I often make this happiness mistake and let go of my obligations for a few hours or days because I think I deserve a break. I become even more slovenly than normal.<\/p>\n
Gretchen Rubin writes<\/a>:<\/p>\n When you’re feeling blue or overwhelmed, it’s tempting to try to pick yourself up<\/a> by indulging in a guilty pleasure, but unfortunately, the pleasure lasts a minute, and then feelings of guilt, loss of control, and other negative consequences just deepen the blues.<\/p>\n So when you find yourself thinking, “I’ll feel better after I have a few glasses of wine … some ice cream … just one cigarette … a new pair of jeans,” ask yourself—will it really make you feel better? Or is it likely to make you feel worse, in the long run?<\/p>\n For example, I realized that one of my personal “treats” is the decision not to pick up after myself. Instead of trying to tidy as I go, as I usually do, I let small tasks mount up. “I can’t possibly be expected to hang up my coat, or put the newspapers in the recycling bin, or unload the dishwasher,” I tell myself. “I’m too busy\/too frazzled\/too upset\/too rushed. I deserve a break.”<\/p>\n The problem is that, in the end, the mess makes me feel worse. Maybe I enjoy a tiny buzz from flinging my coat onto the floor, but the disorder just makes my bad mood deepen. (Plus it’s not nice for anyone else, either.) On the other hand, serene, orderly surroundings make me feel better. Outer order contributes to inner calm.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I often make this happiness mistake and let go of my obligations for a few hours or days because I think I deserve a break. I become even more slovenly than normal. Gretchen Rubin writes: When you’re feeling blue or … Continue reading