{"id":43951,"date":"2012-06-01T12:52:04","date_gmt":"2012-06-01T20:52:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=43951"},"modified":"2012-06-01T12:52:04","modified_gmt":"2012-06-01T20:52:04","slug":"working-on-myself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=43951","title":{"rendered":"Working On Myself"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I fear I&#8217;m going to be rusty when I get back in the dating game. What am I going to say about my blank resume the past 30 months? That I&#8217;ve been working on myself?<\/p>\n<p>I knew this couple. They were taking a break. He said he needed time to work on himself. A few weeks later, she found out he was working on himself by having sex with other women. <\/p>\n<p>The kind of men who sleep around rarely strikes me as impressive. They have this power over women, but their drive to achieve gets sucked out of them so that they become hedonists and addicts to the game of seduction. 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