Steve Sailer writes: That raises the question of which heterosexual man never made an “unwanted sexual advance”? Warren Beatty in the year after the release of Bonnie and Clyde? Wilt Chamberlain during the Lakers’ 33-game winning streak? Jimmy Page and Robert Plant during Led Zep’s “Stairway to Heaven” tour of Australia?
Way back in 1992 I pointed out that the conventional definition of illegal sexual harassment as making “unwanted sexual advances” threatened to get President-Elect Bill Clinton impeached eventually:
The word in the orthodox description that especially troubles Americans (and baffles Europeans) is “unwanted.” Logically speaking, we could, like the Khmer Rouge in the Year Zero, try to abolish all sexual advances, unwanted and wanted. Given enough secret policemen, it might almost be doable. But to try to eliminate just the advances that turn out to be “unwanted” while preserving the “wanted” ones, requires not just a police state but a time machine. …
Trust me, few guys like getting rejected. It’s just that no advance is wanted or unwanted until it’s made. Unwanted sexual advances are the price we all pay for the survival of the species. …
Surveys report that a large minority of American women say they have been sexually harassed. What these confirm is that the majority of women don’t take the fundamentalist definition seriously, otherwise the surveys would find not 30% or 40% agreement, but virtually 100% . What self respecting woman would admit that no man had ever made an unwanted sexual advance toward her? She’d be admitting either that no man’s ever made her a sexual advance or that she’s never met a sexual advance she didn’t like.
It’s discouraging that our elites are as dumb about this simple point as they were two dozen years ago the first time a Clinton ran for President.
COMMENTS:
* The rock star Rod Stewart often proudly sported the slogan ‘Sex Police’ at concerts, in videos, stage sets etc. Apparently, it’s a long running in-joke with the aptly named Rod and his entourage.
All stems back tons time in the 1970s when Rod Stewart and his crew were touring Germany, and winded up in Hamburg’s notorious Reeperbahn.
One night, many of Rod’s entourage retired to their hotel rooms with questionable female company. Somehow, Rod Stewart had procured a German police cap and uniform. Suitably attired, Rod kicked down the hotel room doors and barked, in best cod German accent ‘Ve are de Sex Police and have come to arrest you’.
* Well, it can be described as discouraging. We could also call it catastrophic. I think that this is one of the reasons why I like your writing, Steve. You are an optimistic, glass half full type guy.
* Sailer I don’t know why you didn’t go into law, given your reflexive contrarianism.
One vestige of my Catholic upbringing is a general reticence to talk about my sex life with people other than my sexual partners and close friends, but I suppose in this case it’s germane.
I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve made anything that could be construed as an “unwanted sexual advance”, and not for lack of effort or opportunity. I had a high number of sex partners during my more degenerate years (none of which were strictly transactional affairs (just to preemptively shut the trolls up)).
It’s not hard to tell when a woman wants you to ask her out. It’s not hard to tell when a woman wants you to kiss her. It’s not hard to tell when a woman wants you to undress her. It’s not hard to tell when a woman wants you to engage in sexual activity.
And all my “unwanted” advances were arguably not that unwanted at all. All the instances involved women who were clearly sexually aroused but, for whatever reasons, did not want to sate their desires. And frankly that’s never been a big deal for me since my overwhelmingly favorite part of sex has always been the feeling of being desired.
When most people talk about “unwanted sexual advances” they’re talking about advances from guys like Trump with overinflated egos and underdeveloped empathy. If you don’t believe the stories that these women are saying about him, you’re dumb.
* How can a man know whether a sexual advance is wanted before making one? One way is by asking, but this all goes back to wide-spread hypocrisy about the subject. How many women want to be asked first? How many women would respond positively to a verbal query even if they’re interested? Are women that expect and want men to take risk less entitled to their desire than ones that would rather be asked verbally?
Formally it has to be illegal to make a sexual advance, because women are entitled to protection, certainly minors are. But then all assault is illegal, and men still get into bar-brawls, fist fights, etc. They don’t run to mama, to the press or to police every time that happens.
There has to be some leeway where people can act on primal instincts without making a Federal case of it. People who want to cooperate have equal rights to people who don’t, and they’re entitled not to have their ability to cooperate foreclosed by people who don’t want to cooperate.
That’s why men are afraid to publicly come out and state that some of the accusations levelled at Trump, even if true – are insignifcant. It’s not behavior that should be legal – but who gives a sh*t if it happened? There are gray areas in life, and a lot more is at stake than this garbage.
Hillary Clinton is a woman who more than likely has been sexually repressed most of her adult life. Why was her husband chasing so many other women all those years? Where was she getting her sexual needs fulfilled? This pussy-grab-gate agenda isn’t about protecting women. It’s about protecting sexually repressed people of both genders. Clinton assumes everybody is as sexually repressed as her and would give a da*n.
* Yes, I think the allegations are all a distraction from the wikileaks leaks.
Yes, I think the media is all in for HRC. Yes, I also believe all of Bill Clinton’s accusers.
Yes, I think Hillary Clinton is a despicable human and would make a catastrophic president.
No, I would not piss on her if she were on fire.
Yes, I am probably still going to vote for Trump.
But yes, I believe his accusers and I believe there are probably more to come.
* We’ve arrived at the end times of sexual politics in America, an era that started in the 1820′s with women married to men who fell victim to cheap 120 proof beverages, beginning the Temperance movement (the national criticism of male behavior) and the Suffrage movement (the political replacement of disgusting, fallible men with the perfect part of humanity – women).
The female empowerment and male white knighting that resulted has now reached its logical conclusion; all women are victims and we must stand society on its head to offer our infinite contrition.
As Hillary totters spastically toward victory in November with a Botox grimace of joy, we men are left with the feeling that Saurona has got the ring of power and women have won a dismal victory so complete that no man can see its ending, if you’ll forgive my butchery of Tolkien.
* In one sense it’s depressing: It’s been 25 years, and yet here we are, still allowing men to exist and interact with women. Join me in signing a petition to ban males from public office.
* I think back on the testimony of Anita Hill, and what a mountain was made about a molehill. Let’s see. . . Thomas is supposed to have asked her out a few times. He mentioned the name of a character in a porno film, “Long Dong Silver.” He saw a kinky hair on the lid of a Coke can and said it looked like a pubic hair. I recall Orrin Hatch reacted to that last one as if it were the most appalling thing he had ever heard. And Orrin was a friend of Teddy Kennedy!
In my corporate years I heard worse nearly every day. As someone observed, “How did Anita Hill survive middle school?” She must have been the original fragile snowflake. Or more likely, the original put-up feminist character assassin.
* Steve, this is why you have to be very careful on WASP cultural worship. I’m mostly descended from them so I can say this, but it’s looking more and more like they’re somewhat of a fluke
Sure, you can admire them all you want for supposedly being the nicest, most civilized, highest civilization or whatever. But does that mean anything if they collapse after such a short time?
Should a husband be applauded for being so nice to his wife, always forgiving her for cheating on her all the time? So much so that you suspect he might be enjoying it, watching it, sneakily driving her to it by being “nice”?
* The field is littered with the dead and bleeding bodies of people who thought they were smarter than Donald Trump. One more to go!
* The Arkansas state troopers reported she and Vince Foster might have been an item.
Maybe Vince was in love with Hillary, but Bill’s election meant they could never be together and that made him suicidally depressed?
It’s almost certainly not true, but it’s the most romantic conspiracy theory ever made up about Hillary.
