{"id":3439,"date":"2008-07-11T15:47:14","date_gmt":"2008-07-11T23:47:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=3439"},"modified":"2008-07-11T16:27:23","modified_gmt":"2008-07-12T00:27:23","slug":"shaarey-zedeks-a-mess","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=3439","title":{"rendered":"Shaarey Zedek&#8217;s A Mess"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.valleyshul.com\">Congregants don&#8217;t feel like they are getting enough love from their new rabbi<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>They are used to the hail fellow, well met hands-on style of Rabbi Aron Tendler. So what if he was having phone sex in the shul office. So long as the calls weren&#8217;t long distance, what&#8217;s the problem?<\/p>\n<p>These Modern Orthodox types want to feel validated by their rabbi. They don&#8217;t want to revere their rabbi. They want someone to cater to them. 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