{"id":31224,"date":"2011-03-23T14:41:00","date_gmt":"2011-03-23T22:41:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=31224"},"modified":"2011-03-23T14:53:30","modified_gmt":"2011-03-23T22:53:30","slug":"is-there-oral-sex-after-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=31224","title":{"rendered":"Is There Oral Sex After Marriage?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe title=\"YouTube video player\" width=\"480\" height=\"390\" src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/T8jJ5X3gdDY\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>I didn&#8217;t say all women stop giving blowjobs after marriage. I say that women&#8217;s interest in sex, 95% of the time, is significantly less than men&#8217;s (with the exception of the first year of courtship where it is often close to even, but this does not last).<\/p>\n<p><A HREF=\"http:\/\/online.wsj.com\/article\/SB10001424052748703899704576204580623018562.html?mod=WSJ_hp_mostpop_read\">Jennifer Moses writes<\/a>:<\/p>\n<p>A woman I know, with two mature daughters, said, &#8220;If I could do it again, I wouldn&#8217;t even have slept with my own husband before marriage. Sex is the most powerful thing there is, and our generation, what did we know?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>We are the first moms in history to have grown up with widely available birth control, the first who didn&#8217;t have to worry about getting knocked up. We were also the first not only to be free of old-fashioned fears about our reputations but actually pressured by our peers and the wider culture to find our true womanhood in the bedroom. Not all of us are former good-time girls now drowning in regret\u2014I know women of my generation who waited until marriage\u2014but that&#8217;s certainly the norm among my peers.<\/p>\n<p>So here we are, the feminist and postfeminist and postpill generation. We somehow survived our own teen and college years (except for those who didn&#8217;t), and now, with the exception of some Mormons, evangelicals and Orthodox Jews, scads of us don&#8217;t know how to teach our own sons and daughters not to give away their bodies so readily. We&#8217;re embarrassed, and we don&#8217;t want to be, God forbid, hypocrites.<\/p>\n<p>Still, in my own circle of girlfriends, the desire to push back is strong. I don&#8217;t know one of them who doesn&#8217;t have feelings of lingering discomfort regarding her own sexual past. And not one woman I&#8217;ve ever asked about the subject has said that she wishes she&#8217;d &#8220;experimented&#8221; more.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I didn&#8217;t say all women stop giving blowjobs after marriage. I say that women&#8217;s interest in sex, 95% of the time, is significantly less than men&#8217;s (with the exception of the first year of courtship where it is often close &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=31224\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[22467,28],"tags":[25911,25908,25909,23456,1085,25910],"class_list":["post-31224","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-r-rabbs","category-sex","tag-giving-blowjobs","tag-good-time-girls","tag-jennifer-moses","tag-marriage-sex","tag-orthodox-jews","tag-true-womanhood"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31224","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=31224"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31224\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":31227,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31224\/revisions\/31227"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=31224"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=31224"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=31224"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}