{"id":76265,"date":"2015-10-04T11:23:36","date_gmt":"2015-10-04T19:23:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=76265"},"modified":"2015-10-04T11:23:36","modified_gmt":"2015-10-04T19:23:36","slug":"leaving-her-better-than-you-found-her-not-likely","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=76265","title":{"rendered":"Leaving Her Better Than You Found Her? Not Likely"},"content":{"rendered":"

From the Chateau<\/a>: It\u2019s a common admonition from pickup artists that you should leave a girl better than you found her. I suppose mainstream PUAs (well, as mainstream as PUA gurus can get) say this to soften the perception that game is horribly cynical and manipulative. While they are right to claim that game is a blessing to women in much the same way that women exercising to stay sexy and slender is a blessing to men, they are veering into hyperbole to suggest that leaving a girl after you have gamed her into however many nights of sweaty sex is going to make her a better person.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s examine the suppositions behind this smooth but empty incantation. Assume the average pickup artist meets a girl he likes and they date (read: screw) for a few months. Because he is a guy who knows game, she really digs him. At this three-month critical juncture, he has a few options before him: he can choose to stick it out for longer in monogamous isolation chamber hell bliss, he can lie about seeing other girls, he can somehow convince her to be part of his harem, or he can dump her to chase fresh tail. That last choice is what we\u2019re interested in. What would be the reasons a man would leave a girl he is banging?<\/p>\n

\u2013 he found a hotter girl
\n\u2013 the full extent of her horrid personality came to light
\n\u2013 she gained weight or suffered facial disfigurement from an accident or attack (hey, it\u2019s a cruel world)
\n\u2013 he is bursting with ball juice and can\u2019t go more than three months without sampling new pussy
\n\u2013 a hotter ex came back into his life
\n\u2013 he cheated and decided leaving her was preferable to staying with her in penance prison, offering his manly dignity as sacrificial lamb
\n\u2013 he just got plain tired of banging her and needed his single life back
\n\u2013 he moved far away, or she moved far away
\n\u2013 she started pressing him to move the relationship forward
\n\u2013 he caught her cheating<\/p>\n

There are, I\u2019m sure, other reasons why a man would leave a chick, but I think I\u2019ve hit upon the most common ones. Now ask yourself this simple question: under any of the above dumping scenarios where the man has dumped a girl who really liked him (excluding the scenario where he caught her cheating), do you honestly believe the girl is going to feel better about herself afterwards? Happier? More content with life? Filled with joy and whimsy? Will she be a BETTER PERSON, whatever the fuck that means?<\/p>\n

The answer is contained in the absurdity of the question. Of course, she won\u2019t be happy. I doubt she\u2019ll be much of a better person, either. Most girls who have torrid flings with alphas might learn what kind of player warning signs to watch for, but their hearts will ache for one more of his touches, and they won\u2019t be able to bond very well with any future men who don\u2019t rise to the standards set by her alpha ex.<\/p>\n

When women get dumped by men they love, they get hurt. Ask any woman recently dumped by an alpha boyfriend, and you will most assuredly not hear a melodious note of happiness in her voice. What you will hear is pain, sorrow, regret, an inability to focus on anything, and even a sense of guilt (\u201cI nagged him too much!\u201d). There will be tears, anger and spite. What there won\u2019t be is some Anthony Robbins-like revelation of self improvement.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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