down on a table in Sherman Oaks. The worth of the holy thing lives in the system, not in the parchment.

Watch the same split open under a word. Ohana says, more than once, that he lives off nobody. He earns his bread in business, in the weddings he performs, in the social security he paid into across a working life. He says the council attorneys call him names and the names do not reach him, because no man feeds him and so no man can buy his silence. He calls this independence. The word sounds like a flat coin. It is not.

For a career soldier independence is mastery inside obedience, the freedom of a man who has drilled a hard thing until no order can rattle him. For a cloistered monk it is release from the world’s opinion through total reliance on God, a freedom bought by owning nothing. For a small shopkeeper it is a till no bank holds a lien against. For a tenured scholar it is a chair no dean can take, which frees the tongue. Each man says independence and means a different country. Ohana means the one a working man earns. He spent a year trying to live off a new congregation, Adat Jeshurun, failed at it, and went into business to feed six children. He learned there what his independence would cost and where it would come from. It comes from the feeding hand he refused. It buys him the right to speak his mind, which is the same right that once kept him out of the council. When he asked to rejoin, two rabbis told him they could not take him back, and the reason they gave was that he speaks his mind. Another rabbi pushed them and they relented. The word independence, in his mouth, is the price tag on candor.

Recognition splits the same way. For an actor recognition is the face the crowd knows. For a scholar it is the footnote that cites him. For an official it is the box above his on the chart. Ohana’s recognition lives in none of these rooms. His conversions and divorces hold up in Israel, and for years he sat on the short list the Israeli Rabbinate keeps of rabbis whose conversions it will honor, three names in all of California. He earned that standing by a chain. He learned under East European masters in London in the 1950s. He taught, for a time in Morocco, the boy who became Shlomo Amar (b. 1948), Sephardic Chief Rabbi of Israel. Other students of his became judges in Israel, in Paris, in Argentina. Recognition, for him, is a place in a line of transmission that runs back before he was born and forward past his death through men who now outrank him. The council cannot vote that away. As one rabbi put it, no matter what the council does, no one can shake Ohana’s tie to Amar.

Two terrors stand behind the man, and they are not the textbook pair. The first is the scroll in the garage, the holy gone dark, the chain of reading stopped, the dead left without a voice. Oblivion. The second is the scroll on the block, the holy given a number, the sacred made into the thing it was written to deny. Desecration. For most men oblivion frightens more. For Ohana the order flips. A forgotten scroll can be carried into the light and read tomorrow. A sold scroll has already become its opposite. The second terror runs deeper because it cannot be undone by a willing hand.

Becker offers a test he calls subtraction. Strip a man of every prop his culture lends him and watch what stands when the borrowed things fall. Strip Ohana. The first congregation failed inside a year. He spent his working life in trade, not in a pulpit. The council tried to bar him and granted him the seat with bad grace. His shul is a storefront on Burbank Boulevard, a hundred families, folding chairs, a Talmud-Torah, a Sunday morning minyan. Take the building, the title, the council card. What stands is the ordination from the Chief Rabbi, which no local council issued and none can revoke, and the line of students who became judges and chief rabbis. That is the floor under the man. The hero system exists to guard that floor.

Then comes the morning that shows what the floor costs. The council rules against him. It tells the widow first that she has won, then sends him the order to hand the scrolls over so she can sell them. He comes to his shul to daven on Shabbat and finds the ruling pasted to every window of the storefront. The night before, when he davened, the glass was clean. Someone hung a ruling about sacred property by breaking the Sabbath to do it. He calls Union after. He offers a deal. Take the scrolls yourself and do what you want with them, he says, but I will not hand them to a woman to sell, because I do not own that right. The answer is no. Give them to her and obey the ruling, or it will cost you money and aggravation. Then the civil suit, the free lawyers, the long road through a second rabbinical panel and a kvetch of a ruling that finds the scrolls belong to a shul that exists only as a tax shelter, and so belong to the woman who controls the shell.

Three coordinates fix the man.

He stands below the council that judges him and above it at once. Below it on the chart, a storefront rabbi behind on his dues. Above it in the only ledger he respects, the one where rank comes from the masters who taught you and the students you sent into the world. He measures himself by a line the council does not control, which is why the council’s ruling lands on him as paper on glass and not as a verdict in his soul.

He guards a rule, not a possession. He says again that the scrolls are not his. He fights to keep them out of a sale, not to keep them in his ark. The thing he defends is the line that the holy has no price and no heir who can cash it out. Lose that line and a Torah becomes eighteen thousand dollars, and a memorial becomes a retirement fund, and the dead on the silver rings go quiet.

The independence that frees him also strands him. The man no one feeds is the man no one can call to heel, and the man no one can call to heel ends up alone with the scrolls, the ruling drying on his windows, the other rabbis afraid to take the heat, a panel of his peers ruling against the plain sense of the rings. He wanted a standing no council could buy and he got it, and the price of it sits in the room with him. He is seventy-five. He says he has no time to waste on this. He has carried the scrolls into the light, and he means to keep them there, and he will pay for it by himself.

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The Judge Who Vanishes

The questions come by phone and by fax. A man in Memphis wants to know whether the chicken his wife salted is fit to eat. A widow in Los Angeles wants to know whether she may remarry, and when. A young couple stand at a window in a hotel near the dateline and ask where the Sabbath begins for them, since the sun and the calendar no longer agree. Rabbi Yosef Y. Shusterman takes the question, opens the books, and decides. He carries smicha and dayanus from the Lubavitcher yeshiva in New York. He directs Chabad of North Beverly Hills, sits on the Bais Din, serves on the Vaad Rabbonim Lubavitch, and answers sheilos from across the country. Men who know the field call him a posek of the first rank.

A posek decides. That is the whole craft. He does not write novels or found companies or run for office. He sits with a question and the long shelf of prior rulings and says permitted or forbidden, pure or impure, bound or free. The decision is the unit of his work, and the decision is also, in the terms Ernest Becker (1924-1974) gave us, the unit of his heroism.

Becker built his account of human life on a single hard premise. Man is the animal who knows he will die. He carries a body that rots and a mind that can picture the rot in advance, and the picture is unbearable. So he builds. He builds cultures, creeds, monuments, families, codes, and into each of these he pours the hope that some part of him will outlast the body. Becker called these structures hero systems. A hero system tells a man what counts as a life worth having lived, and it promises him that if he plays his part he will earn a share of something that does not die. The Denial of Death (1973) names the terror at the root. Escape from Evil (1975) names what men do to each other while fleeing it. Every culture, Becker argued, is at bottom a way of granting cosmic significance to creatures who suspect they have none.

Here the reading turns, because Becker also described two pulls inside every man. One pull drives him to stand out, to be the singular hero, the name that rings. The other drives him to merge, to dissolve into a power larger than himself and be carried by it. Most lives wobble between the two. The Chabad posek does something stranger. He seeks the highest standing through the deepest dissolving. He becomes a great authority by becoming, in his own account, no one at all.

The word for this in his world is bittul. Self-nullification. The Tanya, written by Schneur Zalman of Liadi (1745-1812) and studied in Shusterman’s beis midrash to this day, teaches that the Jew holds two souls, an animal soul that wants the world and a divine soul that wants its Source, and that the labor of a life is to thin the first until the second shows through. The goal is not to become a large self. The goal is to become a clear window. When Shusterman rules, the ruling carries weight to the degree that nothing of Shusterman clouds it. He does not say what he thinks. He says what the Torah holds, and the less of him stands between the question and the law, the more the answer endures. Becker’s hero wants to be someone forever. This hero wants to be nothing now, and that nothing is the form his forever takes. His name enters the chain of decisions, cited by men not yet born, because he kept his name out of the way.

Hold that paradox and the man’s sacred values come into focus. They are common words. Freedom. Joy. Home. Every hero system uses them, and each system means a different thing by them, because a value takes its meaning from the kind of immortality the system is selling. The word is the same. The world behind the word is not.

Take freedom. To the parolee walking out the gate with forty dollars and a bus ticket, freedom is the absence of the wall, the right to turn left or right with no one logging the choice. To the founder who just sold his company, freedom is capital, the power to do the next thing without asking. To the Stoic in the manner of Epictetus, freedom is the narrow sovereignty a slave keeps over his own assent when everything else is taken. Each of these men means something true, and each means something set by the death he is trying to outrun. The parolee fears the cage. The founder fears irrelevance. The Stoic fears the indignity of a soul jerked around by chance. Now bring the word to Shusterman. In his world freedom is cherut, the freedom of the Exodus, and the Exodus did not end in an open desert with no master. It ended at Sinai under a new yoke. The slave to Pharaoh became the servant of God, and Chabad calls the second condition the only freedom there is, because the man who answers to no law answers to his own appetite, and the animal soul is a harder master than any king. Freedom, here, is the yoke chosen with joy. To the parolee that sentence might sound like a fresh prison. To Shusterman it names the one door out of the prison the parolee cannot see.

Take joy. The word travels even worse. To the hospice nurse, joy is presence, the small grace of a good afternoon at the edge of death, joy with no future tense. To the ultramarathoner at mile eighty, joy is the body past its own complaint, the high that comes when the will wins. To the Epicurean it is a fine meal and a clear conscience and friends at the table. To the Pentecostal in a storefront church it is the Spirit landing, the room gone electric, the self swept out by a power from above. Chabad makes joy a command and a craft. Simcha is not the mood that arrives. It is the mood a man builds, on purpose, against the gravity of the animal soul, because despair is the soul’s true enemy and joy breaks the siege. A hasid trains himself toward simcha the way the runner trains toward the eightieth mile. He sings at the farbrengen until the singing changes him. Shusterman’s joy is labor that looks like ease. The runner might recognize the discipline. The nurse might recognize the defiance. Neither has the cosmos behind the feeling that the hasid has, the conviction that his manufactured gladness pleases the Infinite and hastens a world to come.

Take home, and the stakes rise, because home sits at the center of everything Shusterman does. To the refugee, home is the place that was taken, fixed forever in memory at the hour of leaving. To the developer on Wilshire, home is a unit, a price per square foot, an asset that throws off rent. To the merchant sailor three weeks out, home is the shore he carries in his chest, more vivid for the distance. To the hospice patient, home is the room he wants to die in rather than the ward. Chabad means by home something none of these men means. The Alter Rebbe taught that God created the lower world because He desired a dwelling in the lowest place, a dirah b’tachtonim, a home down here in the dirt and the traffic and the kitchens of Beverly Hills. The whole project of the Jew is to build that home, one permitted chicken and one honest scale and one lit candle at a time, until the physical world holds the Divine the way a house holds a family. So when Shusterman rules on the kashrut of a kitchen, he is not policing a diet. He is laying brick on the only house Becker’s frame cannot explain away, the house meant to make the impermanent world a fit address for what does not pass. The refugee’s home was lost in time. The developer’s home is priced in dollars. This home is under construction in eternity, and every ruling is a course of brick.

Now the chain, and the strange immortality it offers. Becker watched men reach for symbolic life through works that outlast the body, the book on the shelf, the firm with the founder’s name on the door, the child who carries the face forward. The posek reaches through the responsum. A teshuvah he writes today may be cited in fifty years by a younger dayan facing the same knot, and that citation is the only afterlife in writing that his craft allows him. Yet the craft also forbids him the founder’s pride. He cannot rule by his own light. He must show that his answer descends from the Shulchan Aruch and the Rebbeim and the long argument that runs back to Sinai, and the more faithfully he disappears into that line, the more his particular ruling stands. His name lasts because he subordinated his name. This is the engine the founder would find unintelligible. The founder’s monument bears his own face. The posek’s monument bears the face of the law, and his reward is to be a true link, indistinguishable in kind from the links before and after, carrying the current without dimming it.

The hero system has a center, and the center is a grave. Chabad ran for two centuries on the living presence of its Rebbe, and the seventh, Menachem Mendel Schneerson (1902-1994), drew the movement to a pitch of devotion that the world outside still struggles to read. He sent young couples to cities with no Jewish life and told them to build. He spoke of redemption as near. Then he died, and the death tore at the movement along its deepest seam, because a creed built on a living channel to Heaven had to decide what the channel’s death meant. Some hold that he did not in the full sense leave. Pilgrims still write notes and carry them to the ohel, his resting place in Queens, and ask him to intercede. Becker would call the Rebbe the transference object of the whole system, the figure onto whom men loaded their hunger for a hero who cannot fail. He would call the response to the death the test every hero system meets at last, the hour when the immortality it promised must answer to a body in the ground. Chabad met that hour not with collapse but with expansion, more emissaries, more institutions, more lit candles, and a posek like Shusterman stands inside that answer. He does not resolve the question of the Rebbe in a sentence. He lives the answer by continuing the work, by deciding the next sheilah, by keeping the house under construction while the founder lies in Queens and the disciples build on.

Set him beside the men this essay has summoned and the shape of his life comes clear. The founder wants the monument with his name on it. The parolee wants the open road. The runner wants the body’s victory. The nurse wants the good afternoon. The developer wants the rent. Each is a true man inside a true system, and each system is a way of refusing to be only a body that ends. Shusterman refuses in the rarest direction. He pursues permanence by erasure, authority by submission, a great name by the suppression of the name, a home for God by the ruling on a chicken. He answers the phone in Beverly Hills, where the cars cost more than the buildings in the towns his movement was bred in, and he treats the caller’s small question as a brick in a structure older than the city and meant to outlast it.

Three things to carry away from him.

The first is that his bittul is not weakness and not modesty in the ordinary sense. It is a wager about where lasting weight comes from. He bets that the self that pushes forward is the self that dies with the body, and the self that thins itself into a clear channel touches the one thing that does not. The wager looks like surrender. It works, in his world, as conquest.

The second is that his sacred words will keep misfiring across the lines between hero systems, and that this misfire is the ordinary condition of moral speech, not a failure to be repaired. When Shusterman says freedom he means the yoke, and the man who fought a yoke his whole life hears an insult. When he says joy he means a discipline, and the man who waits for joy to arrive hears a denial of feeling. The words cannot carry their meaning across the border alone. Only the whole system carries it, and a man who wants to understand the posek has to enter the house and see what the bricks are for.

The third is that the posek offers a clean case of the thing Becker spent two books circling, the human reach past death dressed in the costume of a particular creed. Shusterman would not accept the description. He does not think he denies death. He thinks he tells the truth about it, that the body is a garment and the soul goes up and the world is a home in the making. The frame and the man disagree at the root, and that disagreement is the honest place to leave them. Becker gives us the question every life answers in its own currency. Shusterman answers it in the currency of the law, by vanishing into it, and by deciding, one more time, whether the chicken may be eaten.

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The Hero System of Rabbi Gershon Bess

Six weeks before Pesach the office on Beverly Boulevard fills with paper. Companies write back, or refuse to. A legal department permits an answer by phone and forbids one in writing. Another sends a letter that says the product holds gluten at four parts per million and so it stays safe. The rav reads each reply against the question that runs under all of them, whether a trace of a grain derivative, inert, unswallowable, fit for no dog, still counts before God on the one week a year when a mashehu counts. He has done this for more than three decades. The list began at five pages out of the Kollel of Los Angeles. It runs now to a book that the Baltimore Star-K cosponsors, several thousand products, mailed once to a woman in Montana who told him she trusted the Kollel’s health information over her own doctors.

Rabbi Gershon Bess sits as rav of Congregation Kehilas Yaakov at 7211 Beverly Boulevard, in the stretch of Los Angeles that the frum world calls Hancock Park and the maps call Beverly-La Brea. He came up through the yeshivos of Philadelphia, then Ponevezh in Bnei Brak, then Lakewood, then the Kollel here, and he stayed. He gives daf yomi at six in the morning. He sits on the Bais Din of the Rabbinical Council of California. The community calls him its senior posek, and the title carries weight that an outsider underrates, because a posek does not advise. A posek rules. When he ruled, some years ago, that a worm found in wild salmon stayed forbidden, he did not say he found the stringent view persuasive. He said the lenient ruling stood contradicted by Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv (1910-2012) and Rav Shmuel Wosner (1913-2015), and he put his name to the correction so that no man could keep quoting those sages in favor of a leniency they had refused.

Ernest Becker (1924-1974) wrote that every human culture is a project against death. In The Denial of Death he argued that man is the animal who knows he will rot, and who cannot live inside that knowledge, and who therefore builds a system that promises him a share in something that does not rot. Becker called these hero systems. A hero system tells a man what counts as significance, what counts as cowardice, what a life adds up to when the body fails. It hands him a script for cosmic heroism and lets him forget, most days, that he dies. Becker thought religion the oldest and frankest of these systems, the one that names the terror out loud and answers it without apology.

A posek lives at the center of such a system, and the two terrors take a shape there that they take nowhere else.

The first terror is annihilation. The answer the system gives him is the chain. He learns the same tractate his rebbe learned, who learned it from his rebbe, back through the Chofetz Chaim, Rav Yisrael Meir Kagan (1838-1933), back through the Rishonim, back to a wet morning at a mountain. A man who teaches the same page that will be taught after he dies does not die in the way other men die. His ruling on the salmon outlives his lungs. The list goes out next spring under his name whether or not he draws breath to mail it. Becker would call the chometz book a small immortality project, and he would not mean the phrase as mockery. He would mean that a man found a way to weigh several thousand objects against eternity and to leave the weighing behind him, intact, transmissible.

The second terror is the one Becker took from Otto Rank (1884-1939), the horror of the creature. Man defecates and bleeds and ages and wants, and he cannot bear to be only that. The posek’s answer is the most thorough that any system has built. Halacha takes the animal facts, the eating and the sex and the blood and the death, and runs each one through a law that reaches back to Sinai, and so the creature stops being a creature. The mascara on a woman’s lash becomes a question of cosmic standing. The worm in the fish becomes a ruling that the Talmud already anticipated. Nothing the body does stays merely biological. The system catches every surface of the animal and lifts it. This is why the cautiousness looks excessive from outside and feels like devotion from inside. The care is the lifting. A man who treats the four parts per million as if heaven watched has converted his own creatureliness into significance, which is the thing Becker said every man dies without and cannot live without.

He gave things up to stand there. Becker’s heroes always do. The yeshiva years subtract the wider world’s heroisms one by one. The boy who could have chased money chases a sugya instead. The young man who could have made a name in the street makes it in the beis medrash, where the currency is a sharp question and the proof is whether the gedolim answer your phone call. Bess tells of asking Rav Meir Soloveitchik, the Brisker Rav’s son, whether the list was worth continuing, since it cost so much labor, and being told that the Brisker Rav, Rav Yitzchok Zev Soloveitchik (1886-1959), would not buy medicine after Pesach from a pharmacy unless a frum pharmacist had sold its stock before the holiday. The story is a transmission. It says: your stringency is not yours, it descends, you are a link and not a source. When Bess says he is not the last word but only one of the words, he states the deepest article of his hero system. A man who is the last word stands alone and dies alone. A man who is one of the words belongs to a sentence that no single death can finish.

Now take the values he lives by, and watch what happens to each one when it crosses into a system built against death by other means. Becker’s hardest lesson hides here. The words do not travel. A sacred value is not a stone that every culture picks up and weighs the same. It is a sound that means one thing in this cosmos and another thing in the next, and the men who use it rarely notice they are speaking different languages.

Take truth.

For the posek, truth is faithful transmission. The salmon worm is true or false depending on what the sources hold and on what Elyashiv said in the room and not in the rumor. To correct a misquotation of a sage is to defend the truth, because the truth lives in the chain and a broken link is a lie. A commenter on the worm ruling jabbed back from another cosmos. He wrote that the worm had always lived in the world, that the Creator of the Torah had not missed it, that to think the worm a new arrival was nonsense, since we do not believe in evolution. He thought he was scoring a point. He had wandered into a marine biologist’s house and started rearranging the furniture. For the biologist the same worm, Anisakis, carries truth of a different kind. It is true because its lifecycle runs through krill and fish and marine mammals, because you can trace it, because the next dissection will either confirm the trace or break it. The biologist’s truth bends to the next observation. The posek’s truth bends to the prior authority. Same animal in the same flesh, two truths that cannot share a table, because one descends from Sinai and the other ascends from the sample.

A trial lawyer holds a third truth. For the litigator truth is what survives cross-examination, what an evidence rule admits, what twelve strangers will credit. He does not ask whether a thing happened. He asks whether he can prove it happened by the means the court allows. The 2015 statement that Bess signed with three other rabbis leaned on exactly this truth and named it. The statement explained that slander law makes an accuser liable unless the accuser can prove the charge, that the proof becomes impossible when the victim’s identity stays hidden, that the accused holds a constitutional right to face his accuser. To the litigator that paragraph reads as competent. To the survivor it reads as a wall.

Take caution.

The posek’s caution is worship. He goes beyond the letter because the letter is the floor and the love of God lives above it. A founder in a glass building eight miles west holds the opposite creed. For him caution is the thing that kills companies. Move fast. Ship it. The man who waits for certainty arrives second, and second is dead. He might read the four-parts-per-million correspondence as a sickness, a fear of action dressed as virtue. A heart surgeon stands somewhere between them and shows that the same word can discipline without sanctifying. The surgeon’s caution is total, checklist by checklist, but it answers to the body on the table and to the morbidity numbers the department publishes each quarter, not to a week in spring when a hidden trace offends heaven. Three men, three cautions. One sanctifies. One destroys. One saves lives and stops there.

Take honor.

Kovod haTorah is a cosmic quantity. When Bess made his protest he made it, he said, for the honor of the Torah, which means the honor of the sages who carry it, which means the honor of the chain that holds off death. To diminish a gadol is to thin the rope every Jew hangs from. A Marine sergeant uses the same English word and means the unit, the men beside him, the flag that will fold over a coffin. A duelist two centuries back meant a thing he would shoot a friend to keep. The modern corporation has nearly lost the word and runs on its thin cousin, reputation, which is honor with the soul removed, honor as the thing a public-relations office protects. And then there is the survivor, for whom the word arrived as a noose. Sima Yarmush stood up in California and said the rabbis had failed her when she came forward as a girl. In the long comment thread that followed, a voice told her she owed the four rabbis a public apology, that her speech was a chillul Hashem, a desecration of the Name, that she had committed the sin of lashon hara against men whom thousands trust on every matter of life. Inside the posek’s hero system that rebuke is coherent. Honor is real, honor is owed to the carriers of Torah, and a public accusation that cannot be proven damages the honor and the chain at once. Inside the survivor’s hero system the word honor names the force used to keep her quiet. The same five letters. A sacrament in one cosmos and a gag in the other.

Take protection.

This is where the systems collided in public, and the collision is worth slowing down, because it shows Becker’s point at full size. In 2001, after three abuse cases shook the community, a group of rabbis formed the Halachic Advisory Board, and Bess joined it. Their 2015 statement described what they do. They route cases to the authorities where the law requires it. Where a family will not file, they require the offender to undergo evaluation by a credentialed agency, to sign a release, to comply with the experts’ recommendations, and they follow up. They wrote that they would go beyond the letter of the law to protect victims, families, and communities, and a retired LAPD supervisor, Paul Bishop, vouched that they never held back information and moved past their own comfort to do right.

For the Halachic Advisory Board, protection means containment that keeps the kehillah whole. Note the third noun. They protect victims, families, and communities, and the community sits in the sentence as a body with standing, a thing that can be wounded and must be shielded. The community is the vessel that carries the chain that defeats death. To shatter it is not a side cost. It is a desecration on the order of the harm.

For Jewish Community Watch, the advocacy group that backed Sima and that Meyer Seewald founded, protection means the opposite operation. It means sunlight. Name the man. Warn the next town. Strip the title. A predator who keeps his standing keeps his access, and a community spared its scandal is a community that fed its children to the scandal. The comment thread carried the charge in plain words. The rabbis, one wrote, sent the abuser to another community with children and warned no one, and the new town learned of his record only late. Others answered that he started his own institution rather than being placed, that the family was brought to the police and refused to press charges over fear for a daughter’s shidduch prospects, that the rabbis begged them to file and they would not. The facts stay contested in the record, and an honest writer leaves them contested. The structure does not. The structure is clear. One hero system measures protection by what stays intact. The other measures it by what gets exposed. A move that satisfies the first betrays the second by definition, and no amount of good faith on either side closes the gap, because the gap is not about faith. It is about which death each system most fears. The board fears the death of the community. The advocate fears the death of the next child. Each calls its fear protection, and each hears the other’s protection as the very danger it formed to fight.

The police supervisor holds a fourth meaning again. For Bishop, protection runs through charges filed and evidence preserved, and where no one files, he said himself, there is little the law can do. The epidemiologist might hold a fifth, protection as the warning issued to every exposed party regardless of any single person’s wish for privacy, because the pathogen does not respect privacy. Set them in a row and the word fractures into five objects that share a spelling and nothing else.

Becker did not write to make any of these men comfortable. He wrote to show why they cannot agree and why they cannot stop. Each one stands inside a system that converts his terror into purpose, and the systems are not negotiable, because to surrender the system is to face the thing the system was built to hide. Ask the posek to weigh the community lighter and you have not asked him to revise a policy. You have asked him to loosen his grip on the rope over the pit. Ask the survivor to weigh the community’s wholeness against her warning and you have asked her to feed the next child to the silence that swallowed her. Neither can do it. Neither should be expected to find it easy.

Three coordinates, then, for reading a man like Gershon Bess without flattering him and without condescending to him.

First, the stringency and the discretion grow from one root, and the root is reverence. The care that weighs a trace of alcohol against heaven is the same care that hesitates before a public accusation it cannot prove and a rupture it cannot heal. A reader who admires the first and despises the second has not yet seen that they are one disposition facing two objects. The work is to judge the object, the trace and the accusation, separately, and to grant that a single devotion produced both.

Second, the word that travels best between hero systems is the word most likely to start a war, because each speaker assumes the other means what he means. Truth, honor, caution, protection. When the posek and the survivor both say protection and mean opposite operations, the shared word does not bridge them. It hides the canyon until someone falls in. The honest move in any such fight is to stop trusting the shared vocabulary and to ask what each speaker fears most, since the fear, and not the word, is the thing that will not move.

Third, a man who calls himself one of the words has told you how to bury him and how he hopes to escape burial. He does not want to be the last word, because the last word is final and a finished sentence is a dead one. He wants to be a clause in a sentence that no one finishes, the chain that runs past his lungs and carries his ruling on the salmon and his list of cosmetics into a spring he will not see. Becker would say the wish is human to the bone. The wish is the denial of death wearing its oldest and most disciplined clothes. Whether the sentence he serves is the sentence God is writing, or a sentence men wrote and attributed to God, is the question his whole system exists to keep him from asking, and it is the question that the woman behind the mechitza, speaking into a room that did not want to hear her, asked on his behalf.

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Out of Town That Day: Yonah Bookstein, Welcome, and the Dead

The office sits up a flight of stairs off Pico Boulevard, a modest room with a guitar somewhere in reach. Rabbi Yonah Bookstein (b. circa 1970) has played since he was thirteen. He greets a visitor as an old friend before the man has found his seat. Thirty years of communal work stand behind him, Poland and Oxford and a Fulbright, the festivals, the shul he planted in Pico-Robertson on Rosh Hashanah of 2013. He waves most of it off. The story he wants to tell starts in a basement in Warsaw.

Ernest Becker (1924–1974) built a small, hard argument. Man is the animal that knows he dies. To carry the knowledge he builds a hero system, a set of rules that tell him what a life counts for and how to earn a place past his own death. The system answers two fears at once. One is the body in the ground. The other is the suspicion that a man might live and die and leave nothing, that his days add to zero. A culture, Becker writes in The Denial of Death, hands its members a script for heroism so the second fear stays quiet.

For Bookstein the second fear wears a face. A people declared dead.

He grew up traditional in Detroit and found it breathing faintly. Knowledge without fire. Two men woke him in college, Rabbi Hanan Sills at Hillel, who had been arrested beside Martin Luther King in Florida, and the singing rabbi Shlomo Carlebach (1925–1994), who showed him a Judaism with a pulse. By the time he reached that Warsaw basement he carried Becker’s two fears in local dress. A people in the ground. A faith breathing so faintly it might join them.

He went to Europe in 1991 as a representative of a Zionist youth movement and added a side trip to find where his grandparents came from. A friend from Detroit met him in Warsaw. They rode packed trains north to his grandfather’s town the same day Pope John Paul II (1920–2005) arrived, a million people crowding the roads to see him. The friend moved on. Bookstein stayed for Shabbos. In the basement of the Jewish theater he found young Jews laying out a Shabbos meal, alive, curious about their own roots. He had been told the country held only graves. My mind was blown, he says. The basement subtracts the picture he came with. He spends three weeks in Warsaw and Kraków and Lublin among people digging for what the war buried, and he does not get over it. He comes back as a Fulbright scholar, studies Yiddish and anthropology at Oxford, writes a thesis comparing Hasidic and Zionist pilgrimages to Poland, and runs the Ronald S. Lauder Foundation (its patron Ronald Lauder, b. 1944) through the rebuilding years. He cuts short his rabbinic studies because the work cannot wait. He buries the dead, kashers the kitchens, teaches the children, an acting rabbi before he is a rabbi.

In 1992 he walks the streets of Kielce with a recorder and no Polish, working through translators. He asks old men about the fourth of July, 1946, the day townspeople killed about forty-two Jews who had survived the camps and come home, the killing set off by a boy’s invented tale of kidnap, a blood libel a year after the war ended. The old men tell him they were out of town that day. The silence holds the town together. Becker has a book for this. In Escape from Evil he argues that men buy their own innocence and their own permanence by loading their death-fear onto a victim and casting him out. A clean town, a continuous town, a town that did nothing, needs a Jew who had it coming or a crime that never happened. The pogrom and the eighty years of denial after it run on one engine, the need of frightened men to feel deathless and good. Bookstein spends three decades on the other side of that engine. He gathers the tapes, digitizes them, and builds a book, Denial Is a River in Poland, with a foreword from the Holocaust scholar Michael Berenbaum (b. 1945). The victims, he writes, still wait for justice.

So a man with this history walks into a field at Coachella and puts up a tent. The choice looks like whimsy and reads as theology.

Welcome is his first sacred word. Inside his hero system the word means resurrection work. Every Jew who steps through the flap of the Shabbat Tent, the singer and the stoner and the woman with tattoos who drifted after her bat mitzvah, is a candle relit against the dark his grandfather’s town went dark in. He runs the tent at Coachella and High Sierra and the Rainbow Gathering, services and challah and a Friday dinner before the headliners, an open jam after Shabbos ends. Putting up a tent and welcoming people, he says, is in our DNA. He builds Pico Shul for the Jews who fall between college and family, the ones the synagogue software cannot even count because it files everyone by household. A woman with dreadlocks once told him that had she known Jewish life could feel like this, she might never have left. He treats that sentence as a recovered soul. Welcome, for him, enlarges a people that an enemy tried to subtract.

Welcome travels badly across hero systems. The Bedouin host of the open desert takes in the stranger because honor commands it and because next dry season he might be the stranger at another man’s fire. Hospitality there guards a man’s name and the unwritten law that keeps the desert survivable. The Benedictine receives the guest as Christ, the line from The Rule of Saint Benedict, because the face at the gate might be God in disguise, and a monk earns heaven by missing no such visit. Among Pashtuns, melmastia shelters even the enemy who reaches the door, and a host might die for a guest he despises, because the code outranks the grudge. A casino host in Las Vegas greets the high roller by name, remembers his drink, learns his children’s ages, and tools every warmth to keep the man at the table losing. A growth lead at a software firm calls the new user’s first screen a welcome flow and counts the welcomed as a number that must climb each quarter. The doorman at the rope welcomes by refusing, and the worth of his nod rests on the crowd he turns away.

Each man says welcome and means a different cosmos. Guard my honor. Earn my heaven. Keep my code. Work my mark. Grow my metric. Protect my exclusivity. Bookstein says welcome and means one more Jew inside the covenant, one more body counted among the living after the count came up short by six million. The tent flap is his resurrection equipment.

Memory is his second sacred word, and it splits the same way.

Inside his system memory speaks. He drags the Kielce silence into the open, names the day and the dead and the lie that killed them, publishes the tapes, hands the murdered back to the conversation of the living. To remember, for him, is to refuse the verdict of extinction a second time, after the bodies and again at the grave of the story.

In Kielce a man says he was out of town that day, and the sentence does its work for eighty years, holding the town whole by holding the murder wordless. A Confucian household sets out the ancestral tablets and feeds the dead on schedule so the line stays unbroken and the living keep their rung on it. A war-crimes prosecutor builds memory into an exhibit of evidence, dated, sworn, admissible, so a court might fix a guilt and close it. A Soviet retoucher lifts the fallen commissar out of the photograph with a brush, and the nation remembers a parade with a gap where a man stood. A hospice chaplain sits with a dying woman and helps her tell her life back to herself, so she goes out having been heard. Each calls the work remembering. The Kielce townsman remembers by sealing. The prosecutor remembers to convict. The retoucher remembers by erasing. Bookstein remembers by opening, which is the operation the town built its peace to prevent.

Three places show the man whole.

Watch the threshold first. The tent flap, the office door, the seat offered before the question. His heroism lives at the point of entry, and a visitor learns more from the first thirty seconds than from the resume he waves away. A rabbi who loved his sanctuary best would stay in it. This one loves the field with thousands in it and the door of his tent open to anyone.

Watch next his traffic with the dead. A hero system shows its spine in what it does with the people it could not save. His answer runs toward speech every time, the recording, the published name, the eighty-year silence broken in print. Set him beside the old men of Kielce and the whole argument stands in the open. Two systems, one need under both, opposite answers. Seal the dead away and stay clean. Or call them back and stay faithful.

Watch last the wager beneath all of it, that warmth outruns extinction, that a people counted dead returns one Shabbos meal at a time. The wager carries a cost he pays where it shows. Warmth at that pitch burns the man who supplies it. The festival circuit asks a body to keep summer hours for decades. The software built for families could not track his singles, and the shul folded its room over COVID even as the work went on. A man who stakes his life on the open door spends it afraid of the empty tent at three in the morning, the hour he names himself, when the music stops and no one comes.

He goes back to Poland still, year after year, to the quiet streets that turned his life. He carries a recorder and a list of the dead. He puts up the tent. He lifts a glass of wine in a country that forgot it had Jews, and the act answers Becker without troubling to name him. A man cannot beat death. He can choose what his dying will have served. Bookstein chose in a theater basement in 1991, and he has not revised the answer since.

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