The Rule Of Three

Amy Klein writes in the Jewish Journal (I love her singles columns, her other writing, not so much):

The weird thing about mixed seating in synagogue is that sometimes couples are all over each other. Inappropriate during prayer time for sure, but somewhat more distracting when one half of that couple happens to be a guy you once dated.

A guy you dated until he yelled at you for seven excruciating minutes on your fourth date and then you said you had to go, I mean really go, and did just that.

A guy you dated now sitting in the row in front of you, caressing — for your and the entire synagogue’s benefit — the brown curly hair of a short, dark woman who resembles you as if you were all interchangeable.

Marc writes on the Jewish Journal forums: "I’m new to Los Angeles. A synagogue with so many single women on a Friday? Where is it?"


The Web Guy responds: "Friday Night Live."

Jo Levi writes:

I was going to suggest going to one of the many Orthodox and ultra-Orthodox temples here in the Southland, but realized that holiness is not what you desire on a Friday night.

The women who do attend are separated from the men, so as not to distract them from prayer and respect for G-d. Dancing is prohibited..sort of like eating ham.

But of course, unlike many non-Orthodox single women who spend their Friday evenings cruising the city looking for pick-ups and potential marriage partners, most women who do attend Orthodox services Friday night and Saturdays are married, raising several Jewish kids.

I suppose they would still be dancing at Sinai Temple, looking for their mates, if they had listened to Web Guy’s advice.

The way to meet a nice HAMISH Jewish girl, is definitely not by looking forward to square, modern, ballroom or disco type dancing at our holy places on a Friday night, which, for real Jews should be spent in devotion and prayer.

In fact, I can vouch that many of my friends and relatives have recently attended Jewish celebrations of several kinds, wherein the men and women are separated and certainly not allowed to dance with one another afterwards.

There is a proper way and an improper way to be Jewish. Apparently Web Guy with all his recources still doesn’t get it. Or as we say, "Its a shandah for the goyim".

There are so many places where singles go after the Sabbath services are over (Saturday)., to meet a fine, outstanding Jewish girl., who, follows the commandments to honor thy father and mother, and OBSERVE THE SABBATH, something some people should know by now.

Food for thought.

Oh btw, in many areas still faithful to their Jewith faith, entire neighborhoods close down on Friday night and Saturday, because of the above commandment. Then afterwards of course, there is time for entertainment, and joy.

Perhaps if more of we Jews obeyed the simplest of Moses laws, there today would not be 50,000 leaving the fold so to speak, for lives of termoil and confusion. (Over one-half of Jewish children now have a non-Jewish parent, according to surveys).

Frankly, it all starts with disrespect of Sabbath services.

Chaim Braverman writes:

Dear Marc.,. I wish you lots of success in finding a Jewish spouse.. but please be aware of the above suggestion….


Music on Shabbat is not permitted according to halacha…(Jewish law)

Mixed dancing is not permitted according to halacha (any time)

Microphones are not permitted on Shabbat according to Halacha

Please be aware a place like this mentione above.. is not giving you a "Shabbat Experience".

Perhaps – try Aish Hatorah, Bnai David Judea or Torah Ohr on Pico.. and learn about authentic Judaism.. not something else..

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