Do You Feel Anxiety When You Lose Facebook Friends?

Well, that was weird.

I had somebody I know (met her twice) friend me on Facebook and then after I accepted her friend request, she deleted me.

And we have about 40 friends in common — on Facebook and in life.

So how do you react to Facebook anxiety? When you log in and notice you have two fewer friends, what do you think? Do you assume people have deleted you? Do you feel anxious that you have lost friends? Do you want to figure out who it is that has de-friended you?

The more you have going on in your life the less anxiety you’ll feel about these Facebook matters. The more secure you are, the less you’ll worry about Facebook nonsense.

It’s all about differentiation (as spelled out in the great book Passionate Marriage).

About Luke Ford

I've written five books (see My work has been noted in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and 60 Minutes. I teach Alexander Technique in Beverly Hills (
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