{"id":76259,"date":"2015-10-04T10:28:42","date_gmt":"2015-10-04T18:28:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=76259"},"modified":"2015-10-04T15:42:27","modified_gmt":"2015-10-04T23:42:27","slug":"a-woman-in-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=76259","title":{"rendered":"A Woman In Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

From the Chateau<\/a>: When men get into comfortable relationships, what normally happens is a slackening of the masculine drive to excel. There is even scientific evidence for this; after marriage, men in a variety of occupations \u2014 science, math, business \u2014 experience a reduction in their productive output. The most parsimonious explanation for this phenomenon is that once a man has landed a woman and codified it with a marriage contract or a commitment to date exclusively, the fire in his belly slowly burns out because he no longer feels a compulsion to impress potential mates….<\/p>\n

Women naturally tease, feint and misdirect because it is in their nature to do so; such behavior helps screen the unflappable alpha males from the bewildered betas. Men do not naturally tease because all their screening is done within seconds of seeing a girl; her beauty, or lack of it, is comprehended instantly.<\/p>\n

But once a woman falls in love, as you have done, she surrenders all possession of the faculties which served her well during the courtship dance. A woman in love is a woman stripped of all her armor; she is exposed. You are exposed. Your emotional nakedness prances around every word you write like a frantic sprite.<\/p>\n

CHATEAU<\/a>: Any woman truly falling for you will wind up blurting out an EOB against her better judgment. A woman in love can\u2019t help herself.<\/p>\n

Maxim #26: Women secretly hope that you won\u2019t rob them of the opportunity to make themselves vulnerable before your alpha inscrutability.<\/p>\n

STUDY: Women, being from Venus, have a reputation for being the first to spring \u201cI love you\u201d in romantic relationships.<\/p>\n

But men actually are more likely to utter those three loaded little words first, and men admit thinking about confessing love six weeks earlier than their female partners, according to an article to be published in the June issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.<\/p>\n

That doesn\u2019t mean men are bigger saps. Taking an \u201cevolutionary-economics\u201d perspective, the article concludes that gender differences in the timing and function of saying \u201cI love you\u201d are related to whether a couple has had sex.<\/p>\n

\u201cMen may be more impulsive in the way they express love, but what love means to men and what love means to women may be very different,\u201d said co-author Josh Ackerman, assistant professor of marketing at MIT Sloan School of Management.<\/p>\n

In a series of surveys, researchers found that two-thirds of couples report that the man was first in confessing love. Men also reported being significantly happier than women to hear \u201cI love you\u201d one month into the relationship if they had not yet had sex, while women felt happier than men when they heard \u201cI love you\u201d after the onset of sex in the relationship.<\/p>\n

The researchers theorized that a pre-sex love confession may signal interest in advancing the relationship to include sexual activity \u2013 which is what men want, evolutionarily speaking, so as not to lose an opportunity to spread their genes. They want to \u201cbuy low,\u201d as the article put it. Women, who have more to lose if they get pregnant, prefer a post-sex confession as a signal of long-term commitment. They prefer to \u201csell high.\u201d<\/p>\n

Furthering the point, the men happiest to get a pre-sex love confession were those interested in a short-term fling, while both men and women seeking a long-term relationship were happier hearing \u201cI love you\u201d post-sex.<\/p>\n

Despite birth control and egalitarian values in modern society, these primitive patterns persist in the subconscious, Ackerman said.<\/p>\n

The researchers hope exposing the biological underpinnings of these behaviors can help people understand the hidden meanings and motivations behind professions of love, which are ripe for misinterpretation.<\/p>\n

CHATEAU<\/a>: So what is this study telling us as it relates to game? You have to read between the lines a little, but basically it\u2019s saying that expressions of love are intimately tied up with men\u2019s and women\u2019s sexual market value. Women who wait to say \u2018I love you\u2019 until after the man has said it are subcommunicating their higher value. (A high value woman juggles interest from many men, and can make a man wait for sex much longer than he is comfortable until she is satisfied his commitment to her is genuine.) In contrast, men who rush to say \u2018I love you\u2019 subcommunicate their urgency to extract sex, and thus their lower value. (A high value man is never urgent for sex because he is getting all the sex he needs from other women in his informal harem.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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