{"id":22605,"date":"2010-08-20T12:17:19","date_gmt":"2010-08-20T20:17:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=22605"},"modified":"2010-08-20T12:17:19","modified_gmt":"2010-08-20T20:17:19","slug":"is-frugal-sexy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=22605","title":{"rendered":"Is Frugal Sexy?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve always been careful with my money. I&#8217;ve never had a lot of it. <\/p>\n<p>So, is frugal sexy?<\/p>\n<p>For the overwhelming majority of women, frugality in a man is not attractive.<\/p>\n<p>For most men, frugality in a woman is a good trait for a potential spouse.<\/p>\n<p><A HREF=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2010\/08\/21\/your-money\/21money.html?pagewanted=1&#038;_r=1&#038;hp\">Ron Lieber writes<\/a>:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cMy suspicion is that the value of frugality depends on whose money will presumably be spent,\u201d said Reuben Strayer, 34, a physician in Manhattan who does not broadcast his profession or true income in online personals. He always pays for the first date and does not object to providing for a wife one day, he adds; he just doesn\u2019t want to attract the kind of woman who is specifically looking for someone who will do so.<\/p>\n<p>But even if many men still make more money than women and are wary of mates who would want them to spend it, they may not want to advertise it. \u201cFrugality may or may not have anything to do with how much he loves you,\u201d said BJ Gallagher, 61, an experienced online dater and author of several self-help books for women. \u201cBut for a lot of women, love looks like \u2018Take care of me and give me things.\u2019 \u201d <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve always been careful with my money. I&#8217;ve never had a lot of it. So, is frugal sexy? For the overwhelming majority of women, frugality in a man is not attractive. 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