{"id":3040,"date":"2008-05-22T13:58:07","date_gmt":"2008-05-22T21:58:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=3040"},"modified":"2008-05-22T20:48:24","modified_gmt":"2008-05-23T04:48:24","slug":"the-cross-the-jew","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=3040","title":{"rendered":"The Cross &#038; The Jew"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.thejewishpress.blogspot.com\/\">Chumi Friedman blogs<\/a>:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/farm2.static.flickr.com\/1265\/566559381_84a856ccfa.jpg?v=0\"><img decoding=\"async\" border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/farm2.static.flickr.com\/1265\/566559381_84a856ccfa.jpg?v=0\" alt=\"\" style=\"margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; float: right; width: 200px;\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 78%;\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<div>The following question was submitted to the about.com forum on Judaism:<\/div>\n<p><\/p>\n<div><em>&quot;Dear Rabbi, We are not religious but our son was raised as a Jew and had both a (reformed) rabbi and priest perform his wedding ceremony. He has never converted but his wife has asked him to wear a cross and we find this very offensive. What can we say to him to explain the reason we are so hurt by his seemingly insensitive action?&quot;<\/em><\/div>\n<div>&nbsp;<\/div>\n<div>My first thought was &#8211; the cross offends you? You weren&#8217;t offended or hurt when he came home with the non-Jewish girlfriend? You weren&#8217;t hurt or offended by the priest presiding at their wedding? (Whom by the way I assume was also wearing a cross). Why are you offended now?<\/p>\n<p>Maybe because they were confronted for the first time with the consequences of their action &#8211; bringing their son up to think there is no difference in whom he marries as along as he loves her, she is nice and good person, etc.<\/p><\/div>\n<p><\/p>\n<div>My son says, at least they are offended by something. I wonder how they will feel when their non-Jewish grandchildren are baptized in church?<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><!--adsense--><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Chumi Friedman blogs: The following question was submitted to the about.com forum on Judaism: &quot;Dear Rabbi, We are not religious but our son was raised as a Jew and had both a (reformed) rabbi and priest perform his wedding ceremony. &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=3040\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[31],"tags":[4707,8285,3535,8286,8288,2126,1756,8287,721,29773,722,700,2238],"class_list":["post-3040","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-judaism","tag-blogs","tag-chumi","tag-consequences","tag-first-thought","tag-friedman","tag-girlfriend","tag-good-person","tag-grandchildren","tag-jew","tag-judaism","tag-quot","tag-rabbi","tag-wedding-ceremony"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t<!-- All in One SEO 4.9.10 - aioseo.com -->\n\t<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Chumi Friedman blogs: The following question was submitted to the about.com forum on Judaism: &quot;Dear Rabbi, We are not religious but our son was raised as a Jew and had both a (reformed) rabbi and priest perform his wedding ceremony. 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