{"id":56391,"date":"2014-08-11T19:47:25","date_gmt":"2014-08-12T03:47:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=56391"},"modified":"2014-08-11T19:48:57","modified_gmt":"2014-08-12T03:48:57","slug":"if-i-stop-controlling-things","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=56391","title":{"rendered":"If I Stop Controlling Things&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Therapist: &#8220;Controlling meets our needs. I take care of others so that I don&#8217;t have to look at my issues such as feeling unworthy. If I stop judging others, I&#8217;ll have to look at how miserable my life is. If I stop giving advice to everyone, I&#8217;ll have to deal with how unimportant I feel. Controlling behaviors help us avoid looking at our issues and problems that we want to avoid. Controlling keeps us safe and less anxious.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><iframe width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/c7hOOJDNH5k?list=UUwjvX9lBPDU0bIPRBW5EtnQ\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Therapist: &#8220;Controlling meets our needs. I take care of others so that I don&#8217;t have to look at my issues such as feeling unworthy. If I stop judging others, I&#8217;ll have to look at how miserable my life is. If &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=56391\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[33],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-56391","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-abuse"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56391","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=56391"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56391\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":56394,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56391\/revisions\/56394"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=56391"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=56391"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=56391"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}