{"id":47525,"date":"2012-12-22T21:08:10","date_gmt":"2012-12-23T05:08:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=47525"},"modified":"2012-12-22T21:13:11","modified_gmt":"2012-12-23T05:13:11","slug":"the-father-factor-the-mother-factor-the-ex-factor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=47525","title":{"rendered":"The Father Factor, The Mother Factor, The Ex Factor"},"content":{"rendered":"

I love these books by Los Angeles pyschologist Stephen Poulter<\/a>. <\/p>\n

I first heard him on the Dennis Prager show a few years ago.<\/p>\n

Here are some of Dr. Poulter’s insights that struck me:<\/p>\n

* Start opening up the doors in your life that you think are locked. You might think you don’t have the right key, but you do.<\/p>\n

* When someone tells you that somebody or something doesn’t matter, what they’re really saying that they can’t deal with it. <\/p>\n

* What you want from your mom is what you want from your life. If you want acceptance or acknowledgment, you can give that to yourself.<\/p>\n

* How you eat and how you feel about yourself are one and the same.<\/p>\n

* Which parent did you marry? The parent we have unresolved issues with, that’s the parent we tend to marry.<\/p>\n

* Emotional pain is what it is going to transform your life. Where do you want to go?<\/p>\n

* Every relationship has an expiration date. Don’t judge it.<\/p>\n

* If you don’t get past your resentment of your dad, which 80% of you haven’t, you’ll die on the vine. You enter adulthood the day you forgive your dad. If things have happened to you that are unforgivable, detach from it. Detachment is a precursor for forgiveness. If you can detach from it, you’ll free up energy. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I love these books by Los Angeles pyschologist Stephen Poulter. I first heard him on the Dennis Prager show a few years ago. Here are some of Dr. Poulter’s insights that struck me: * Start opening up the doors in … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[17382],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-47525","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psychology"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47525","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=47525"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47525\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":47527,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47525\/revisions\/47527"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=47525"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=47525"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=47525"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}