{"id":57767,"date":"2014-09-14T18:21:32","date_gmt":"2014-09-15T02:21:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=57767"},"modified":"2014-09-14T18:21:32","modified_gmt":"2014-09-15T02:21:32","slug":"when-can-others-hurt-us","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=57767","title":{"rendered":"When Can Others Hurt Us?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Mass email: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Many of us entertain a fantasy that some person can complete us. We don&#8217;t believe that we&#8217;re complete in ourselves. Only when we do will we become able to share in a life-enhancing partnership with another person. Only when we love ourselves can we love others realistically, instead of seeing them as fantasy figures, projections of our own desire.<\/p>\n<p>No one can hurt us emotionally unless we allow the hurt. We&#8217;re full partners in everything that we do, and taking responsibility for our actions and our desires is our first step toward being fully lovable.<\/p>\n<p>The only one who can save me is me.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>So what does this sentence mean? &#8220;No one can hurt us emotionally unless we allow the hurt.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>It means that unless a criticism resonates with us, it won&#8217;t hurt us.<\/p>\n<p>We never get hurt in areas where we feel strong and confident. I have no doubt, for instance, in my courage to write unpopular things, so if I were to be called a coward, it would have no meaning to me. If somebody said my blog was insignificant, it would have no meaning to me because I have seen so many times how much influence my writing has.<\/p>\n<p>I am intensely insecure about other things, so anything there touches on tender spots and easily wounds me. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mass email: Many of us entertain a fantasy that some person can complete us. We don&#8217;t believe that we&#8217;re complete in ourselves. Only when we do will we become able to share in a life-enhancing partnership with another person. 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