{"id":49161,"date":"2013-05-19T14:08:28","date_gmt":"2013-05-19T22:08:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=49161"},"modified":"2013-05-19T14:26:04","modified_gmt":"2013-05-19T22:26:04","slug":"love-is-supposed-to-hurt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=49161","title":{"rendered":"Love Is Supposed To Hurt"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Therapist Mark E. Smith says: Love is Mother Nature&#8217;s tool to force you to go back and work on unresolved issues from your childhood.<\/p>\n<p>I wished that Christian faith healed emotional wounds and made people emotionally healthier but it&#8217;s just not true. Your sincere Christian faith is not going to erase the wounds of your childhood. <\/p>\n<p>The cure is sticking in your marriage and not vilifying or scapegoating your spouse, but working hard in therapy&#8230; When people come in and present themselves as a victim, the therapist&#8217;s main order of business is challenging how they think and shifting the focus away from the spouse to the real problem, the family of origin. <\/p>\n<p>We pick the right person so that we can re-enact the unresolved issues of our childhood.<\/p>\n<p>When new people meet, there&#8217;s anywhere from two to seven years of grace where everything is fun and easy. <\/p>\n<p><iframe width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/JNQhNas_mvI\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Therapist Mark E. Smith says: Love is Mother Nature&#8217;s tool to force you to go back and work on unresolved issues from your childhood. I wished that Christian faith healed emotional wounds and made people emotionally healthier but it&#8217;s just &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=49161\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[906],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-49161","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-love"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/49161","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=49161"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/49161\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":49165,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/49161\/revisions\/49165"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=49161"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=49161"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=49161"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}