{"id":4738,"date":"2008-09-09T03:48:20","date_gmt":"2008-09-09T11:48:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=4738"},"modified":"2008-09-09T03:48:20","modified_gmt":"2008-09-09T11:48:20","slug":"modern-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=4738","title":{"rendered":"Modern Love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Bob Armstrong emails:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">Luke:<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">&nbsp;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">Been a long time, but Modern Love did the trick. Here&rsquo;s my  take:<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">&nbsp;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">In his e-mail to you, David said he was &ldquo;kind of taken aback by your  bitterness&rdquo; regarding Amy Klein&rsquo;s Modern Love piece in The New York Times. I&rsquo;m  with David. In the headline and her opening graph, you are called a  &ldquo;Cyberstalker.&rdquo; But she draws back from the charge as the story moves along and  comes out as a charmer in the end with the &ldquo;I&rsquo;ll miss you, too&rdquo; line.<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">&nbsp;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">And I&rsquo;m astounded you would be upset because you&rsquo;ve been tagged a  cyberstalker in the Times. Besides the fact that all publicity is good  publicity, every blogger documenting the lives of other people is in a sense a  stalker. Every reporter is a stalker. It&rsquo;s a matter of degree. How far does the  intrusion go? Amy did not suggest you are an on-line rapist trying to track her  down. &ldquo;He&rsquo;s mostly harmless,&rdquo; she told her friends.<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">&nbsp;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">Overall, I think Amy wrote a good story. That said, to some extent she  comes off as a nitpicker and a narcissist. You had the temerity to say she  always wore skirts which is &ldquo;flatly untrue,&rdquo; she says. Furthermore, she finds  that a &ldquo;strange description.&rdquo; That&rsquo;s a winner in the trivia awards. Think of how  she would have reacted if you had said she wore pants suits. <\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">&nbsp;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">The cyberstalking charge falls apart without her even being aware of it  when she takes that old road up to the High Standards Journalism station. As a  journalist, she says, &ldquo;you believe you are granted a writer&rsquo;s type of diplomatic  immunity&mdash;inured to being written about, reported on, and critiqued yourself.  Well, that&rsquo;s how it used to be, before the internet.&rdquo;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">&nbsp;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">I can write about others but how dare those lumpen-proletariat bloggers  write about me. I am a diplomat, waiter, bring me my tea. It&rsquo;s a lovely day, I  think I&rsquo;ll go out on the balcony. Good God, look at that mob down there. Why are  they screaming at me? Oh well, at least I still <em>matter<\/em>.<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">&nbsp;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">Slamming a reporter on a blog is not cyberstalking, it&rsquo;s leveling the  playing field.<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">&nbsp;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">Amy also needs a dose of history. That&rsquo;s how it used to be before the  internet? No, that&rsquo;s how it has been since the American Revolution when the  pamphleteers attacked the crown and frequently each other. Or take a look at the  partisan press in the age of Andrew Jackson if you want some truly strange  descriptions of reporters going at each other. <\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">&nbsp;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">In modern times the classic example is twenty years before the internet  took hold. Timothy Crouse&rsquo;s &ldquo;The Boys on the Bus&rdquo; covered those who covered the  Nixon\/McGovern presidential campaign in 1972. In that book, like Amy, a number  of reporters bitch about Crouse being out of bounds, writing about them more  than the politicians, accusing them, and rightly so, of indulging in &ldquo;pack  journalism.&rdquo;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">&nbsp;<\/font><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt;\"><font face=\"Times New Roman\" size=\"3\">But why shouldn&rsquo;t they complain? After all they were and are the  diplomats in the press corps: the White House beat.&nbsp;They are the elite  behaving the way elites behave. Poor Luke. He&rsquo;ll never be a diplomat. And that  is why we read him and he get&rsquo;s a lot of traffic, despite the fact, as he  pointed out,&nbsp;traffic didn&rsquo;t take a bounce after the Modern Love story. That  would alarm me, not the charge of cyberstalking.<\/font><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bob Armstrong emails: Luke: &nbsp; Been a long time, but Modern Love did the trick. Here&rsquo;s my take: &nbsp; In his e-mail to you, David said he was &ldquo;kind of taken aback by your bitterness&rdquo; regarding Amy Klein&rsquo;s Modern Love &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=4738\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[52,78],"tags":[29789,12260,12261,12171,12259,9501],"class_list":["post-4738","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-amy-klein","category-blogging","tag-amy-klein","tag-bob-armstrong","tag-cyberstalking","tag-diplomatic-immunity","tag-lumpen-proletariat","tag-pants-suits"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4738","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4738"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4738\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4740,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4738\/revisions\/4740"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4738"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4738"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4738"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}