{"id":39637,"date":"2012-01-09T18:28:24","date_gmt":"2012-01-10T02:28:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=39637"},"modified":"2012-01-09T18:29:48","modified_gmt":"2012-01-10T02:29:48","slug":"a-suffering-addict-returns-to-church","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=39637","title":{"rendered":"A Suffering Addict Returns To Church"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Richard emails: Hi Luke<\/p>\n<p>I just thought I&#8217;d let you know that I have been a suffering porn<br \/>\naddict who developed a fascination for your porn blogs for many years.<br \/>\nI am based in the UK. I liked your site because (a) you have a gift<br \/>\nfor writing and (b) you seemed to be genuinely wrestling with your<br \/>\nconscience, which mirrored my own struggles, and that you really<br \/>\nwanted to help people. However, you kept slipping back into the<br \/>\nclutches of the deadly porn industry that was ruining you (and me).<\/p>\n<p>I recently returned to Anglicanism (mainstream Protestantism here in<br \/>\nthe UK) at the age of 37 and have discovered, after going cold turkey<br \/>\non porn, that my relationship with women has been ruined by my<br \/>\nobsession with pornography. Even though I have never paid for internet<br \/>\nporn in my life, preferring to read about it, look at free previews<br \/>\nand then pirated tube sites in recent years, I feel that the implicit<br \/>\nmisogyny has harmed me massively.<\/p>\n<p>I had a mini-relapse today by looking at www.lukeisback.com, which<br \/>\nwent against my new &#8220;zero tolerance&#8221; attitude to pornography. But on a positive side, it was great to find the <A HREF=\"http:\/\/www.lukeisback.com\/?p=19233\">interview<\/a> with you and read about your progress in life.<\/p>\n<p>I enjoyed your <A HREF=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=PNXRWv56owg\">beard-shaving video<\/a>. You seem a lot happier<br \/>\nthan I have seen you in the past. I remember a ghastly video a few<br \/>\nyears ago showing you living in a garage (is my memory serving me<br \/>\ncorrectly?), taking lots of medication. It&#8217;s great to see you with a<br \/>\nsense of a higher purpose and enjoying membership of a benevolent<br \/>\ncommunity. I also have those two benefits.<\/p>\n<p>You mention in your article <A HREF=\"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=36642\">here<\/a> that there are various 12 step sex addiction groups. May I ask which one you chose? I have considered joining one myself, although probably an &#8220;accountability partner&#8221; at my local church (which a friend is organising for me) will be the permanent solution.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Richard emails: Hi Luke I just thought I&#8217;d let you know that I have been a suffering porn addict who developed a fascination for your porn blogs for many years. I am based in the UK. I liked your site &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=39637\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[26369,243],"tags":[28642,28644,28643,28645,11891,28641],"class_list":["post-39637","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-addiction","category-pornography","tag-accountability-partner","tag-anglicanism","tag-cold-turkey","tag-permanent-solution","tag-sex-addiction","tag-zero-tolerance-attitude"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39637","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=39637"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39637\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":39639,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39637\/revisions\/39639"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=39637"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=39637"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=39637"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}