{"id":8471,"date":"2009-03-15T18:23:35","date_gmt":"2009-03-16T02:23:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=8471"},"modified":"2009-03-15T18:29:45","modified_gmt":"2009-03-16T02:29:45","slug":"searching-for-the-big-o","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=8471","title":{"rendered":"Searching For The Big O"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2009\/03\/15\/fashion\/15commune.html?ref=fashion\">This sounds a lot like morning services at my yoga center<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>At 7 a.m. each day, as the rest of America is eating Cheerios or trying to face gridlock without hyperventilating, about a dozen women, naked from the waist down, lie with eyes closed in a velvet-curtained room, while clothed men huddle over them, stroking them in a ritual known as orgasmic meditation &mdash; &ldquo;OMing,&rdquo; for short. The couples, who may or may not be romantically involved, call one another &ldquo;research partners.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<p>A commune dedicated to men and women publicly creating &ldquo;the orgasm that exists between them,&rdquo; in the words of one resident, may sound like the ultimate California satire. But the Bay Area has a lively and venerable history of seekers constructing lives around sexual adventure.<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;Another member, Racheli Cherwitz, 28, had spent years grappling with anorexia and alcoholism, she said. In search of identity, she moved to Israel and became an Orthodox Jew.<\/p>\n<p>Discovering One Taste, she said, has improved her self-image and given her &ldquo;deep physical access to the woman I am and the woman I want to be.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<p>Ms. Cherwitz commutes to New York and offers private sensuality coaching at a satellite outpost operated by One Taste on Grand Street. Many of her clients, she said, are married Orthodox Jewish couples from Brooklyn.<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;Her pathway back to life was initially Buddhism, which she pursued with a vengeance, intending to live in a Zen community. But at a party in 1998, she met a Buddhist who had a practice in what he called &ldquo;contemplative sexuality.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<p>He invited her to lie down unclothed, set a timer and, while stroking her, proceeded to narrate in tender detail the beauty he saw, the colors that went from coral, to deep rose, to pearlescent pink. &ldquo;I just broke open, and the feeling was pure and clean,&rdquo; Ms. Daedone said. &ldquo;In a strange way, I think at that moment I decided to live.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<p>Since opening One Taste, she has allowed it to go through numerous permutations; to her chagrin, it initially attracted misfits who &ldquo;liked to get sloppy and grope each other,&rdquo; she said.<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;Ms. Daedone wants One Taste to be mainstream, and to that end the center presents lectures by rabbis and Tibetan monks, along with public classes and workshops in &ldquo;mindful sexuality.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>I wonder how this wisdom can be incorporated into Orthodox Judaism?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This sounds a lot like morning services at my yoga center: At 7 a.m. each day, as the rest of America is eating Cheerios or trying to face gridlock without hyperventilating, about a dozen women, naked from the waist down, &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=8471\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[16742,18,110,1029,28],"tags":[16739,16740,16741,950,1132,16738,16737,836,15368,16743],"class_list":["post-8471","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-buddhism","category-orthodoxy","category-rabbis","category-san-francisco","category-sex","tag-dozen-women","tag-hyperventilating","tag-jewish-couples","tag-orthodox-jew","tag-orthodox-judaism","tag-sexual-adventure","tag-venerable-history","tag-waist-down","tag-yoga-center","tag-zen-community"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8471","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8471"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8471\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8472,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8471\/revisions\/8472"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8471"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8471"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8471"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}