More craziness from a Jewish feminist.<\/p>\n
National Review<\/a>:<\/p>\n According to a piece in the feminist blog Bustle, the tradition of men proposing women is \u201cproblematic\u201d because it \u201cperpetuates rape culture.\u201d <\/p>\n Yes \u2014 not \u201cproblematic\u201d because it perpetuates recklessly emotional social media posts, but because it \u201cperpetuates rape culture.\u201d \u201cThe stereotype that men must get women to date them or marry them or sleep with them and that it\u2019s up to women to respond can be problematic \u2014 not just because it discourages women from going after what they want, but also because it encourages men to pursue what they want at a woman\u2019s expense,\u201d Suzannah Weiss writes in a piece titled \u201c6 Marriage Traditions That Reinforce Rape Culture.\u201d \u201cPutting what men pursue over what women want perpetuates rape culture,\u201d she continues. <\/p>\n Uh. First of all, by saying \u201cdate them or marry them or sleep with them,\u201d Weiss is putting propositions for sex in the same category as marriage proposals. FYI: A man asking you for sex is not the same thing as him asking you to spend the rest of your life with him, and if you can\u2019t understand that, then you have some pretty disappointing mornings awaiting you in your future. Second of all, \u201cpursue what they want at a woman\u2019s expense\u201d? \u201cPutting what men pursue over what women want\u201d? <\/p>\n How the hell does this even make sense? Is Weiss under the impression that dudes propose by saying, \u201cMarry me, or else!\u201d or \u201cI want to marry you. Say yes, or you\u2019ll never see the cat again!\u201d? Because as far as I know, it\u2019s usually something more like \u201cWill you marry me?\u201d and it costs the woman literally nothing to say no. <\/p>\n Sure, it might be a little awkward (I saw it happen once when a dude proposed to his girlfriend at the dry cleaners), but to suggest that any woman who wanted to say no would even consider doing anything else \u2014 and instead suffer through an entire life with someone she didn\u2019t like that much because she was too scared and weak to stand up for herself \u2014 is the most insultingly anti-feminist thing I\u2019ve ever heard. <\/p>\n Among the other rape-y marital traditions (according to Weiss): the bride\u2019s wearing a white dress (because \u201cit is supposed to symbolize purity\u201d) and \u201cputting more focus on the bride\u2019s looks than the groom\u2019s,\u201d which means she might not like my plan to throw people out of my wedding if they dare to even think of looking at anyone else but me.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" More craziness from a Jewish feminist. National Review: According to a piece in the feminist blog Bustle, the tradition of men proposing women is \u201cproblematic\u201d because it \u201cperpetuates rape culture.\u201d Yes \u2014 not \u201cproblematic\u201d because it perpetuates recklessly emotional social … Continue reading