I hear secular Jews complaining frequently in public about their spouses while I almost never hear that in Orthodox life. It’s simply not an acceptable thing to do in the Orthodox world I know.
Why is this? When marriage/sex/food/drinking are no longer regarded as sacred obligations, they become abused.
There’s a much greater sense of obligation in Orthodox life (obligations to each other, to God, to the community, etc) and a much greater sense of entitlement in secular life.
