{"id":63950,"date":"2015-02-20T16:30:54","date_gmt":"2015-02-21T00:30:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=63950"},"modified":"2015-02-20T16:41:39","modified_gmt":"2015-02-21T00:41:39","slug":"why-a-jewess-almost-married-nacho","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=63950","title":{"rendered":"Why a Jewess almost married Nacho but didn’t"},"content":{"rendered":"

From NYMag.com<\/a>:<\/p>\n

\n\u201cGrowing up, I saw marriage as stressed-out, sexually frustrated people worrying about bat mitzvahs,\u201d says Victoria, 31, from a \u201ccomfortable\u201d New Jersey suburb. \u201cPart of the attraction to Nacho was that it\u2019d be impossible for us to be that.\u201d<\/p>\n

Nacho, 25, started working in agave fields in his Mexican hometown at age 6. \u201cI grew up really simple,\u201d Nacho, a farm worker, says. \u201cI was the oldest, so I had to support my family. When I was a child I thought I\u2019d have a wife at home to cook for me, but Victoria is the opposite of that.\u201d<\/p>\n

They met working on a farm. Both say that they fell for each other right away. As they waited for his visa, she visited him in Mexico. \u201cOur base level of comfort is so different,\u201d Victoria says. \u201cHe slept on a mattress in the kitchen. There was black mold everywhere. But I believed our love could get around it.\u201d After they decided to get married, their differences seemed bigger. \u201cWe have different ideas about everything from how to talk to a little boy who\u2019s crying to whether to save money,\u201d Victoria says. Nacho concurs, \u201cI live in the moment. She worries. The first problem was her asking about the future, talking about children.\u201d<\/p>\n

Now they\u2019re separated but friends. \u201cWorking on the visa, the importance of everything outside the goodness of our fantastical love became more glaring,\u201d Victoria says. \u201cI know I have privilege. My kids don\u2019t need new clothes, but I don\u2019t want them to struggle, to have so much uncertainty. It was hard to have all this stuff come up and not just hate myself. I\u2019d judge myself and think, \u2018Are you saying he\u2019s not good enough because he was born poor and Mexican?\u2019 It\u2019s sad. I know I have all these expectations, so I have a lot more room to be uncomfortable. He doesn\u2019t get nervous. He\u2019s survived a lot, so he knows he\u2019s going to be okay.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

High IQ people tend to think more about the future while blacks and Mexicans tend to live more in the present moment. <\/p>\n

Steve Sailer notes<\/a>:<\/p>\n

While upwardly mobile Mexican-Americans marry blonde Anglos, downwardly mobile white men wed Mexicans. Now, there is no doubt plenty to be said for getting hitched to a Mexican lady. They probably tend to make better mothers, homemakers, and cooks than the leggy blonde careerists who, however, are so much more in demand in Southern California. But sadly, there is a big social cost to Anglo-Hispanic marriages\u2014which raises severe doubts about America’s ability to assimilate Latino immigrants. As pro-immigration\/pro-assimilation researcher Gregory Rodriguez admits, “Surprisingly, in most homes headed by an Anglo\/Latino couple, Spanish becomes the household language.”<\/p>\n

Thus, those L.A. blue-collar whites who don’t flee to Utah will tend to assimilate genetically and culturally into Latino culture.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

From NYMag.com: \u201cGrowing up, I saw marriage as stressed-out, sexually frustrated people worrying about bat mitzvahs,\u201d says Victoria, 31, from a \u201ccomfortable\u201d New Jersey suburb. \u201cPart of the attraction to Nacho was that it\u2019d be impossible for us to be … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29,29580,226],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-63950","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-jews","category-latino","category-mexicans"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63950","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=63950"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63950\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":63956,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63950\/revisions\/63956"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=63950"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=63950"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=63950"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}