A Man’s Opinions

On Dennis Prager’s show Jan. 5, Alison Armstrong said: “A man’s safety lies in his productivity, his ability to produce results. If a man is trusted and respected, he has the biggest access to productivity. You’ll bring out the worst in a man if you disrespect him (particularly publicly) or distrust him.”

“What makes a woman feel safe is when she feels connected.”

Dennis: “If my wife were to differ with me a lot, I would think the connection were breaking.”

Alison: “A man’s opinions are very different from a woman’s opinions. More precisely, the masculine relationship to opinions is different from the feminine relationship to opinions. If you ask me for my opinion, you will get my opinion in the moment. There’s no commitment involved. If you ask a man what he thinks, you will get a product of his values and the information he trusts. His values are who he is. He puts together who he is with the information he has validated over a lifetime, so he forms opinions. So every opinion he has is the best he has to offer.”

“A man’s opinions are always an expression of himself. So he’s invested in them and that’s why he defends them.”

“When I tell a woman I agree with her, I know we’re going to have a moment of connection. Our eyes light up and we know it’s going to be awesome.”

“Conservative and liberal are really masculine and feminine. Conservative means to protect and to provide, the masculine job. To protect and then to provide. The feminine is all about enhancing the quality of life for everyone.”

Dennis: Conservative women tend to vote on the conservative side because they are already protectors.

Alison: “Being a mother means being a protector. It’s very masculine being a mother.”

How does a man express his beliefs without disconnecting from his woman?

Alison: “You have to express things that are in the background for you. You have to say, I have this position because I care about you, because I am committed to protecting you. Because I care about the family’s welfare.”

Dennis: “So if I support capitol punishment and my wife opposes it, I should say, ‘Honey, the reason I support capitol punishment is because I want to protect this wonderful family.'”

Alison: “Yes! If you articulate your commitment, I am reminded of your love for me and that your opinion comes from there.”

Dennis: “Bring your macro position into the micro. ‘Honey, I am for smaller government because it will give our family more opportunity.'”

Alison: “Men are energy conservers. Why waste energy stating the obvious? If you want to get along with women, always state the obvious.”

Dennis: “There is a girl named Dina. I was 18. She was 19. We went out the whole summer. We were counselors at a summer camp. She set my life on its course because she listened to me and affirmed what I believed.”

Alison: “When a man expresses an opinion, instead of asking yourself constantly, ‘Do I agree with that?’, instead, listen to learn. Ask yourself — What matters to him? What does he really care about? What is he showing me that is at the heart of who he really is?

“When you express an opinion, you reveal yourself, which is why a man won’t express an opinion to someone he doesn’t respect. If he’s revealing himself by telling you his opinions, that tells you he does care about, that you are someone worth spending energy on. If you listen for what matters to him, you’ll learn that what matters is taking care of his family. That will make you feel safer and more secure because you will find out what is behind his opinion.”

“You’ll be better informed and better able to predict him because men act on their opinions.”

Jan. 6. Dennis: “The rating system is for kids. It should not be your guide. There are PG-13 films that are unbelievably raunchy and pointless and vapid.”

“I don’t think there’s an NC-17 movie worth seeing.”

From DennisPrager.com:

Thursday, January 06, 2011 Radio Show
H1: Movie Ratings
Prager H1: Dennis argues that religious adults should not be so rigid as to miss worthwhile R rated movies like “The King’s Speech.” He also makes the case that parents should expose their age appropriate children to important R rated films like “Schindler’s List.” Callers weigh in.

Thursday, January 06, 2011 Radio Show
H2: Basic Sowell
Prager H2: Dennis talks to the great Thomas Sowell, scholar in residence at the Hoover Institution, Stanford University. His essential book Basic Economics: A Common Sense Guide to the Economy has now been issued in a 4th edition.

Thursday, January 06, 2011 Radio Show
H3: Danger in Pakistan
Prager H3: The assassination of a liberal politician in Pakistan is deeply disturbing. The murderer was not greeted with universal condemnation; on the contrary, the he’s been praised by Islamists, showered with rose petals on his way to court… The ACLU is trying to bring down another cross, this time in San Diego. The liberal 9th Circuit Court is always ready to lend a hand. What does a war memorial cross have to do with the government promoting one religion over another?

Wednesday, January 05, 2011 Radio Show
H1: Is Death Penalty Still Viable?
Prager H1: Dennis debates David Garland, Professor of Law and Professor of Sociology at New York University. His new book is Peculiar Institution: America’s Death Penalty in an Age of Abolition.

Wednesday, January 05, 2011 Radio Show
H2: Male/Female Hour: Alison Armstrong on Breaking the Code
Prager H2: Dennis talks to relationship expert and regular Male/Female hour guest, Alison Armstrong, about how men and women hear the same words differently and how they can get on the same wavelength.

Wednesday, January 05, 2011 Radio Show
H3: The Republican Congress
Prager H3: John Boehner was sworn in as the new Speaker of the House. In turn, he welcomed the new Republican Majority. They have their work cut out for them… Egypt is headed down a very dangerous path, blaming anything that goes wrong on Israel…A hero in Pakistan, a regional governor, a liberal reformer, was murdered by a member of his own guard.

Assassination in Pakistan Rocks That Country

This is the biggest story of the year, so far. And it’s very disturbing. If Pakistan falls, the consequences will be very grim, not just for Pakistan, but for the world, too.

Thomas Sowell: Basic Economics

Dennis talks to the greatThomas Sowell, scholar in residence at the Hoover Institution, Stanford University. His essential book Basic Economics: A Common Sense Guide to the Economy has now been issued in a 4th edition.

More on Alison Armstrong

You can learn more about Alison Armstrong, her books, and her popular seminars here.

A History of American Death Penalty

Dennis talks to David Garland, Professor of Law and Professor of Sociology at New York University. His new book is Peculiar Institution: America’s Death Penalty in an Age of Abolition

Study: Give Alzheimer Patients What They Want

Give chocolate to a 96 year-old-Alzheimer patient. Why is this so innovative? Isn’t it just plain common sense and decency? What a world we live in.

Michael Young: Why Is US Placating Syria?

The President used the Congressional recess to appointment an ambassador to Syria for the first time since Syria orchestrated the assassination of the prime minister of Lebanon in 2005. The very measured Michael Young calls it foolish, but it’s clear that he thinks it’s stupid and counterproductive.

Young Europe: Educated and Frustrated

The most important story of the year and we’re only three days into it! Do these young Europeans understand why they are in this position? That socialism is a dead end. That only free market capitalism can save them?

How to Destroy the Imagination of Your Child

Dennis talks to Anthony Esolen, professor of English at Providence College. His new book is Ten Ways to Destroy the Imagination of Your Child.

About Luke Ford

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