The Worst Thing You Can Say To A Woman

David DeAngelo writes:

One of the problems with "telling her how you feel" is that it instantly changes the dynamics of the situation.

When you say, "I like you" – in her head the woman hears:

"He is admitting to me that he likes me, which gives me all the power, which, for some strange reason, makes me not like him as much anymore."

I realize that this sounds crazy, and doesn’t make a whole lot of "logical sense", but it’s what usually happens.

It has a lot to do with the fact that when most guys say, "I like you" they sound like needy kittens that just want to cuddle and suckle the bosom of mommy… which isn’t exactly "attraction creating" stuff.

About Luke Ford

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