{"id":2260,"date":"2008-02-14T17:19:38","date_gmt":"2008-02-15T01:19:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=2260"},"modified":"2010-04-09T09:32:08","modified_gmt":"2010-04-09T17:32:08","slug":"i-want-to-rescue-orit-arfa-from-spinsterhood","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=2260","title":{"rendered":"Orit Arfa: They"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.jewishjournal.com\/home\/preview.php?id=18940\">Orit Arfa writes this singles column for the Feb. 14, 2008 issue of the Jewish Journal<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\nNote to men: Flattery always works. He got my full attention. He introduced himself as Guy, and, with my full blessing, began to psychoanalyze me. He told me that I looked out of place and that my demeanor was unapproachable, intimidating, even condescending. I agreed that at times I can be snobby, so he advised me to start giving people a chance, to stop judging people superficially. He announced that he has special intuitive powers &#8212; it runs in his Tunisian family &#8212; and that he could foresee that if I didn&#8217;t lower my dating standards, I&#8217;d end up very alone. He took his forecast a step further by telling me that if he were to take me out to dinner, he&#8217;d have to put on &quot;boxing gloves&quot; &#8212; for I&#8217;m not easy &#8212; but he&#8217;s ready for the challenge. I&#8217;m not necessarily his physical type, but I intrigued him. \n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Hmm, maybe I should put on a disguise and fly to Jerusalem and rescue Orit Arfa from spinsterhood.<\/p>\n<p>I think my only chance with Orit is to cozy up to her parents, loyal Luke Ford readers (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.lukeford.net\/essays\/contents\/hillel_harkham.htm\">Carmalith Arfa worked at Harkham Hillel for 25 years<\/a>).<\/p>\n<p>Many rabbis wonder how I can make love to so many different women on my website.<\/p>\n<p>Well, the Torah helped me overcome my fears of intimacy to the point where I can now court two women at once, Baruch HaShem!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Orit Arfa writes this singles column for the Feb. 14, 2008 issue of the Jewish Journal: Note to men: Flattery always works. He got my full attention. 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