{"id":8966,"date":"2009-05-15T14:19:14","date_gmt":"2009-05-15T22:19:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=8966"},"modified":"2009-05-15T14:19:14","modified_gmt":"2009-05-15T22:19:14","slug":"romantic-gestures","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=8966","title":{"rendered":"Romantic Gestures"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Jane writes: &quot;What are your thoughts on dating literary fans? Believe it or not, I have a couple. They are attractive and they come over and thumb through my writing, read it out loud and tell me I&#8217;m amazing. I&#8217;m wondering&#8230;.why not exclusively date fans instead of chasing after these &quot;unavailable&quot; men. Why pass up being adored for some un conceivable challenge? Your thoughts?&quot;<\/p>\n<p>&quot;Would you refuse a romantic gesture if you didn&#8217;t fancy the taste of something? The person giving it to you is someone you are dating.&quot;<\/p>\n<p>Luke: If I loved the person less than I hated the food, I&#8217;d refuse.<\/p>\n<p>Jane writes: Yeah, I have a canoli situation. Pretty funny&#8230; I&rsquo;m officially turned off and may never talk to this guy again, over a canoli refusal. He&#8217;s obviously not a fan! And this is what you deal with with you date non-fans.<\/p>\n<p>Luke: Fans become just as difficult because no &quot;fan&quot; you date is going to remain a fan&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Jane writes: &quot;What are your thoughts on dating literary fans? Believe it or not, I have a couple. They are attractive and they come over and thumb through my writing, read it out loud and tell me I&#8217;m amazing. 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