{"id":9368,"date":"2009-07-21T18:51:00","date_gmt":"2009-07-22T02:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=9368"},"modified":"2009-07-21T18:52:18","modified_gmt":"2009-07-22T02:52:18","slug":"how-i-learned-we-were-breaking-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=9368","title":{"rendered":"How I Learned We Were Breaking Up"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><A HREF=\"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/archives\/updates\/081113a.htm\">Novelist Diana Spechler<\/a> wrote on her Facebook status update that she was reading an essay on this topic.<\/p>\n<p>That inspired me to these painful memories of relationships that came to unexpected endings:<\/p>\n<p>* It was a few minutes into the phone conversation when she said: &quot;There&#8217;s something I want to tell you. Vicki* came over Friday night and we fooled around. I was her booty call. How do you feel about that?&quot;<\/p>\n<p>* I was living with Pammy*. 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