{"id":31525,"date":"2011-04-04T10:53:56","date_gmt":"2011-04-04T18:53:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=31525"},"modified":"2011-04-04T10:53:56","modified_gmt":"2011-04-04T18:53:56","slug":"what-about-faith","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=31525","title":{"rendered":"What About Faith?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Rabbi Arnie Singer writes<\/a>: As an Orthodox rabbi living and working on Manhattan’s Upper West Side, I’m thrilled to see so many single men and women actively involved in Torah and mitzvot. This is also the case in Queens, Brooklyn, Long Island, and wherever else singles are found. Whereas in the not so distant past the observance level of many Orthodox singles dropped the longer they remained single, today there are more scrupulously observant single men and women than ever before.<\/p>\n

Sounds great, but let me qualify what I’m saying.<\/p>\n

When it comes to ritual observance, there’s a tremendous amount of attention paid to even the most minute details and stringencies. But here’s one religious area, probably the most important, that seems to have gotten lost in the unrelenting quest for the perfect shidduch: faith – better known in the frum world as bitachon.<\/p>\n

I recently tried to set up a man I’ve known for years. He’s 38, good looking, successful, and earnestly frum. I had just met a very attractive woman I was sure he would be excited to meet. I started off my pitch and he was interested. Then I told him she was 33.<\/p>\n

“Sorry, but 32 is my limit.”<\/p>\n

“But she’s only 33, that’s just one y…”<\/p>\n

“No, I’m very sorry but I need to stick to my rules.”<\/p>\n

“OK, best of luck to you!”<\/p>\n

This is not an isolated incident. In my role as a Sawyouatsinai matchmaker, I read through dozens of profiles of men in their late 30s to 40s (and yes, even 50s) who are very blunt in demanding to only be matched with women below a specific age, usually ranging from 32 to 35. The reason they give always relates to childbirth. They want to have big families and they’ve determined that women past a certain age are not biologically qualified.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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