* I had to explain last night to a group of men the “double standard” of sexuality. They wondered why a man is championed for multiple sexual partners, but a woman is chastised for it.
I told them this “double standard” is because women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men are visual and a man will walk into a room and pick out which women he wants to have sex with simply based on how they look. Women are not nearly as visual, and when she walks into a room she may find a man visually appealing, but will not have sex with him simply based on his looks. She needs to have an attachment beyond the physical. Because of this, when a man approaches a woman and says “let’s have sex,” she will say “no” a vast majority of the time. End of story. When a woman approaches a man and says “let’s have sex,” he will likely oblige immediately a vast majority of the time.
* I always liked how it was phrased in City Slickers: “Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place”
