{"id":53236,"date":"2014-03-30T14:20:20","date_gmt":"2014-03-30T22:20:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=53236"},"modified":"2014-05-05T16:27:37","modified_gmt":"2014-05-06T00:27:37","slug":"parenting-from-the-inside-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=53236","title":{"rendered":"Parenting From The Inside Out"},"content":{"rendered":"

From Daniel Siegel’s book<\/a>:<\/p>\n

1. What was it like growing up? Who was in your family?<\/p>\n

2. How did you get along with your parents early in your childhood?
\nHow did the relationship evolve throughout your youth and up until
\nthe present time?<\/p>\n

3. How did your relationship with your mother and father differ
\nand how were they similar? Are there ways in which you try to be
\nlike, or try not to be like, each of your parents?<\/p>\n

4. Did you ever feel rejected or threatened by your parents? Were
\nthere other experiences you had that felt overwhelming or traumatizing in your life, during childhood or beyond? Do any of
\nthese experiences still feel very much alive? Do they continue
\nto influence your life?<\/p>\n

5. How did your parents discipline you as a child? What impact
\ndid they have on your childhood, and how do you feel it affects
\nyour role as a parent now?<\/p>\n

6. Do you recall your earliest separations from your parents?
\nWhat was it like? Did you ever have prolonged separations from
\nyour parents?<\/p>\n

7. Did anyone significant in your life die during your childhood,
\nor later in your life? What was that like for you at the time, and
\nhow does that loss affect you now?<\/p>\n

8. How did your parents communicate with you when you were happy
\nand excited? Did they join with you in your enthusiasm? When
\nyou were distressed or unhappy as a child, what would happen?
\nDid your father and mother respond differently to you during
\nthese emotional times? How?<\/p>\n

9. Was there anyone else besides your parents in your childhood who
\ntook care of you? What was that relationship like for you? What happened to these individuals? What is it like for you when you let
\nothers take care of your child now?<\/p>\n

10. If you had difficult times during your childhood, where there
\npositive relationships in or outside your home that you could depend on during those times? How do you feel those connections
\nbenefited you then, and how might they help you now?<\/p>\n

11. How have your childhood experiences influenced your relationships with others as an adult? Do you find yourself
\ntrying not to behave in certain ways because of what happened to you as a child? Do you have patterns of behaviors that you\u2019d like
\nto alter but have difficulty changing?<\/p>\n

12. What impact do you think your childhood has had on your adult
\nlife in general, including the ways in which you think of yourself
\nand the ways you relate to your children? What would you like to change about the way you understand yourself and relate to others?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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