{"id":57987,"date":"2014-09-20T20:36:36","date_gmt":"2014-09-21T04:36:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=57987"},"modified":"2014-09-20T20:36:36","modified_gmt":"2014-09-21T04:36:36","slug":"my-emotional-shell-keeps-me-safe-but-not-happy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=57987","title":{"rendered":"My Emotional Shell Keeps Me Safe But Not Happy"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Therapist Jerry Wise: &#8220;The belief that someday I will find someone who will love me in ways I don&#8217;t love myself. That&#8217;s an immature dependency-needs approach. I&#8217;m going to find that special someone who will love me in ways I don&#8217;t love myself. You can see the problems in that. It&#8217;s a non-achievable goal.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Guilty!<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;The belief that I am not me without you. If I am not me, how am I going to have healthy relationships with others?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><iframe width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/qaFWFheKad8?list=UUwjvX9lBPDU0bIPRBW5EtnQ\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Therapist Jerry Wise: &#8220;The belief that someday I will find someone who will love me in ways I don&#8217;t love myself. That&#8217;s an immature dependency-needs approach. I&#8217;m going to find that special someone who will love me in ways I &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=57987\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[17382],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-57987","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psychology"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57987","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=57987"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57987\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":57988,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57987\/revisions\/57988"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=57987"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=57987"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=57987"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}