{"id":8173,"date":"2009-02-07T20:34:44","date_gmt":"2009-02-08T04:34:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=8173"},"modified":"2009-02-07T20:34:44","modified_gmt":"2009-02-08T04:34:44","slug":"lori-gottlieb-explores-kink","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=8173","title":{"rendered":"Lori Gottlieb Explores Kink"},"content":{"rendered":"

She writes in the Sunday New York Times Book Review<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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I once dated a man who seemed perfectly normal until the day he asked me to dress up for sex. By “dress up” I don’t mean in lingerie. He asked me if I’d dress up as a cop. My experiences in costume had been restricted to school plays and Halloween<\/a>, so I was confused. “Do you have a uniform?” I asked. “No,” he replied, reaching behind his headboard for a shiny pair of handcuffs. “Just these.” I high-tailed it, raced home and called my friends to tell them what a freak this guy turned out to be.<\/p>\n

But was he? After reading Daniel Berg­ner’s unsettling but riveting new book, “The Other Side of Desire,” I’m no longer sure where normal ends and abnormal begins. Take the people Bergner, a staff writer for The New York Times Magazine, introduces us to: a devoted husband with a foot fetish, a fashion maven who’s a sadist, a man who becomes sexually attracted to his young stepdaughter (Woody Allen<\/a>, anyone?) and an advertising executive who lusts after amputees.<\/p>\n

Are all of them deviant? None of them? Or is deviance a matter of time and place, the way that a century ago, fellatio and cunnilingus were regarded as perversions in some psychoanalytic circles?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

She writes in the Sunday New York Times Book Review: I once dated a man who seemed perfectly normal until the day he asked me to dress up for sex. By “dress up” I don’t mean in lingerie. He asked … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[16,606,28],"tags":[16117,16118,16119,29995,750,30667],"class_list":["post-8173","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-book-reviews","category-lori-gottlieb","category-sex","tag-daniel-bergner","tag-fashion-maven","tag-foot-fetish","tag-lori-gottlieb","tag-rsquo","tag-woody-allen"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t