{"id":58023,"date":"2014-09-21T08:31:23","date_gmt":"2014-09-21T16:31:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=58023"},"modified":"2014-09-21T08:31:23","modified_gmt":"2014-09-21T16:31:23","slug":"dealing-with-abandonment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=58023","title":{"rendered":"Dealing With Abandonment"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Therapist Mark Smith: &#8220;You are only going to be highly attracted to people who are made of the same psychological DNA as the people who hurt you the most growing up.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;If you start at 3 in psychological health and get to 4.5 after many many years of therapy, you have done fantastic work.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;A domineering abusive father will cause you when you grow up to either become domineering and abusive or to marry it.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;The reason you enlisted the services of such a wicked and hurtful abandoner of you is to help you to re-enact your childhood abandonment. 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