This is one of the reasons men tend to have more influence on the wider world — this wider network of shallow relationships. This makes for success in business, academia, culture, sports, and the like.<\/p>\n
Women tend to have smaller networks of more intense relationships.<\/p>\n
So when it comes to Facebook, I’ve often been told that I should “friend” such and such a woman because we have various things in common and who knows what might happen. So then I friend such a woman and include a note about who sent me and our shared interests and most of the time the woman responds, “I’m only friends on Facebook with people I know.”<\/p>\n
So do you think I come out of these interactions wanting anything to do with such women? Not really. If I run into her in person, I probably won’t make an effort to start a conversation. I don’t feel an incentive to include the woman in any of my plans or schemes or businesses or social networks.<\/p>\n
I don’t blame the women for these choices. I respect their decisions. I don’t enjoy getting knocked back and all things being equal, that will lead me to shy away from such a person in the future. <\/p>\n
The essence of human interactions are “bids.” We’re constantly making bids for other people’s attention, whether it is through a glance or a smile or a Facebook friend request. If we ignore the bids of others, they will quickly stop bidding for our attention. <\/p>\n
When it comes to Facebook, I think men are more relaxed with having a wide network of shallow relationships. I think men are less likely than women to need to know someone in person before friending them on Facebook. This attitude makes for more professional success.<\/p>\n
Women are more cautious about who they let into their lives, even their Facebook lives. Most of the men I know almost never worry about their personal safety while most women I know have concerns in this area every week if not every day. <\/p>\n
Most of the men I know are quite relaxed with sharing their vital bodily fluids with strangers while most of the women I know are quite discriminating in this area. <\/p>\n
Here’s a related post<\/a>: Psychologist Roy Baumeister\u2019s New Book: \u2018Is There Anything Good About Men? How Cultures Flourish by Exploiting Men\u2019<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" This is one of the reasons men tend to have more influence on the wider world — this wider network of shallow relationships. This makes for success in business, academia, culture, sports, and the like. Women tend to have smaller … Continue reading