{"id":3428,"date":"2008-07-10T11:45:08","date_gmt":"2008-07-10T19:45:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=3428"},"modified":"2008-07-10T11:45:08","modified_gmt":"2008-07-10T19:45:08","slug":"the-wounds-of-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=3428","title":{"rendered":"The Wounds Of Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

Rabbi Marc Gafni writes<\/a>:<\/p>\n

It is five in the afternoon in Salt Lake City. It has been a hard day. I sent a letter of apology to someone I really loved. It was sent as an attachment with a short note. He read the note but forgot to look at the attachment.<\/p>\n

He sent me back a deeply cruel letter?at least that was my experience of the letter. That was its impact on me even if that was not his intention. In the letter he said, “Why did you not write me a letter of apology?” It was then I realized he had not read the attachment.<\/p>\n

I was angry and insulted as he was insulted. I wrote him back and said, “Open the fucking attachment.” I had waited two years to write him this letter and now that I wrote it he does not open it. I did not hear back from him. Perhaps I never will.<\/p>\n

It is to this man that I dedicate this essay, written with one of my closest friends.<\/p>\n

I have written before of the beauty of Eros and how the sexual models the greater movment of Eros in our lives. We have written of the opening that sex can be in teaching us to understand Eros, to live from her full and passionate source. But there is another side of Eros. In this aspect, Eros shows itself to be a more ferocious ally. While the sexual does model the erotic in all kinds of pleasurable ways, it also models the pain of Eros that inevitably comes from our loving.<\/p>\n

Sexuality leaves so many mortally wounded in her wake. So much pain from that which is supposed to be the source of so much pleasure. We are confused about sexuality. And that confusion is the source of much of our pain.<\/p>\n

Sufi poet Hafiz writes:<\/p>\n