Rabbi’s Book Seeks To Prevent Adultery

Worried your man might cheat?

A Miami Beach rabbi who is a regular on the talk-show circuit (he’s been on Oprah nine times, twice this month), says you need to greet him at the door dolled up and ready with a kiss and a smile and some genuine interest in how his day went.

”We do bring the best or worst out in our spouses,” says M. Gary Neuman, a therapist who deals with family issues and whose latest book, The Truth About Cheating (Wiley, $24.95), ranked No. 9 on Sunday’s New York Times hardcover-advice bestseller list. ”And men are far more impressionable than you think,” Neuman says. “They are shocked themselves when they get so lost that they cheat. It means so much to them when another woman comes around and does nice things for them.”

So, in general, you need to remind your guy how much you appreciate him. You need to stroke his ego about what a good provider he is (even if you’re bringing home a good portion of the turkey bacon). You need to — get this — be happy with that piece of jewelry he got you, even if you’re dying to run back to the store and exchange it for something you actually like.

And you need to step things up in the bedroom. He’s not expecting acrobatics. But whatever he usually gets, he wants more often.

Remember these things, and maybe he won’t be a dog, Neuman says. Turns out men’s feelings are a lot more fragile than anybody really suspected. After interviewing 100 cheaters and 100 faithful men, Neuman learned that the main reason men stray is not the sex. In fact, most of the cheaters said the other woman was less attractive than the wife.