Sharon emails: Dear luke, I’m not sure if you’ve been following the thr recent tragedy/scandal coming out of Lakewood NJ about a frum mother of kids that decided to become an atheist, and run off with a hasidic guy who has a child while both of them are still marries to their previous spouse. Many in the frum community are watching this case, as the custody battle is going on in court. There are allegations of neglect and abuse towards the children as she pursues the life of partying nightly and is resolved to acquire fame and fortune as a Hollywood star! Here is an interesting little article thats been floating around and being texted like fire within the religious community.
M=mother. D=8 year old daughter
D: Mommy
M: Yes dear…
D: Are we frum?
M: Um who do you mean by “we”?
D: You know our family…
M: Well… your frum your brother is frum your…
D: Are you frum?
M: Um, not really. But why are you asking me all this?
D: Some girls in school were saying that were not frum…
D: Mommy?
M: Yes dear?
D:Are you listening to me?
M: Of course. I heard you, Im just in middle of texting someone sheifaleh.
D: Who? The man that was here last night?
M: No someone else dear
D: Why did that man touch you so much, none of my friend’s mothers let men touch them so much.
M: When you grow up you’ll understand sweetie, Sheifaleh go play with the new gameboy that mommies friend bought you last week so I can take care of some important texts.
D: I didn’t like that man that bought me that gameboy, he also always kisses you. Uch…
M: Ok sweetie, let me take care of these things now and then Im gonna drop all of you off at Feldman’s house for the night. Ill buy you a new toy when I pick you up. K?
D: Mommy!!! NO!!! You said on Sunday that for the rest of the week we don’t have to sleep by someone else’s house. Besides where do you always go? Why cant you take us with you? My friend’s mother never goes away so much. Please mommy don’t go away. Please don’t make us sleep by Feldman’s house tonight.
M: Sorry dear, I loves you very much. Sometimes even when mommy’s love they’re kids they need to go away. The other option is I can call Chaya to stay with you till Wednesday. This time ill tell her no smoking in the house.
D: Every time she comes she only gives us Fruity Pebbles for supper. And even though you told us you gave her money for pizza she didn’t order any.
M : I can have a talk with her…
D: Mommy is it true you want to make us frei?
M: No way! Chas veshalom! I want you to be what ever you want to be.
D: Will you let me become frei when I become older? Right your frie mommy? Frei means the opposite of frum right?
M: Of course ill let you become frie…if that’s what you want to be. Let me tell you something zeeskite and remember this for your whole life, being a yid doesn’t mean you have to do things you don’t want. In America everyone is free to do what they want. Its in the Constitution. You know what the constitution is?
D: No. But I don’t want you to be frei. I’m so embarrassed no other girl in my school has a freir mother. Besides my friend said that someone who stop’s being frum wont get to see mashiach…and also…
M: why do you have tears in your eyes sweetie? Come here sweetie. Why are you crying?
D: I’m so embarrassed if you’ll come to the class performance in school next week…mommy please don’t come… please,
M: uch Shefaleh people are so mean in school they make you feel embarrassed. Tell totty you don’t like that school. You have to tell him alot. Oh, anyways I might not be able to come that day anyways cus I might need to go away then, so you don’t need tom worry.
D: The last time everyone was staring at you and whispering…
M: Don’t learn from them. To make people feel bad is not nice.
D: Why did you stop being frum mommy? I think we would be happier if you would also be frum. No? Can you become frum again? And then marry totty again! Yay! Please mommy. That would be so great!
M: I wasn’t happy being frum so…
D: Yeh, but were not happy that your frei. I hate it. Goldy said if I daven then to hashem and ask him maybe you’ll become frum again.
M: Goldy said that? Tell her its none of her business. She doesn’t know what she’s talking about. I know the whole family would be happy if I were frum, but then I wouldn’t be happy. If im happy then you’ll be happy. A sad mother is not good for the kids also.
D: Are you happy now mommy when your not frum?
M: Yes. Very happy!
D: So why are we all so sad. We’re supposed to be happy if your happy. Uch…just become frum again mommy. Please…
M: Oh sweetie your crying again…I hate seeing you cry. You want mommy to buy you those Uggs boots when I get back? Its not always a mothers fault when kids aren’t happy sometimes frum people are mean and that’s why you’r not happy. You want me to by you those Uggs?
D: Yes but I want you to buy it. I don’t like when that man always gives me things that you said your gonna buy.
M: Ok dear.
D: Do you daven for me mommy? Do you sing vizakeini for me mommy? Tzippys mother always cries when she benches licht…
M: One second I need to take care of this text. Can you put your pajamas in you briefcase please sweetie.
D: Totty said he sings vizakeini all the time and he also cries when he benches licht. He said it’s a “mommy song”, but he doesn’t care and he sings it anyways.
Can you start benching licht again?
M: I do. last week I did, remember?
D: Yeh but you were in such a rush and then you went to shoprite with that man.
M: Honey its getting late… We have to get going. Mommy loves you. Don’t forget that. Mommy loves you more than anyone. I love you more than I love myself. I would run in to a burning building to save you chas veshalom. If people say that its not true its all cause they’re just trying to be mean and they’re jealous of me.
D: Mommy please don’t make us sleep at Feldman’s house tonight. Please. I wont ask you to by me the Uggs. Please mommy…
