{"id":84562,"date":"2016-01-05T18:10:57","date_gmt":"2016-01-06T02:10:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=84562"},"modified":"2016-01-05T18:10:57","modified_gmt":"2016-01-06T02:10:57","slug":"what-are-the-causes-of-insecurity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=84562","title":{"rendered":"What Are The Causes Of Insecurity?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dr. Gerald Stein writes<\/a>:<\/p>\n

Insecurity is in the nature of being human. It is a commonplace, even if most people make a serious effort to disguise it. Too many things to know, too many to learn, too many rejections \u2014 most everyone has had significant experience of the things that undermine confidence. But, what makes for more than the usual amount of insecurity? What contributes to some people becoming \u201cinsecure?\u201d Here are a few of its causes:<\/p>\n

Temperament: Little human personalities can be different from the moment of birth. Just as not all children have the same color eyes or hair, neither do they have the same temperament. Pre-school kids have distinctive and lasting characteristics on such dimensions as being reactive vs. calm, tending to approach or avoid new situations, and being introverted or extroverted. While not guaranteeing fractured confidence as an adult, inborn qualities can make a contribution to it.
\nOverly Critical Parenting: Security can be undermined by parents who are too critical, neglectful, or frankly abusive. Sometimes neglect is unavoidable, as it tends to be in families where there are lots of children or the parents are working long hours outside of the home to put food on the table. But sometimes the insecurity develops because of something more subtle. If you are born to extroverted parents and you are introverted (while your siblings are more like your folks), you may feel like an odd-duck, not quite fitting in. If your dad was hoping for an athlete and you are an artist, the same sense of parental disappointment might be hard to miss.
\nBullying: Kids can be targeted by the classmates for all sorts of reasons including the way they look, where they live, how they dress; and racial, religious, or ethnic differences. Gender matters too, especially if you are the sole female in a physics class with a wise-guy classmate who makes fun of you and a teacher who hasn\u2019t the capability to stop it, as I witnessed back in high school.
\nBody Image: In a society filled with spectacularly beautiful advertising images, it is difficult to be plain; and worse yet, unattractive in any way. Too tall, too skinny, too fat \u2014 God help you. Too much acne, bad hair, a lack of finely-tuned motor coordination, same problem. Some of us continue to see ourselves in terms of that early self and struggle with the sense of insecurity produced back then.
\nLearning Problems: This can take the form of a learning disability, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), or even being average in a school filled with high achievers.
\nMultiple Changes of Residence: Being the new kid is not usually fun, especially for introverted young people who struggle with fitting in and finding friends. Insecurity can follow.
\nParental Overprotection: When parents prevent their children from doing things that are simply a part of growing up, they can communicate to the child that he isn\u2019t up to the task. Moreover, they rob the young one of the chance to grow from experience, learn what he needs to know in the social sphere, and become more confident. He may also be at risk of being seen as \u201cdifferent\u201d by his peers, because he is the kid who \u201cisn\u2019t allowed\u201d to do things most other parents freely permit.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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