{"id":70848,"date":"2015-07-09T09:16:56","date_gmt":"2015-07-09T17:16:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=70848"},"modified":"2023-09-10T12:35:24","modified_gmt":"2023-09-10T20:35:24","slug":"high-investment-parenting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=70848","title":{"rendered":"High Investment Parenting"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It blows my mind as a convert from Anglo to Orthodox Judaism how much Jews invest in their kids and in their families and in their kin and in their group.<\/p>\n<p>Anglos don&#8217;t make such dramatic in-group\/out-group distinctions and they don&#8217;t live through their kids.<\/p>\n<p>A Jewish friend took off work to go to a UCLA orientation all day for his incoming freshman kid. &#8220;Huh?&#8221; I said. &#8220;I don&#8217;t get it. Why would you need orientation for your kid going off to college? I guess I don&#8217;t get high investment parenting.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Friend: &#8220;Gentile parents send their kids off at age 18 with a can of beer and a can of spam and a good luck.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Miriam: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>I went to orientation by myself for Uni along with every other college kid whose parents said &#8220;you&#8217;re an adult now, time to face life on your own&#8221;. The ones who had their parents with them were usually the ESL students. As a school administrator, I have had parents call me and told me &#8220;I am doing all the applications for my kid, because I don&#8217;t want him to worry about payment, loans etc&#8221;. I&#8217;ve had students boast &#8220;my mom and dad do all the applications for me&#8221;. Great, are they going to fill out your job applications to? Anyways&#8230;.I don&#8217;t agree that gentile parents send their kids with a can of beer. I believe every parent knows their kids and knows when they can let go. At 18, they need to start learning to do things on their own.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>* Sheryl Sandberg wrote an inspirational work memoir &#8220;Lean In.&#8221; I might title my inspirational work memoir, &#8220;Stepping to the side.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>* Secular Jew tells me: &#8220;You&#8217;re a Grade A shnorrer. If you had payas and a black hat, you could cheat, lie and steal and take welfare with the best of them. As far as making slick business deals, however, you&#8217;ll always be a goy.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>* Friend: &#8220;Why would Bill Cosby drug girls to have sex with them? He probably could have had sex with half of them just because of who he was.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Luke: &#8220;Drugging them was more expeditious. He didn&#8217;t have to beat around the bush.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>* I was having a nice conversation with a white girl this morning and some disheveled sweaty foreigner from south of the border came by with a restaurant flyer and interrupted us to pitch all the glories of the non-kosher Thai restaurant.<\/p>\n<p>Miriam: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>I wish I could have seen your face when it happened. Speaking of foreigners, I had a dream that I got a job working in the border. There were hundreds of people waiting in line to enter the US. I was going to take a picture to send it to you. I guess these are the type of dreams your readers end up having.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>* My Mexican just corrected my Spanish.<br \/>\nI replied, &#8220;Thank you. You&#8217;re making me a better Mexican.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>* I had a dream this morning that I went out and about, wheeling and dealing and improving myself in downtown LA skyscrapers and feeling really good about myself until everything I said and did in that job hunting got recorded and typed up in a report that exposed all of my false pretensions, delusions of grandeur and Fordian deceit.<\/p>\n<p>Paul Ciotti: &#8220;But then you took a catnap and all your Fordian deceit of the morning got canceled out by your afternoon&#8217;s Lukian honesty.&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It blows my mind as a convert from Anglo to Orthodox Judaism how much Jews invest in their kids and in their families and in their kin and in their group. 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