{"id":22473,"date":"2010-08-15T19:24:23","date_gmt":"2010-08-16T03:24:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=22473"},"modified":"2010-08-15T19:25:57","modified_gmt":"2010-08-16T03:25:57","slug":"sending-icebreakers-on-frumster","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lukeford.net\/blog\/?p=22473","title":{"rendered":"Sending Icebreakers On Frumster"},"content":{"rendered":"

So I just tried out Frumster<\/a> for the first time.<\/p>\n

I used these search criteria: Age 25-45, anything goes. Divorced with kids, never married, whatever.<\/p>\n

I can’t believe how much anxiety I am feeling. It was like being at an Orthodox singles mixer.<\/p>\n

Orthodox life is very close. If this was a dating website filled with non-Jewish women, I’d feel little anxiety. If we dated and it didn’t work out, no big deal because we don’t belong to the same community.<\/p>\n

I’ve never dated an Orthodox woman. I’ve dated a lot of secular Jews and secular shiksas. <\/p>\n

Well, I took some deep breaths and sent out about six icebreakers. I didn’t feel like writing out a whole email to these women. I just sent an “icebreaker” which links to my profile:<\/p>\n

Frequency of Torah Study: daily
\nFrequency of Tefilah: three times daily
\nKippa: suede\/leather kippa
\nTzitzit: always<\/p>\n

What Carlebachian means to me:
\nCarlebach-style is about the only style of davening that I consistently enjoy! Carlebach means Judaism with joy.<\/p>\n

Geez, what a catch I am!<\/p>\n

Describe yourself: I was born in Australia in 1966. I moved to California with my family in 1977. I am a big fan of Dennis Prager, Joseph Telushkin, Marc B. Shapiro, David Schnarch. I am fascinated by all forms of Judaism. I’m a big believer in psycho-therapy and personal growth. <\/p>\n

Describe the woman you are looking for: I love people who laugh. Somebody with a sense of humor is always smart and more fun for me to be with. I’m looking for someone who wants to take what I have to give — laughter, learning, reliability, dedication, hard work, safety, intimacy. <\/p>\n

Where does my anxiety come from? It comes from my lack of confidence. If I had just inked a big book deal or TV deal, I am sure I’d feel differently, but I live hand-to-mouth in a hovel, which keeps me humble and anxious. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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