{"id":94238,"date":"2016-04-26T17:26:50","date_gmt":"2016-04-27T01:26:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=94238"},"modified":"2016-04-26T17:26:50","modified_gmt":"2016-04-27T01:26:50","slug":"women-prefer-laconic-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=94238","title":{"rendered":"Women Prefer Laconic Men"},"content":{"rendered":"

From the Chateau<\/a>: We\u2019ve talked here about the problem of being tongue-tied in the presence of women. A scarcity of speech is the biggest issue for the majority of men. But we shouldn\u2019t forget the mirror image of this attractiveness-killing ineptitude: the nonstop talker. The motor mouth. A significant minority of men \u2014 particularly greater betas and lesser alphas on the cusp of making a mark in the world \u2014 suffer from the second problem: they don\u2019t know when to shut up and let the woman speak, enamored as they are with their blossoming manhood and acquirement of conventional male attractiveness traits.<\/p>\n

Talking too much fails on multiple dimensions: it increases the odds you\u2019ll say something dull or beta, it strips away mystery, and it demonstrates a lack of interest in the woman\u2019s values and desires. It also shows you don\u2019t truly understand women, for a harangue about your accomplishments, social climbing, materialism, or connections is a red flag to women that you are an insecure, approval-seeking mediocrity, no different than the thousands of other men dancing like monkeys for a pretty woman\u2019s attention. Harangues are especially off-putting to women when the subject matter is devoid of emotional resonance, as most men\u2019s shop talk would be.<\/p>\n

And why do women despise male suck-ups? Well, because women in their natural state rarely seek the approval of any man except the most dominant ones, they become confused and irritable when men for whom they might grant sexual access seek their approval. They don\u2019t subconsciously apprehend why a man would work SO HARD for her endorsement. What has she brought to the table in a few seconds that would catapult her to superstar status by her doting date?<\/p>\n

Oh yeah, tits and ass. But that doesn\u2019t alter the disgust women feel for lapdogs and credential burnishers. Sure, they may recognize on some deep limbic level that T&A revs men\u2019s engines, but their own psychological latticework is not constructed of male body parts, and so they don\u2019t project a female fascination with the body onto men. What they project instead is a female fascination with a man\u2019s personality and character. I.e., his alphaness. Thus, they expect men to think and feel the same way about women. They wonder why he talks so much when he should be connecting with her.<\/p>\n

On the contrary, a man who has his inner shit together, who feels pretty damned good about himself, won\u2019t be impelled to talk ad nauseam about his alpha fortune. His relaxed, cocky demeanor is his best advertisement.<\/p>\n

The vignette above is by no means exceptional. You see this sort of dynamic all the time if you go out to places where lots of couples go for dates. It should be heartening to the readers of this blog that the vast majority of men simply have NO CONCEPT WHATSOEVER of how to properly arouse a woman. Fully 90%+ of the world\u2019s men do not run any active game.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s even worse than that. Of those 90%, at least half run ANTI-GAME, like the man in the above situation. Observe people on dates and you\u2019ll see a lot of men shooting themselves in the foot. It\u2019s a wonder the species manages to propagate itself, but male persistence \u2014 and relatively faster female aging out of sexual viability \u2014 sometimes conspire to get a woman to open her legs.<\/p>\n

I remember a while back I had taken a couple of E tabs with a female friend. We spent a sleepless weekend hanging out and elevating our mental states. The E tabs pranked my brain into loquacity. I talked and talked. Verbal diarrhea. So did she, but she had not reacted to the pills the same way I had, and she hadn\u2019t consumed as much. As a result, her awareness of presence was sharper than mine. Toward the end of the weekend bender, pre-withdrawal, her demeanor had changed. She was zoning out, and crabby. Everything seemed to rub her the wrong way. Only in hindsight did I hit upon the reason for the change in her temperament. She was driven to peevishness by my excessive talking.<\/p>\n

Women may say they want a man who shares his feelings, and who tells her things about himself, but the truth \u2014 as is often the case at the disjunct between women\u2019s words and actions \u2014 is that women love laconic men. Men who don\u2019t say much. Men whose default programming is to shut up rather than open up. When these men do deign to speak, women hang on their words.<\/p>\n

Women want an EF Hutton man. When EF Hutton speaks, women listen. Be an EF Hutton man.<\/p>\n

The next time you\u2019re on a date, remind yourself to stop talking. Step outside the moment for a second and, like a third party observer floating off to the side, focus your mind on the interaction. Listen to yourself. Are you a blabbermouth? Apply the brakes to your brain. Let it cool off. Lean back and allow her to engage you for a change. Her hindbrain will thank you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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