{"id":45454,"date":"2012-07-29T15:46:48","date_gmt":"2012-07-29T23:46:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=45454"},"modified":"2012-07-29T15:46:48","modified_gmt":"2012-07-29T23:46:48","slug":"filling-that-big-hole-inside","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=45454","title":{"rendered":"Filling That Big Hole Inside"},"content":{"rendered":"

From TheFix<\/a>: Find me a woman who hasn\u2019t been 13th stepped\u2014successfully or unsuccessfully\u2014and I\u2019ll show you a post-menopausal nun or a tragic case of facial acne. Old-timers have been seducing newcomers ever since Bill Wilson started the tradition in the 1940s. Since that time, Step 13 has been judged, disparaged, reviled\u2026and perfected. \u201cLet\u2019s go to coffee. We can talk program.\u201d \u201cThere\u2019s a great meeting 50 miles from here. I\u2019ll drive.\u201d \u201cHave I showed you my First Edition Big Book? Oh, wait, I left it in the bedroom\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

When I was new, 20-something years ago, a man with 17 years of sobriety (and a wife) wanted to read his latest fifth step to me because his sponsor \u201cdidn\u2019t get him.\u201d I was so flattered. Me, with my under 90 days, had something to offer an old-timer! It turns out I had something the old-timer wanted, all right; it just wasn\u2019t my wisdom. His number one resentment, he explained, was toward his frigid, alcoholic wife. He was so sad, so lonely\u2026and I was so na\u00efve. Let\u2019s face it; newcomers are easy. Getting sober leaves a honking great empty hole in us, and Mr. 17 Years was more than happy to (ahem) fill it. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

From TheFix: Find me a woman who hasn\u2019t been 13th stepped\u2014successfully or unsuccessfully\u2014and I\u2019ll show you a post-menopausal nun or a tragic case of facial acne. Old-timers have been seducing newcomers ever since Bill Wilson started the tradition in the … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[26369],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45454","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-addiction"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t