{"id":46539,"date":"2012-09-27T13:00:33","date_gmt":"2012-09-27T21:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=46539"},"modified":"2012-09-27T13:06:11","modified_gmt":"2012-09-27T21:06:11","slug":"should-you-wait-until-your-second-date-to-talk-about-your-12-step-program-or-just-get-it-out-right-away","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=46539","title":{"rendered":"Should you wait until your second date to talk about your 12-step program or just get it out right away?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>David: Personally I read out to them my step 4 and step 8. If they still want to be with me after that then they are mine forever.<\/p>\n<p>Rabbi Hershel Rabbs Remer I&#8217;m curious how any woman could go out with you for even 1 date and not already know that you&#8217;re in 12 steps, as you broadcast about your addictions every day on your blog, youtube, and facebook. 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