Category Archives: Personal

If You Can’t Connect With People, You’ll Have To Connect To Something Else Such As A Process Or Substance

I tweeted yesterday: “The higher my quality of life, the more secure my attachment, the less hold my addictions have on me.” Harel responded: “Luke, this really hit home with me. Can you expand on this?” We are wired to … Continue reading

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How Do You Use Your Judaism?

There’s probably nobody I admire more than my friend (he’s never had a parking ticket!) and the other day he was discussing a bargaining position. I interrupted: “I love how you use your Judaism.” I’d said the same sort of … Continue reading

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Taking Offense

I’ve never been offended in my life so I’m always amused when I meet smart successful people who take offense at the noting of obvious truths. If I say, “Wow, blacks run really fast!”, people I’ve known will get angry … Continue reading

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Am I Willing To Align My Will With God’s Will?

This has always been the hardest part of religion and 12-Step work for me. I want to do my own thing but only when that keeps resulting in disaster for me do I reluctantly turn back to God and then … Continue reading

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Who’s More Likely To Take Responsibility? Men or Women?

For thousands of years, almost every female was some man’s property (the usual cycle was to go from being the property of her father to the property of her husband). As a man’s property, she did not have to take … Continue reading

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I Still Call Australia Home

I was working an office job and playing this collection of Australian folk songs over and over until I had tears in my eyes. The Peter Allen song, “I Still Call Australia Home,” killed me, particularly this stanza: Someday we’ll … Continue reading

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Do You Ever Want To Hurt The One You Love?

A new girlfriend got upset for days after I said I wanted to hurt her a little bit (with her full consent and knowledge). “Why would you want to hurt me?” she said days later with tears in her eyes. … Continue reading

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Symptoms Of Underearning

Here is how they have manifested in my life: 1. Time Indifference – We put off what must be done and do not use our time to support our own vision and further our own goals. L: Over the past … Continue reading

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A History Of My Underearning

When my computer died and I had to ship it away for three weeks, I went to my first 12-step meeting for debtors in May of 2015 and then I hit my first meeting for underearners on July 12, 2015. … Continue reading

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The Single Life

When I ran ads on Craigslist years ago I had to run about 7 ads to get one response, and even then it usually was spam. On Tinder I got a few responses, and it went nowhere. Of course hookers … Continue reading

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