{"id":78382,"date":"2015-11-02T07:27:48","date_gmt":"2015-11-02T15:27:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=78382"},"modified":"2023-09-09T07:37:16","modified_gmt":"2023-09-09T15:37:16","slug":"conversion-attachment-addiction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=78382","title":{"rendered":"Conversion, Attachment &#038; Addiction"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In my experience, most converts to Orthodox Judaism are unconsciously trying to fill a hole in their soul, fill up a deep sense of emptiness stemming from a lack of attachment (aka an unhappy childhood) and that without deep inner work, the conversion is not going to be successful (i.e., they won&#8217;t create the happy loving home they crave).<\/p>\n<p>I wonder what percentage of converts to Orthodox Judaism could be called a success?<\/p>\n<p>If I were doing conversions to Orthodox Judaism, I would demand that would-be converts enter a 12-step program of their choice and only come back to me once they&#8217;ve worked all twelve steps. <\/p>\n<p>Addiction and connection are opposites. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In my experience, most converts to Orthodox Judaism are unconsciously trying to fill a hole in their soul, fill up a deep sense of emptiness stemming from a lack of attachment (aka an unhappy childhood) and that without deep inner &hellip; 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