{"id":71792,"date":"2015-07-28T09:30:19","date_gmt":"2015-07-28T17:30:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=71792"},"modified":"2015-07-28T09:34:33","modified_gmt":"2015-07-28T17:34:33","slug":"men-who-fear-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=71792","title":{"rendered":"Men Who Fear Women"},"content":{"rendered":"

Camille Paglia says<\/a>: We are formed by all kinds of strange or vague memories from childhood. That kind of understanding is needed to see that Cosby was involved in a symbiotic, push-pull thing with his wife, where he went out and did these awful things to assert his own independence. But for that, he required the women to be inert. He needed them to be dead! Cosby is actually a necrophiliac\u2013a style that was popular in the late Victorian period in the nineteenth-century.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard to believe now, but you had men digging up corpses from graveyards, stealing the bodies, hiding them under their beds, and then having sex with them. So that\u2019s exactly what\u2019s happening here: to give a woman a drug, to make her inert, to make her dead is the man saying that I need her to be dead for me to function. She\u2019s too powerful for me as a living woman. And this is what is also going on in those barbaric fraternity orgies, where women are sexually assaulted while lying unconscious. And women don\u2019t understand this! They have no idea why any men would find it arousing to have sex with a young woman who\u2019s passed out at a fraternity house. But it\u2019s necrophilia\u2013this fear and envy of a woman\u2019s power.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s the same thing with Bill Clinton: to find the answer, you have to look at his relationship to his flamboyant mother. He felt smothered by her in some way. But let\u2019s be clear\u2013I\u2019m not trying to blame the mother! What I\u2019m saying is that male sexuality is extremely complicated, and the formation of male identity is very tentative and sensitive\u2013but feminist rhetoric doesn\u2019t allow for it. This is why women are having so much trouble dealing with men in the feminist era. They don\u2019t understand men, and they demonize men. They accord to men far more power than men actually have in sex. Women control the sexual world in ways that most feminists simply don\u2019t understand…<\/p>\n

The erasure of motherhood from feminist rhetoric has led us to this current politicization of sex talk, which doesn\u2019t allow women to recognize their immense power vis-\u00e0-vis men. When motherhood was more at the center of culture, you had mothers who understood the fragility of boys and the boy\u2019s need for nurturance and for confidence to overcome his weaknesses. The old-style country women\u2013the Italian matriarchs and Jewish mothers\u2013they all understood the fragility of men. The mothers ruled their own world and didn\u2019t take men that seriously. They understood how to nurture men and encourage them to be strong\u2013whereas current feminism simply doesn\u2019t perceive the power of women vis-a-vis men. But when you talk like this with most men, it really resonates with them, and they say \u201cYes, yes! That\u2019s it!\u201d<\/p>\n

Currently, feminists lack sympathy and compassion for men and for the difficulties that men face in the formation of their identities. I\u2019m not talking in terms of the men\u2019s rights movement, which got infected by p.c. The heterosexual professional woman, emerging with her shiny Ivy League degree, wants to communicate with her husband exactly the way she communicates with her friends\u2013as in \u201cSex and the City.\u201d That show really caught the animated way that women actually talk with each other. But that\u2019s not a style that straight men can do! Gay men can do it, sure\u2013but not straight men! Guess what\u2013women are different than men! When will feminism wake up to this basic reality? Women relate differently to each other than they do to men. And straight men do not have the same communication skills or values as women\u2013their brains are different!<\/p>\n

If Emma Sulkowicz were a student of yours, in an art class you were teaching, how would you grade her work?<\/p>\n

[laughs] I\u2019d give her a D! I call it \u201cmattress feminism.\u201d Perpetually lugging around your bad memories\u2013never evolving or moving on! It\u2019s like a parody of the worst aspects of that kind of grievance-oriented feminism. I called my feminism \u201cAmazon feminism\u201d or \u201cstreet-smart feminism,\u201d where you remain vigilant, learn how to defend yourself, and take responsibility for the choices you make. If something bad happens, you learn from it. You become stronger and move on. But hauling a mattress around on campus? Columbia, one of the great Ivy League schools with a tremendous history of scholarship, utterly disgraced itself in how it handled that case. It enabled this protracted masochistic exercise where a young woman trapped herself in her own bad memories and publicly labeled herself as a victim, which will now be her identity forever. This isn\u2019t feminism\u2013which should empower women, not cripple them.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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