{"id":9179,"date":"2009-06-20T21:13:14","date_gmt":"2009-06-21T05:13:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=9179"},"modified":"2009-06-20T21:13:14","modified_gmt":"2009-06-21T05:13:14","slug":"risking-it-all-for-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=9179","title":{"rendered":"Risking It All For Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

Katie Roiphe writes in the New York Times about a challenging new book on love<\/a>:<\/p>\n

Nehring sees in the grandeur of feeling a kind of heroism, even if the relationship doesn’t take conventional form or endure in the conventional way. For Nehring, one senses, true failure is to drift comfortably along in a dull relationship, to spend precious years of life in a marriage that is not exciting or satisfying, to live cautiously, responsibly. Is the strength of feeling redeemed in the blaze of passion even if it does not end happily? she asks. Is contentment too soft and modest a goal?<\/p>\n

Elsewhere, Nehring interrogates our steadfast insistence on balanced, healthy relationships, our readiness to condemn doomed, impossible entanglements. She argues that it may in fact be a sign of health to enter into a relationship that is turbulent, demanding or unorthodox. She praises long-distance relationships, arduous relationships, relationships with men who are elusive, relationships the therapeutic culture adamantly opposes. She asks, “Could it be that the choice of a challenging love object signals strength and resourcefulness rather than insecurity and psychological damage, as we so often hear?”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Katie Roiphe writes in the New York Times about a challenging new book on love: Nehring sees in the grandeur of feeling a kind of heroism, even if the relationship doesn’t take conventional form or endure in the conventional way. … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[906],"tags":[18038,18037,18036,18040,18039,18041],"class_list":["post-9179","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-love","tag-healthy-relationships","tag-katie-roiphe","tag-long-distance-relationships","tag-nehring","tag-precious-years","tag-psychological-damage"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t